How far will you go?

[Emmalt]

To have a baby. IVF, surrogacy or adoption.

I have ruled out surrogacy. Just not for me.

Not sure about IVF or other treatments. My husband is keener. He thinks we should have at least one go. I am not sure I want to go through the bitter disappointment if it doesn’t work. Also I am 37 so I feel like time is running out.

Adoption is a real option as my desire to be a mum is stronger than my desire to be pregnant if that makes any sense.

Cricky! This is deep and meaningful for a Saturday night!

 

[lauramumof2]

No, I can understand that. I was on the waiting list for ivf but never got too stressed because I knew one day I would have a baby but knew that if the ivf didnt work then that wasnt the end.
In the end I got pg myself.

You do what you think is best, you sound like you are swinging towards the adoption.

 

[Emmalt]

I am swinging towards adoption. I watched Who Do You Think You Are with Nicky Campbell the other night who traced his adopted Dad's family tree. It's the BBC's Family Wanted season and they showed three lovely boys who need a Mum and Dad. I was so tempted to pick up the phone and call.

 

[libs]

I've gone far enough with donation

We wouldn't be eligible for anything else thanks to DH's age. But if we were younger I would have considered adoption of an older child as well as TTC.

 

[muppetmummy]

I would have ivf, but I don't think oh would agree. He's only having another kid because I want one. He has no burning desire himself. Not that he won't be happy when I do get pg!
If I didn't already have James I'd adopt, definately.

 

[Vikky78]

Think i would try IVF. Not keen on adoption myself. I've got a couple of friends who were adopted, and i honestly don't think i could go through all the stuff about explaining that we weren't their biological parents and them wanting to find their real parents and maybe even being heartbroken if their parents weren't what they'd hoped. Don't think i could handle it emotionally personally. Think if it didn't happen for us it just wasn't meant to be, think i'd just have to gear myself (and my mum) up for us just going away and travelling lots and trying not to think about things i would be missing out on.

 

[Happybunny]

I wouldn't be keen on IVF at all. I am very keen to adopt, but my hubby says he wouldn't be able to love a child if he knew there was no biological connection That is soo sad, many people take on step children or adoptive children and love them as their own. Maybe he will change his mind

 

[Ginnymarie]

I would try IVF oh and adoption but my OH not keen on adption

i thought i had pelvic inflammatory disease not long back and i emotionally prepared myself...my sis who is gay and never wants to biological have a child - her partner is going to play the mother role said she would carry my baby and my partrners and be a very very special auntie, i wonder if this could work ?

xx

 

[glitzyglamgirl]

Im happy to give IVF a go, in fact anything aslong as the baby is mine and OH ie not a donor - I think its fantastic the option is there but I want a baby that is part of each of us physically, if that makes sense.

Saying that though, OH asked a little while ago if id consider adoption, and I have to say that if there was no way I could pregnant then I would consider it, its just at the moment I feel like thats not what I want - but you never know when minds can be changed

 

[Emmalt]

Hi Libs,

How old is your DH? There is no upper age limit as such for adoption. They prefer that there is no more than a 40 year gap between you and the child I think.

 

[jenna]

I dont think id do any of those.

 

[libs]

Hi Libs,

How old is your DH? There is no upper age limit as such for adoption. They prefer that there is no more than a 40 year gap between you and the child I think.

He's 54...so there would be a problem unfortunatly

 

[Mildly]

I'm not sure how far we'd go, OH has definitely mentioned he is up for IVF. I'm not sure surrogacy is something I would be up for. But adoption would be quite cool, although I don't think OH would go for that though.

 

[AnnaR2B]

IVF i would..i just want to be pregnant..feel a new life inside me...anything else won't do. its horrible thinking about it never happening though, but u just never know what mother nature has dealt.
Que sera...blimey i've turned into doris!!!

 

[mrs_tommo22]

If I had problems conciving then I would give IVF a go and if it didnt work out then i would definitely go for adoption.The urge to be a mum is strong within me and I couldnt care less where that child has come from, or what its back ground was, I know i could love them all the same as much as i love my my babies now.

 

[Babylicious]

we discussed it as i have diabetes and pcos - we would have adopted