How do you beat the loneliness?

[MrsR]

So this last week I've had moments of intense loneliness. I'm great during the day, have lots of busy times with the children, which I love, but a couple evenings it's kinda got to me a bit. I guess it's the 'missing someone to share things with' stage. What do you do to combat that?

 

[Loula]

I know this feeling so well and it happens a fair bit but i find if theres something to entertain me im ok x

 

[HopesDreams]

I don't know what to do to combat it MrsR. I'm brilliant during the day with O. He keeps me busy, we get out plenty, we meet up with friends etc. but I struggle during the late evenings when I've put him to bed & there's nobody there to cuddle or tell about my day etc. I put O to bed & then I keep busy doing laundry, tidying, cleaning etc. so that I'm not sat alone for too long, if that makes sense?

 

[MrsR]

Yeah that makes sense. I've got my quilting at the minute to keep me busy but even then I miss just nattering away to someone if you get what I mean. It's not been too bad the last few days but sometimes I find I'm going to bed super early just to block it out.

 

[yuku]

Yeah that makes sense. I've got my quilting at the minute to keep me busy but even then I miss just nattering away to someone if you get what I mean. It's not been too bad the last few days but sometimes I find I'm going to bed super early just to block it out.

Are you a single mom or just single? i think i can cope with loneliness quite well, but it came to me sometimes that i want to share with someone so much about my personal subtle feelings and i cannot find no one. I cannot share it even with my boyfriend.

 

[Browneyed Girl]

Hi hun, I went through this when my husband left me -although I had no kids I was left to live in a house on my own that had always been shared. It was difficult at first but I was very determined that I could live alone and be fine (I'm very stubborn!) and I got to really enjoy it after a while. I would enjoy planning nice meals to have and always made the effort to cook a proper meal even though it was just for me - I felt that was important, I still deserved the effort! I would also make the most of being able to watch whatever I wanted or spend time on the computer or catching up with friends. I'm a bit OCD about housework so I even enjoyed cleaning the kitchen at night and then simply having a nice brew or glass of wine afterwards. I think the important thing is to take pleasure in the small things and you will find that time on your own can be nice. As you can't go out at night because of your lo I would make sure you're getting out regularly in the day and seeing family and friends. Hope this helps xx


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