How do you stay positive?

[Tick-Tock]

I'm having a really bad day today... I'm convinced its all going to go wrong again, I'm checking every little thing, my boobs don't seems as sore as yesterday, are they getting smaller again?

I promised myself that I'd stay positive but all I want to do is cry!!!! I know you aren't meant to have any symptoms until 6 weeks but I still convince myself its all going wrong!!!!

How can I pull myself back together?

 

[valentine]

Hi Tick-Tock,

I've no real advice, but I just wanted to say congratulations, I hadn't heard the news!

Please stay calm - I was terrified of things going wrong but just tried to take one day at a time - not much help really.

Take care honey

Valentine Xxx

 

[timsmom]

I think the very fact that your all over the place and feeling weepy is a great sign. I was in bits for the first few weeks. They had competitions at work to see who could make me cry first.

Have some baby glue and hang in there honey, everything's gonna be ok.

 

[happy-chick]

Said it in PM hun, be strong im sure all will be fine

 

[Tick-Tock]

Thanks guys,

I have had so many ups and downs today... I keep trying to tell myself that if something has gone wrong, no amount of worrying is going to change the outcome...

I think I'm more scared bacause last time I thought all was fine until 12 weeks when I was told it wasn't. I think I am panicking about another silent miscarriage...

I suppose I have to keep telling myself that it's too early for real symptoms and I won't really get any for a couple of weeks yet.... I guess, I'll feel better when I feel like crap!!!! now that sounds silly!

I've booked a docs appointment for thursday to confirm the pregnancy and get myself on the books, I think I really need the medical support at the moment! Not that they can do anything either, but it'll just make me feel better....

Thanks again
J
XX

 

[miffy]

Hi

Can't really help, but just wanted to say that I know how you feel, as I'm exactly the same. It's going to be a long 12 weeks just to get over the first hurdle! But fingers crossed we'll both get there

Are you getting an early scan or anything?

 

[Rosebay]

I'm not pregnant again yet but I can understand where you're coming from as I had a missed miscarriage at 10 weeks and so if I do get pregnant again I'm going to be worrying about whether it will happen again in the same way. I had all the symptoms as well and my bump had grown etc etc. I think I'll be paying for an early scan to be honest. Not that this is an answer to everything but just to see a heartbeat would help with the fear of the same kind of miscarriage I guess.

Have you tried any kind of visualization techniques, perhaps imagining yourself surrounded in a protective bubble or all wrapped in a soothing colour or something like that to try and calm your nerves. Sounds silly but it might be worth a go?

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[Manda&Thomas]

hey hun i went threw a missed miscarrage i was also very very scared it would of happened again so i did pay for a private early scan as i wasnt offered one
the thing that scared me most is that i lost more of my symtoms at 8 weeks but all was fine
i think every pregnancy we go threw is different so try to stay calm if something is different
manda xx

 

[Zobo]

hi hunny...

first of all congratulations on your pregnancy!

secondly.....i cant really say something that will make everything better, but please just try to stay calm, and take each day as it comes....

i know exactly how you feel, i m/c in may this year at 9wks... and now im almost 7wks pregnant and im starting to get a loo phobia as im scared that im gunna see spotting again like last time.....

i also keep feeling my boobs to check if there still hurting, every little twinge im like... OMG, am i m/c??

its sooooo hard not to think about it, it must be a natural feeling for every woman whos pregnant after m/c...... but im just trying to just go with the flow and stay as calm as i 'can'..... maybe when you go to your doctors, mention if you can have an early scan, due to your prev m/c....... ????

fingers crossed for you and everyone pregnant after m/c and also every pregnant women anywhere.....

 

[DaisyRose]

Congratulations on your pregnancy. I can really sympathise as I'm in the same boat (got my pos on Sunday). I'm comparing the symptoms to the pregnancies I had with my 2 girls, and then the one where I m/c constantly!! Sometimes I'm thinking, 'I think it's going to be ok because I can feel more stretching going on, and I'm tired' but other times I think 'I don't feel sick enough' or 'arggh, I've got some hair in my hairbrush' (hair never seemed to come out when I had the girls).

I'm only having slight nausea and smell aversions now (had them very prominantly very early in my first pregnancy, yet they didn't kick in until 7 weeks with the second). It's all very confusing really and I think I may drive myself crazy if I don't stop thinking about it!!

I think all we can do really is try and take it easy because whether we will m/c again or not has likely already been determined - I will keep running to the loo to check though, and I expect you will too!

All the very best of luck with your pregnancy.

 

[Tick-Tock]

Thanks for all your messages, I am feeling much more positive today!!!

I will get an early scan, my EPU said last time that I should get one at 7-8 weeks, and yes that should put my mind at rest.... I have to ring them directly when I am about 6 weeks.

I've not been to busy at work this week, so I have had time for my mind to wander, I'm going to make sure I'm busy for the next couple of weeks so I don't just sit there and think about it.

Thanks again
J
XX

 

[DaisyRose]

Keeping busy sounds like an excellent idea!!

 

[halle]

Hiya

I have just found out i am 5 weeks pregant, after having two blighted ovums in december 06 and july 07

i know exactly how you all feel as i am feeling very negative , however am lucky to know that i will also be offered an early scan once i have had a midwife appt and been referred through at about 7 weeks

its a waiting game and not a nice one x x

good luck to to you all

 

[DaisyRose]

Hi Halle,

All the very best and glad to hear you've been offered an early scan - I think every woman who was had more than one miscarriage certainly should.

I'm 6 weeks now and still feeling very nervous as m/c at this time in July.

All the best to everyone!

 

[Petra]

Hiya, i agree. Everyone after m/c should be offered an early scan. I have been asked to come for one once pregnant again.. Girls, fight for yourself and ask for one.. certainly your local EPU would do one for you..

 

[DaisyRose]

Hi,

I am definitely going to ask at my first antenatal appointment (which I haven't booked yet because I'm too scared I'll have to go through phoning up and cancelling it like I did last time!!). I think women who have had previous miscarriage/s should be offered an early scan at about 8 weeks!

 

[Steelgoddess]

Hiya hon, glad to hear your feeling more positive since you posted. Id love to say one day you will stop worrying but I think as a mum2b its quite natural all you can do right know is have hope that tings will be ok...

Sometimes i wish I had a majic wand for all your girlies...

hugs n kisses..


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