I need advice some advice about my dog

[mrs_tommo22]

I got danny a couple of weeks before Christmas and it turned out he was Mias brother and we were very excited to have him join the family.

Hes gone from bad to worse though over the last week. Tommo got up a few nights ago to find dog poo on the carpet, then this mornng it was a massive puddle of pee. All he seems to do at the moment is ruin something in my house and on the damn carpet!
He now refuses to come in from outside when i call him - its like he thinks im going to beat him. All i have done is be patiant and love him and gove him the care he needed.

Hes also getting worse with my other half and the kids - getting very intolerant and jumpy and im at the end of my tether.

I hate to say it but im thinking of calling the RGT where i got him from and sending him back because i dont think he can cope with our home life and the kids and oh. I have no doubt he loves me as he did this morning when he came over for a fuss and it makes it harder and makes me feel awful even thinking of getting rid.

What would you do?

 

[VickiH]

Well... I love dogs and would never give up on one so I'd put effort into training him! You don't say how old he is or how many walks he's getting a day but it's very early days in terms of him living with you and there's a good chance he's pushing boundaries at the moment to see how far he can push you!

I think being blunt, the question is are you willing and able to put the time into turning his behaviour around? If not you may as well give him up as he'll only end up trashing your house and driving you mad!

 

[mrs_tommo22]

Well... I love dogs and would never give up on one so I'd put effort into training him! You don't say how old he is or how many walks he's getting a day but it's very early days in terms of him living with you and there's a good chance he's pushing boundaries at the moment to see how far he can push you!

I think being blunt, the question is are you willing and able to put the time into turning his behaviour around? If not you may as well give him up as he'll only end up trashing your house and driving you mad!

with all due respect i have a greyhound already. i walk them at 5am and again at 6pm they have a hour every single daym, are let off their leads to race. Hes 2.

He has been beaten by his previous trainer and is scared of my oh - because hes a man. I go outside with him when he has done his business, praise him, give him treats and have done this consistantly and hes getting worse.

I cant put up with him pissing all over my carpet - it stinks and is unhygienic and i cant let my baby play in the lounge today because the floor wet.

Is it fair to keep him when hes scared of my oh and isnt getting better?

 

[Manda&Thomas]

i personaly would give him back hun
when bob (my greyhound) started pooing and pee'ing in the house he never broke the habit again my dad ended up ripping all the carpets up as he just ruined them and his behaviour got worse he suffered really badly from seperation anxiety and so if we went out he would chew threw walls even though he wasnt shut in 1 room.

with the kids and your other one i really dont think its fair on them as you dont want your other dog picking up these bad habits
maybe give them a ring and see what they say

 

[mrs_tommo22]

Im goingb to call her and im devasted, i love dan and he does me. But is it fair that hes scared of tommo all the time - the accidents dont happen unless tommos home. He great during the day.

 

[Suzie and Faith]

Can the people you got him from help you work out what to do?
Are they able to train him at all? Or give you any advice?

Hugs hun, it must be hard but you have to do the best for you and your family xxxxxxxxxxxxx

 

[mrs_tommo22]

Right ive just given her a call and she thinks there is something that can be done about it - shes going to call a expert and give us help as im desperate to keep him as hes my baby. But there is hope.

Just got to rip up the damn carpet and sort that first as its ming!

 

[jools221181]

Right ive just given her a call and she thinks there is something that can be done about it - shes going to call a expert and give us help as im desperate to keep him as hes my baby. But there is hope.

Just got to rip up the damn carpet and sort that first as its ming!

That is good to hear hun

 

[Suzie and Faith]

I'm so glad she might be able to help xxxxxx

 

[ninjawomble]

Hope shes able to help hun

 

[happy-chick]

Personally I could never get rid of an animal unless there were very unhappy or my family was in some kind of danger, I could never forgive myself and would feel like a failure but thats just me. He obviously needs time spending to sort out his behaviour as he's been abused in the past and I understand how frustrating it is when your trying your best but try to remember its not his fault Its good that they are sending someone to help you to try that first.

I know you really dont want to have to get rid of him and only you know your home situation and only you can make that deicison for you and your family.

 

[poochielove]

I remember feeling like this a few times Knocker my grey is also petrified of old men in hats so he couldnt be around my grandad and jumps around in circles on a walk if he sees an old man. I have had him for 3 years now and he has improved so much, he now wags his tail when when he sees people he knows (old men or not) it just takes him a really long time to get to know men. Bloody trainers have ALOT to answer for!

As for the peeing, is something scaring him? The reason i ask is Knocker got really bad seperation anxiety (which is the reason he sleeps in the bedroom now ) he couldnt be left downstairs at night to sleep (piss n poop EVERYWHERE) or at night...although was fine in the day . Anyway if he heard so much as a bang of a door from next door or a car backfiring he would pee/poop where he was standing (particulary fireworks). He once pee'd on the bed and i didnt realise till i got in it . He also sometimes does this at night as he is too lazy to go out in the cold! Also he can't go very long without being kicked outside to go to the toilet, he is only 7 but cant seem to hold it for very long anymore.

Last thing to suggest is the vets? Maybe he has something wrong in the toilet department i dunno all out of ideas, all i know is Knocker pretty much rectified his own problems once we got Blue who is much more out going and seemed to help him settle down. Although he is still mega anxious.

