i am a terrible person

[Lilelephant]

My work colleague and friend had a little baby boy today and instead of skipping around screeching like everyone else I found myself locked in the bogs balling my eyes out. I know I am selfish

 

[toni64539]

Your not selfish and not terrible at all hun. I know soooo well how you feel and was doing the same thing last week when I found out my best friend is having a baby. I don't think it's nasty of us. It's just so hard to see others having their babys when ours feel further and further away, like it should be us. It gets so hard plastering on a smile and acting like your not bothered when deep down it's almost resentment and jealousy. Don't feel bad for feeling bad, it's a kind of grieving for the loss of not being in their position. Chin up chicken, don't be too hard on yourself

 

[Misstinkerbell]

Awww no youre not a horrible person! Its a natural reaction, my friend had a baby girl 6 months ago and i cried for days, i just couldnt face going to see her. Not only that, every time i see a pregnant woman i get so jealous and just think "why isnt that me?"!
I dont know your situation but i do know how you feel!
Im sending you lots and lots of baby dust and if you need to chat to someone in the same boat as you then im here!!
Kimberley!!xx

 

[Crimson92]

i was so jealous and angry when my OH cousin got pregnant, then decided to get rid! so im evil to say that i was slightly pleased at that, then I got pregnant, and found out shes keeping it !! x

 

[xshauna_bazx]

Your not a terrible person hun, its normal for someone who is TTC don't think that x

 

[Vickyxx]

You have had a really shit*y time these past months so it is no wonder you didn't jump for joy... personally I think your work colleagues could have been a little more sensitive to you especially if they know what you have been through yourself.

Stay strong and try (I know it is hard) to be positive iot will happen hun for all of us x

 

[scandicmum85]

No you are absolute not a horrible person..! It is normal, its because you want a baby so much and its understadable..


When I was at hospital ( having m/c) I cried everytime I saw a pregnant woman.

One day it will be you having the baby!! xxx

 

[Binzy]

You're not horrible at all, when a girl in my office annouced she was pregnant I came home in a foul mood and cried. I so wanted to be happy for her but it was impossible.

 

[evie_smith]

Your not a horrible person at all! I remember when I was ttc my first it only took 7 an a half months till my bfp but I don't think I could stand it much longer! (I was told I would never have kids) I was so jelous and annoyed then annoyed at myself and resentful everytime I seen a pregnant lady or newborn clothes in the shop it's 100% understandable - a family member of my husbands has been trying for a baby for over 13-16 years now (lost count) she says if it happens but secretally I'm thinking of raising ivf money for her, or donating my eyes or surrogating for her - I hope you get the bfp you want soon hunni x x


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[clem]

Oh dear, I've just logged on and done a post about other peoples pregnancies on this forum. It must be the overwhelming desire to have one, but I really seem to see it everywhere - I mean everywhere! The bus stop at the end of my road has a massive poster of a pregnant women on it. My best friend, my brother and my sister in law are all due in September......... I'm going to crack up ...........

 

[Lilelephant]

Big hugs clem! It is so true tho it's everywhere and it feels everyone can have a baby but me,

 

[clem]

And massive hugs back to you hun, we'll get there! (and we'll have a jolly chat about it in the forum for first trimesters!!!) xxx000xxx

 

[Binzy]

God I can't wait till I'm in Tri one, at the moment it just seems like the impossible dream. I hope we can all get there soon and moan at our aches and pains instead of the lack of BFPs!