Jayneyjl0001
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Hi all, I have been with my husband for a long time and we married earlier this year. I have consulted my GP and decided to come off the pill after being on it for 12 years. I discussed this with my husband and well...it wasn't what I was expecting. He is happy to use condoms but doesn't want to try for a child. Not yet? Not ever? I'm not sure. In the past we have talked about having a child and although he did the usual blokey thing and laughed it off, he never said that he didn't want them...and he could tell I did. I am worried - he is saying things about the world not needing any more children, about it being selfish and about him worrying that he would be a poor father or wouldn't love the child. I have never heard this from him before and was not expecting it. He is very very hard on himself and lacks self-respect. However I always thought he'd be the best dad. He is great with his nieces and nephews. He knows how much I love children, surely he would have said something earlier if he really meant it.
I am happy to wait a bit but I don't know if I could never have a child, much as I love my husband.
Have any of your partners had cold feet or serious self- doubts before? Is it just a wobbly moment?
I am happy to wait a bit but I don't know if I could never have a child, much as I love my husband.
Have any of your partners had cold feet or serious self- doubts before? Is it just a wobbly moment?