I think I want another baby...!

[J_Anne]

I'm not really sure why I'm posting! I'm 28, married for nearly 2 years and our daughter is nearly 11 months old. She is a dream with everything, an absolute pleasure to be with. I loved pregnancy and labour, and from the day she was born I knew I wanted to do it all over again. I've always wanted a couple of years between babies but these last few weeks I've got an overwhelming urge to be pregnant again.

The only thing is I'm worried that's all the urge is for, to be pregnant, not for another baby..does that make sense? I can't even imagine having 2 to look after, my daughter is my world and I hate the thought of something altering our relationship. But I know I want more children so it will happen eventually and is it ever going to feel manageable to have another?!

I'd had in my head we would start TTC in July as I'm still BF at bedtime so that would give her chance to wean at 12 months then give me chance to get my body sorted a bit! That would be the sensible thing to do...

Im not expecting anyone to have the answer for me btw, I just needed to say it out loud, so to speak!!x

 

[Mrs M]

My daughter got to 1 and I also needed to be pregnant again! I waited until she was 18 months and got pregnant first time! I couldn't believe my luck! The second pregnancy was fine (easier than the first for me as I had pre eclampsia in the last month), it was my feelings of guilt that put a bit of a dampner on things! But she took to her little brother better than I ever could have expected and they both equally love each other now! My little boy is 20 months and I fighting the urge to get pregnant now!! I would love another baby, but I know I want to wait an extra year so we have a slightly bigger gap. I am very excited though, and this year I'm gonna get myself into better shape and just enjoy being a mam to my 2 beauties!

 

[J_Anne]

Thank you Mrs M, would you say its a nice gap you've got between your 2? Have you ever thought you should have had number 2 earlier?

I constantly worry that my little girl won't have any family her own age as hubby is an only child and my only sibling isn't even in a relationship so not much hope of a cousin for her there!! I don't want her to miss out on having playmates at hand!

 

[MayBMore]

Hellooo glad you've joined us

I would just like to say that over the past week I've been incredibly broody but feel that the obsessive urge is wearing off a little now. I'm blaming mine on coming off the pill 2 weeks ago and everyone around me being due to have a new born..so it's took over my brain hehe. Is there a reason you can think of that you feel like this now, has it been on your mind for a while or is it out of the blue? I think us ladies have a lot of hormonal-ness going on to contend with sometimes and it can take over and can be frustrating if in two minds.

I'm personally having a bit of an experiment off the pill, see if I am still the same in a few months, if the urge waxes and wanes then I'll know what to expect and be able to cope with waiting until we are sensibly ready....if I continuously feel like this tho then I might have to let my body win, listen to it and get cracking for TTC..we will see! x

 

[J_Anne]

Hi Stacey! It's not out of the blue, within a week of having my daughter, I wanted to be pregnant again but I managed to be sensible about it for a few months because I just wanted to enjoy her, I still do! Im not using any contraception so any hormones are my own!!

When do you think you'll be sensibly ready?!x

 

[MayBMore]

Hey ooh that's exiting then you sound pretty sure Fingers crossed a new little bundle for you soon . My O/H and I have decided that it would be better if our first little lady was a tadge older (she's nearly 9 months) and I have a new job starting soon, I'm still on mat leave for my (old) current job which I have to go back to for 3 months, otherwise I'll owe all my maternity pay eeeesh! I figured I won't qualify for new maternity pay until Dec/Jan which is zillions of miles away and I would rather not start a new job pregnant :/. The problem is I'm broody now - Yep dilemma ha! x

 

[J_Anne]

That definately makes sense, work wise. You've just reminded me of another reason to wait, my husband has just started a new job, so we should wait until he's passed his probation and until he qualifies for paternity And we're moving house in the next few weeks...! So many reasons not to, why is your heart so much stronger than your head?! Hehe! X

 

[Mrs M]

Hi

I didn't like my age gap at all which is why I'm waiting until December/January time to TTC! They were at too different stages to do anything with! I think 6-9 months shorter or longer gap would have been perfect for us!

And also, if you were to leave your job without returning, you would only have to pay back any occupational mat pay - anything over and above SMP - this is paid by the government and you're entitled to that whether you return to work or not! Not sure if that would help you make up your mind?

 

[MayBMore]

Thanks Mrs M I didn't realise that about SMP. I'm def going back for 3 months as still can't afford to pay the occupational mat pay back. It's annoying, I'd much rather be starting my new job sooner

 

[Sonas]

Our DD is only 8 weeks and I'm itching to TTC again, I must be insane! I ran it by SO and he's said we'll discuss it when she turns 1. My age is a factor too, I'm about to turn 37. I'd love a summer baby next time around and want to be done having babies by the time I turn 40. We were very lucky, conceived DD the second month trying, may not be as lucky next time around. I'd hope to try for #2 in September of next year. We'll see, time will tell.