breezee1984
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someone in another foirum actually SAID this to me
"the reason so many people don't know what to say is because no one on here (as far as I know) is a professional therapist. From what I've read, everyone on here has been as supportive as they could be of someone online. You need professional help. I'm not saying your crazy, I'm saying you need someone who can be there for you on a regular basis and help you through the grieving process. I'm not sure what you want people here to say. You need to see a grief couselor.
You say that your life isn't fair, but you also aren't being fair to yourself. I don't think you understand how common miscarriages are. I understand they were babies to you, and that's fine, but really, for all anyone knows, they could have been embryos which had mis-matched chromosomes and so COULDN'T have developed properly anyway.
You've also mentioned your financial situation, so maybe this was a blessing in disguise. Get your money straight, and then work on loving YOURSELF for a while. I agree with whoever said you are putting WAY too much pressure on this future child. Of course having a baby would make you happy, but you have to think about that child's needs first. You don't have to be rich to raise a kid, but you should at least have health insurance and a stable income"
insensitive people piss me off...and the funny thing is, i have the best insurance ever...these people are dumb, although i did sob for an hour after reading this
"the reason so many people don't know what to say is because no one on here (as far as I know) is a professional therapist. From what I've read, everyone on here has been as supportive as they could be of someone online. You need professional help. I'm not saying your crazy, I'm saying you need someone who can be there for you on a regular basis and help you through the grieving process. I'm not sure what you want people here to say. You need to see a grief couselor.
You say that your life isn't fair, but you also aren't being fair to yourself. I don't think you understand how common miscarriages are. I understand they were babies to you, and that's fine, but really, for all anyone knows, they could have been embryos which had mis-matched chromosomes and so COULDN'T have developed properly anyway.
You've also mentioned your financial situation, so maybe this was a blessing in disguise. Get your money straight, and then work on loving YOURSELF for a while. I agree with whoever said you are putting WAY too much pressure on this future child. Of course having a baby would make you happy, but you have to think about that child's needs first. You don't have to be rich to raise a kid, but you should at least have health insurance and a stable income"
insensitive people piss me off...and the funny thing is, i have the best insurance ever...these people are dumb, although i did sob for an hour after reading this