I feel a bit mean

[BabyBrain]

For not feeling mean, if that makes sense. Basically, one of my brothers and his girlfriend announced that she's pregnant. Coming from a very child orientated family you'd think we would all be over the moon.......but no-one seems to be. Me least of all. It's not that I begrudge them their news, nor the little niece or nephew of mine that she's carrying......it's just that I can't freaking stand the woman!!!!!!!

She's spoilt, stroppy, and just generally unpleasantly childish. They have been "trying" for years apparently, well it was news to us seeing as at one point they were desperately homeless until mum took them both in (mum and dad are retired and have little money yet mum charged them nothing for staying there, they stayed for 18 months and got everything provided). She turned into a right bunny boiler with my sister and her boys, if one of them hurt themselves and went looking for his mum she'd stop him, sometimes forcibly, and tend to him (which made me very very angry) and then she'd ring my sister and her husband screaming abuse at them. It got to the point where I would only go round to mum's if she wasn't there just to keep the peace. And now she'll be round there on the ponce cos mum and dad have had a little windfall and I know she'll play the guilt trip on them.

Every new life in our family is as loved and cherished as all the others...but why oh why did my brother have to saddle himself with her???????? It's all going to go horribly wrong I just know it

 

[Nurse 26]

Ah, if only you could pick your future in-laws eh, my sis boyfriends is the same, dont get on with him at all. horrible thinking that she may be taking advantage of your parents like that too. I wouldnt feel bad for not being excited for them. On a brighter note though at least albert will have a little cousin of similar age.

xx

 

[BabyBrain]

Yeah I know, I have felt a bit bad for him that he's going to be the only baby with cousins at least 5 years older than he is. It's not so bad when they are 10 and 5 but when they turn 15 and 10 he'd be all on his own.

The baby might be the making of her, hopefully it will teach her not to be selfish, but I will be keeping a very firm eye on mum and dad's finances for a while. They've both sacrificed enough for us lot and they should enjoy their money themselves. Our baby has cost them nothing apart from what they have wanted to buy rather than feel obliged to iykwim

 

[Maria1977]

She sounds like a bit of a nightmare with how you describe how she was with your nephews and sister and husband

Hopefully motherhood might change her, but with the raging hormones throughout pregnancy I'd duck n cover lol

Least the LO will be coming into a loving and caring family hun xxxx

 

[BabyBrain]

Lol can you imagine the hormones, I didn't think of that