I feel like a robot sometimes....

[Lexusno1]

Don't know if i'm how i feel is just or if im being a bit harsh on myself but I had a MC in June last year then fell pregnant again in the August.

I thought I was about 7 weeks pregnant but after bleeding I went for an emergency scan and they discovered there was a sac but no sign of life.

I was so cut up at the time as this was a planned pregnancy and wasn't expecting the worst to happen but I can't help but notice a lot of you on here have tickers about your previous miscarriages with dates and gestation and all sorts and I couldnt even tell you when I was meant to be due?

I simplified it in my head and made it very clinical in order to deal with it but I don't know if I ever actually dealt with it or if its just that everyone is different and this approach helped me to deal with it.

I feel so cold sometimes about it, especially when I tell people and they get all awkward and quiet and i'm like "No no, it's fine" and im not even the tiniest bit cut up about it. Am I weird? Is this normal do you think?

 

[Miss]

You are completely normal hun.

Everyone has dfferent coping methods.

Don't compare yourself to others...you are you! xx

 

[pinkymum]

You are completely normal hun.

Everyone has dfferent coping methods.

Don't compare yourself to others...you are you! xx

Amen to that

*hugs*


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[Lou_1]

I had an eptopic last year and a mc the year b4 that i like feel cold about it as i dont think about when the child would have been due or anything but thats the way i have to deal with it to manage i think if i thought about things to much like due date the sex and so on id be a mess and my son whos 5 prob would have suffered the most as id be an emotional wreck. Everyone is so different you deal with things they way you can manage the best. Dont feel wird at all hun xx

 

[Lexusno1]

I do agree with you, I shouldnt compare myself to others and know that people have different ways of coping. It's just very different to how I cope with most things in my life and felt as though I was being a bit harsh as because it seemed to be over before it even got started (no heartbeat ever detected) i didnt get caught up in the prospect of what it could have materialised into if you know what I mean.

@Lou_1 i'm glad i'm not the only one and others have felt the way I did. I was hoping it was just my way of coping with things and I have dealt with it and not just been in denial the whole time and brushed it under the carpet. Like you, I have a 4 year old son and I just felt so blessed to have him adn although it was unfortunate, it wasn't the end of the world, look at me now, nearly 25 weeks!

xx

 

[Lou_1]

ye dont worry i look at it exactly as u do hun xx

 

[jodied]

I agree with everyone else. Not been through it myself but everyone has different coping mechanisms and deals with life's trials in different ways so don't feel concerned if you think you are dealing with it in a different way; that's down to you x

 

[amandapanda]

I had a miscariage in May last year and I'm the same as you Lex....I know I was due at the end of Jan but I can't remember the exact date. With me I only knew about the pregnancy for a week before I lost it, so even though for that week I felt so happy and excited and when I lost it I was in bits, the whole episode feels rather unreal....I guess especially as I got pregnant again quite quickly afterwards. I was devastated at the time, but I was very early on and like you I just rationalised it as 'there was something wrong with the embryo and it just wasn't meant to be'. I agree everyone copes differently so don't feel bad, you're certainly not the only one who has managed to move on without too many problems. The main problem I had was that for this pregnancy I was so scared the same would happen again and it took the joy out of the whole of trimester 1, but I know that's completely normal xx

 

[purplehippy]

I had a mmc and was operated on and had my baby cremated, devastated me that did.
Last year, same, but just walked away from it and didn't want to talk about it.

We're all different and we all handle things differently depending on the time and our headspace and stuff.

Yer normal cuz yer you.

 

[Lexusno1]

It's such a unfortunate yet common thing that happens. I didn't speak to many other women that had been through it at the time and at different stages in the pregnancy too but it helps me to know that some of you have felt the same way, makes me feel like less of a cold hearted woman!

Thank you all for sharing and reassuring me, means a lot xxxx

 

[Merfairy]

People cope in so many different ways; there is no wrong or right!!