I dont if I can keep doing this, might give up trying

[glitzyglamgirl]

Im just sat at work trying so hard to not cry.

I got my AF sat and I tried to stay upbeat and positive, but the truth is im devastated.

16th time.

16 friggin months of waiting, hoping, wishing, and nothing.

I could concentrate on my career instead - atleast I know thats something I can do. I dont know if i'll ever get pregnant and in the meantime im holding off training and just doing the admin. I could be an approved inspector or a construction consultant, but ive put all that on hold while we try to get pregnant.

Will I look back in 5 years, when its too late to have a baby, and wish id not tortured myself with trying?

I just dont know how much longer I can stand this.

Sorry, im not after sympathy, I just needed to get this off my chest.

 

[Manda&Thomas]

aww hun there isnt much i can say really everyone says just relax it will happen when it happens
if i was in your shoes id wait till i had all my test results back then deside what you want afterall there is plenty of other ways to have children even if the worst does happen and you cant have your own you could always adopt or foster both are great options
sorry i cant say much more
manda x

 

[Saski1234]

Hi glitzyglamgirl

I know part of what you are feeling as it took me 2 years to get caught with my daughter. I too didn't think it would happen and had started having tests done at the hospital. Whether it was because I knew that something was being done to help me or because I had spent all our savings on having kitchen re done (ha ha) I relaxed and then got caught.

Hope it happens for you soon.
Sending lots of baby dust to you
Sarah x

 

[rachie29]

please don't give up hope. It does take some people time to concieve. you're taking all the right steps but dont put too much pressure on yourself GGG.

 

[lainey]

Hey GGG am the same 17 months tho, I feel like am torturing myself.

But i think alot of the problems iwht me is i bottle up my feelings which make me more depressed iv started an online blog kinda a diary to help me destress! Link below in my sig.

Regarding your job, go for those opportunities but dont stop trying, perhaps it will take your mind off everything going on and give you something good to look forward to, and you never know what might happen once your mind aint soley on ttc.

I feel like you some days i think whats the point?

Dont give up dont be defeated but go for the job opportunities.

 

[glitzyglamgirl]

Thanks for all the advice

I dunno, just one of those days I suppose, I'll probably have a good cry when I get home and then be back to normal

 

[Manda&Thomas]

i find crying sometimes helps just let it all out it will amke you feel beter then go eat loads of choccie hehe
manda x

 

[MissGobby]

awwww hun im so sorry you feel like this it must be so hard for you and frustrating but i am sure that soon you will get your BFP!

sending you lots of hugs darlin

 

[skairdykat]

I Really don't know what else to add to what everyone else has said.

Please don't give up hun. You'll get there in the end I'm sure of it. If you ever want to talk or just vent email me at [email protected]

Take Care xxx

 

[minxie]

GGG...don't give up babe. I dont know about your tcc background, but have you tried IVF? If its not an option for you or you have tried it..sorry, Im just trying to suggest things hun.

From all your posts and your great contribution to the forum...its so clear that you deserve that baby, really want it and are ready for it. Im no expert...but do you think thinking about it so much may be hindering you? Going for the job opportunities is a positive thing...something else to focus on. I have read how so many women fall pregnant when they were not concentrating on tcc. You probably know this advice anyway...and its so hard to not think about the whole 'tcc'/'2ww' thing when you want that baby so much.

Sorry if the above is amateur advice....You are on here advising and supporting so many of us on a daily basis and I just read your post and my heart went out to you.

 

[Becs]

Glitzy

Chase all of your dreams and if that means more than one at a time then go for it. You're the Glitzy Glam Girl there's nothing you can't do!!!

Keep charting you'll be glad to be able to compare charts month on month. But a change of focus may not hurt. There's some really sound advice on this thread. But what I can see more thatn anything else is just how many people you've touched! Speacial people like you deserve everything they wish for.

Hang in there, it's your turn soon

 

[glitzyglamgirl]

OMG thank you girls, I had no idea I was thought of in that way, Im going to have to go to the loo and cry now lol

I think your all right, and maybe im just thinking about it tooo much?

We have discussed IVF and yes we will do that if needs be, but weve only just started investigating is something is wrong with me or not. I hope there isnt. I had very bad PID after having my youngest so theres a chance ive got scarring, or maybe its just taking its time.

*shrug* who knows.

I do feel better for talking about it, I guess I always feel a little like this each time the disapointment comes but its so amazing to have you lot, you lovely lovely stars, to come and offload on.

Thanks to all of you

 

[Manda&Thomas]

aww hun u deserve everythign you are great always answering my questions and helping me with my silly little things
manda x

 

[MissGobby]

yeah i agree with Manda - you always answer our questions, make us feel better when we are down etc. your brilliant - one of the first people i spoke to when i joined here and you made me feel so welcome -

 

[budge]

Im just sat at work trying so hard to not cry.

I got my AF sat and I tried to stay upbeat and positive, but the truth is im devastated.

16th time.

16 friggin months of waiting, hoping, wishing, and nothing.

I could concentrate on my career instead - atleast I know thats something I can do. I dont know if i'll ever get pregnant and in the meantime im holding off training and just doing the admin. I could be an approved inspector or a construction consultant, but ive put all that on hold while we try to get pregnant.

Will I look back in 5 years, when its too late to have a baby, and wish id not tortured myself with trying?

I just dont know how much longer I can stand this.

Sorry, im not after sympathy, I just needed to get this off my chest.

stop trying and you'll get caught
seriously you may be trying to hard. my mum was the same when she was trying for her first. it took her nearly two years and the doctor told her to stop trying and have a break. she did and got preggas straight away! then went on to have 5 kids!

 

[glitzyglamgirl]

oh stop it girls im getting embarassed now

*secretly smiles as everyone loves a compliment*

Thank you

 

[Fingers crossed]

don't give up hope GGG you'll get there. At least wait for your test results before doing anything. Good luck hon

 

[smurf]

Don't give up completely stop trying for a while concentrate on other things go for the job improvement if you get more money now you'll get better maternity leave and it will hopefully take you mind off trying. I think defintely listen to what the girls have said maybe you are trying too hard sounds strange I know but there are a few girls on here that when they stopped trying they caught. Maybe your body needs a break from the stress you are under. I really hope your results all come back with nothing wrong. Thinking of you. take care.

 

[Grace.]

Hi GGG,

Please don't give up,

Everybody on this thread has given you lots of good advice. I agree with not putting things on hold while TTC at the end of the day if your training you can always put it on hold when you become pregnant. Having something else to focus on as well might take your mind off TTC and it could just happen.

Sending you lots of hugs

 

[glitzyglamgirl]

Thanks hun, Im feeling loads better today. much more positive. Ive decided that im going to start my training, just have to decide what in now! Think I'll pop over to off topic and get some opinions

Thank you everyone for making me smile