I just found out one of my friends is pregnant

[charliesmissing]

and she didn't even tell me, i found out through facebook. It's not fair. how come it's so easy for some and for others it's hell. Sorry for posting this, but am feeling really down and negative today. Am convinced i'm out for this month, still it's not over till the witch comes in on her broomstick.

 

[MissJuly10]

Aw hun. Did she know you're TTC? If so, she might have been waiting for the right time to tell you?

I don't have any helpful advice, just hugs. x x

P.S. You're right - it's not over til the witch arrives! x

 

[Tracey M]

**big hug** maybe she was trying to be sensitive to you.....

 

[charliesmissing]

Thanks guys. Sorry, just feeling a bit down today and have got the plumbers in to fix the heating.

She knew we were TTC and have been for the past year She is one of the kind of people that wants a baby as either a fashion accessory or as some kind of social status thing.

 

[wannabmamma]

doesnt it just feel like when your TTC everybody around you seem to be pregnant

 

[maybe baby]

Luckily none of my friends are TTC yet, but I can imagine how you must feel.

Don't let it get you down though.

Good Luck and Babydust! xx

 

[LouiseB]

Facebook is evil.

I know what it is like to have a friend to get pregnant...

My friend got pregnant, had an ectopic, had an ovary and a tube removed AND got pregnant again and is now very healthily pregnant (thank god) in the time it took me to not even get a sniff of a BFP

lol - it's actually quite funny when i think about it, in a sadistic sort of way. Pass the gun someone.

 

[star fish]

It does feel like the world has kids or is pregnant when you are trying, it's like when you decide to buy a car suddenly everyone seems to have the make and model of the car you want, you see it everywhere (maybe that's just me as we had that when buying a car last year).

Sometimes i even get really depressed coming on this website because new people sign up, get a BFP a month later and move on and i think "but it wasnt your turn!!" (in a pathetic life's not fair voice)

Unfortunately when you've been trying as long as we have you do have to get a helmet and tough it out

 

[charliesmissing]

To add insult to injury it's due end of november and she's being all smug about it. And now i'm convinced i'm out, the wicked witch is making an appearence 2 weeks early!!!

 

[Piglet's Mama]

I've only been TTC for one cycle and I'm jealous of people who may be TTC in the next few months who may get a BFP before me LOL!
It's cause we all want it so much, irrespective of how long we've all been trying, having a baby means pretty much everything to most women!
We will all get there! Positivity is the name of the game x

 

[ScotchEgg]

My OH's suffered with this terrible - he's been broody for several years and waiting for me to catch up with him and in the mean time three of his friends have got girls pregnant accidentally - one in a relationship, one on a break and one with a girl he'd just met a few weeks earlier

 

[charliesmissing]

My OH's suffered with this terrible - he's been broody for several years and waiting for me to catch up with him and in the mean time three of his friends have got girls pregnant accidentally - one in a relationship, one on a break and one with a girl he'd just met a few weeks earlier

LOL. My OH is getting broody now we are starting to get on a bit. I'm 29 and he's 35 was talking to my mum and am thinking I really need to get a wriggle on as she went through the 'CHANGE' last year and she's 53. Next cycle i think i'm just going to have sex every other day reguardless of how tired we both are and maybe i'll get lucky.

 

[Binzy]

God, I know that feeling all too well..then once you start trying suddenly it's everyone's business and people are constantly asking 'so, when are you going to have a baby' as if you can just flick a switch or something. I'm sure if I started enquiring into other people's sex lives they'd think I was a bit rude but as soon as you get married it seems to be fair game!

 

[ScotchEgg]

I'm sure if I started enquiring into other people's sex lives they'd think I was a bit rude but as soon as you get married it seems to be fair game!

So true - it drove me up the wall - we were engaged at 23 and married at 24 - people were constantly passing judgement telling us we were too young and young marriages never last etc etc

As soon as we were married the same people were bugging us about whether we were pregnant yet. I managed to bite my tongue and not respond that they shouldn't want me to as I'd be breaking up with my husband soon.

We don't get it much any more - we've been married over three years and seeing as people seem to think that the only reason anyone would get married is so they can breed instantly most people are too scared to ask in case we are having any difficulties. It's the first time we've had any peace in half a decade!!!

Why do people think it's any of their business anyway???

 

[charliesmissing]

I know! talk about pressure! my mum has started blabbing to everyone that we are trying for one, even people I don't know. We haven't mentioned anything to OH's family. His mum will probably demand that I kill it. she really doesn't want another grandchild.

 

[traci]

I'm sure if I started enquiring into other people's sex lives they'd think I was a bit rude but as soon as you get married it seems to be fair game!

As soon as we were married the same people were bugging us about whether we were pregnant yet.

I get this nearly every day!! Especially at work and I cant say anything because I work with my mother in law. She doesnt know we're ttc and thinks we're too young etc etc. It drives me mad and I took it out on every one last week!! TO top it all, nearly everyone I know is pregnant and most of my old school friends have about 10 kids each!!

 

[ScotchEgg]

My OH's suffered with this terrible - he's been broody for several years and waiting for me to catch up with him and in the mean time three of his friends have got girls pregnant accidentally - one in a relationship, one on a break and one with a girl he'd just met a few weeks earlier

And another one...

I feel it a bit this time too - I want it to be us - I never dreamed we wouldn't catch first time - I thought we'd be quite a way by now.

OH was devastated. Luckily we found out by email as he's rubbish at hiding how he feels.

I feel terrible that I've made him wait so many years for this. We both know we were right to wait as I really really wasn't ready, but all these babies have been so hard on him and he's barely admitted it to me before because he didn't want me to feel pressured.

I feel physical pain that I've put him through that. I just hope we can make something this month - I can't wait to see the smile on his face when we find out that we are.

 

[resku]

i was about to say that maybe she was being considerate towards your feelings but then again one wouldnt be broadcasting it on facebook if thats the case. Sorry you had to find out that way. But cheer up, just stay focus - instead of giving yourself a reason why you cant, give yourself reasons why you can =)

 

[weeemms1]

I feel the same way everyone of my friends is pregnant or already has 1-2 one of my friends is pregnant with her 3rd the now funny thou i een her yesterday downing a bottle of vodka with her bump showing and i have to go to dinner on Sunday to my grans and my aunty will be there and shes pregnant and i know i'm going to getthe whole when are you going to have a baby

My cousin is going to be a dad and my mum sent me a text saying life ain't fair how come my sister gets to be a gran before me then she said WHATS WRONG WITH YOU ARE YOU UNABLE TO HAVE KIDS

 

[serenitylove]

just wanted to say i was ttc for ten yrs befor i got my gorgoues girl i had every person i ever met get pregnant and it hurts like hell but keep at it dont give up because your time will come and it will be everything you imagined and all the more precious because of how long you took to get it xxxxxxx lots of baby dust for you xxxxxxx