I hope you get it sorted

 

[mrs_tommo22]

I remember feeling like this a few times Knocker my grey is also petrified of old men in hats so he couldnt be around my grandad and jumps around in circles on a walk if he sees an old man. I have had him for 3 years now and he has improved so much, he now wags his tail when when he sees people he knows (old men or not) it just takes him a really long time to get to know men. Bloody trainers have ALOT to answer for!

First of all thank you for replying! I thought you might have a better idea being a fellow grey lover! This is our problem, danny has obviously been beaten - you should see the scars on his legs He has a issue with men and my oh inparticular and its sad and disheartening for me and oh. Dannys so lovely and has some great moments when its just me and thr kids at home. If i ever meet this trainer at the tracks i swear to god il beat him and see how he likes it. My poor dog wet himself today he was so frightend - ie why the carpet needs replacing.

As for the peeing, is something scaring him? The reason i ask is Knocker got really bad seperation anxiety (which is the reason he sleeps in the bedroom now ) he couldnt be left downstairs at night to sleep (p*ss n poop EVERYWHERE) or at night...although was fine in the day . Anyway if he heard so much as a bang of a door from next door or a car backfiring he would pee/poop where he was standing (particulary fireworks). He once pee'd on the bed and i didnt realise till i got in it . He also sometimes does this at night as he is too lazy to go out in the cold! Also he can't go very long without being kicked outside to go to the toilet, he is only 7 but cant seem to hold it for very long anymore.

The peeing i swear happens when hes scared, nervous - he picks up on moods so easily. We actually live in a bungalow so the bedroom door is always open as Mias bed is in there (can fit them both but she likes it to herself ) so dannys is in the kitchen which is right next too our bedroom. He has a wander in and out and is generally loads better at night thrn he was before. Mia asks to go to the loo, iw whining crying till one of us wakes up and lets her out and danny will go too. They also have ten mins at night to relieve themselves as i leave the backdoor open while I get ready for bed. No issues with the weather - he will go out whatever the weather and stay out there - i have to go out and chase him in sometimes!

Last thing to suggest is the vets? Maybe he has something wrong in the toilet department i dunno all out of ideas, all i know is Knocker pretty much rectified his own problems once we got Blue who is much more out going and seemed to help him settle down. Although he is still mega anxious.

I have spoke to Barbara which runs my local RGT and she is ringing someone as she was pretty vague and said there is something they can give him. Not sure what but i hope she rings me back soon.

Thanks for replying poochie

I hope you get it sorted

 

[LouF]

Hi Sarah,

it sounds to me like you are doing all the right things regarding walks and letting him out, and I think that ringing the trust for help was a great idea and hopefully they can help you. It sounds like Danny has had a pretty rough start to his life and hopefully with your love and help from the trust and a bit of time he will come good. It's hard but I think you will crack it, at least your looking for help and not just giving up.

The vets might be an idea as poochie says he may have bladder weakness or they might be able to give him something for his nerves till he settles a bit and can get himself in to a routine that suits all of you.

I have a collie bitch and I love her to bits, she was a rescue but I was lucky in that I got her young and she hadn't been harmed. She is seven now and a fab little dog.

I would def recomend a rescue but like you are finding sometimes they can be a hell of a lot of work but the rewards are brill as you know with your other dog, you will get there in the end x x

Good luck hun and hope things get better for you and Danny x x x x

 

[Jen & Her Men]

aw hun sorry to hear about your doggie. I hope the suggestions work

I know how you feel, we have finally decided to give up our two westies after debating it and changing our minds time and again for the past 12 months.

Its just not fair on them as they dont get walked enough and I cant walk 2 dogs with my SPD or when bubs is here - can you imagine me, 2 babies and 2 dogs?! It would be chaos!!

So we are going to give them to a loving home who can walk them daily and give them the attention that they need.

Really hope things work out for you and doggy.

 

[mamichuli]

Aww hun i am so sorry this is happening to you, I am just wanting to tell you there is hope! I had exactly the same thing happen to me about ten years ago with my dog Queenie - she was a stray - she adopted me on the street I took her to all the vets and she had no chip. Thing is altho she followed me home she was terrified of me, we reached the conclusion that she had been mistreated by a woman before she ran away...but i did become her friend, with a lot of patience on my part - is Tommo willing to be part of training him? thing is if he is afraid of him he really should participate - there is a fine line there to be trodden for him. He has to know that you two are boss, but that neither of you will hurt him

With patience it is possible - my dear Queenie became a lovely happy dog but it took the best part of a year to get her to understand two things a) that i wasnt the enemy and b) that she couldnt have my half of the bed - she adored my ex!!! If he went to bed before me (common occurrence) she would take my side of the bed and refuse to get off - even growling at me when i shoved her off - but she never once bit.

Lisa

 

[mrs_tommo22]

Hi ya girls and thank you for all the replies i have recieved!

Getting rid if him wasnt part of the plan, my oh suggested it after the piss on the floor this morning and at the time i was like oh the ******* as you do!

As i said ive done all i can currently - until RGT get back to me all i can do is sit and wait.

Not getting rid of him unless he bites or worse.....though that wont happen im sure.

 

[muppetmummy]

I hope the RGT are able to help. Don't feel bad if he does need to be rehomed though, maybe he needs a home with a single woman and no kids.
I hope you can sort something out

 

[helsekia]

hope you can get something sorted,can tell you really love him

 

[LilysMummy]

Hey hun first of all

Hopefully the RGT can get somebody out to you. The assigned us a "care worker" for sally so if we had any problems we could call her and she would come over / call and go through our problems.

Cant write as much as Id like atm, but regarding the medication we had some for Sally which kinda work.

Will type more later chick hope your ok