How do you do it?

[LilyMac]

For those of you who have split from fob after baby is born, how do you get through it?
We split about 2 weeks ago (but it was officially over for good about a week ago), I know obviously it's gonna be hard for a while because it's so fresh but does it really get easier? I'm not struggling with LO or anything like that, I've done it all on my own mostly right from day one and we've got a good routine and he's a really pleasant happy child so I don't feel like I'm failing in that way. I just don't understand how you deal with all the emotion and hurt, one minute I'm fine and feeling strong and the next I'm in tears not knowing which way to turn.
It hurts so much, I know I'm doing the right thing but that doesn't make it hurt any less. I just feel so lost and confused and don't know what to do with myself.
I don't even know what I'm asking, I guess I just want to know how you girls stayed strong and what it took to get to where you are today.

 

[ZMD]

No advice Hun just wanted to send you a massive xx

 

[AugustMum]

Me and FOB have been on and off since LO was born and it was only a week ago that we said right, lets call it a day, because it just wasn't going to work out. Not because we didn't get on, but we had alot of history and we wanted different things in our futures.

You kind of get used to it. Its not easy, but you just deal with it. I have PND which doesn't really help things as sometimes I'm just a mess for a week and I feel so bad for my LO when this happens. I guess if you just keep on plodding through you'll figure out a solution thats going to work for you. You get into a routine of things and most of the time I actually think its easier being a single parent because you have yourself and your LO to look out for and thats it. Just you two against the world. It gets a bit difficult when you want to see friends without LO but you work around it.

I guess Im just trying to say it gets a bit easier with time. Sometimes you're going to have down days but thats alright...we're allowed them! Just keep thinking about your LO and give him lots of hugs xxx

 

[LilyMac]

Thanks girls, I honestly don't know what I'd do without you's. I know times a great healer etc but it just feels like it's goin so slowly, like I'm never gonna get there. I know I know, it's only been a week but it feels like I've struggled for so long with him that now were not together I shouldn't be struggling anymore. The whole idea of breaking up was so it would be easier but it's not x

 

[Lacey's Mummy]

Your be fine hun. Just think, everything Aiden learns is because of you! Be proud, you have such a handsome little boy and I know your be fine x x

 

[AugustMum]

Breaking up doesn't make it easier at all. Even though you've seen it coming and almost prepared yourself for it. When they finally leave and you just sit there and realise that this is it. Single Parent. Its a scary thing to hit home and it doesn't sink in for a long time.

Just take one day at a time. Thats the only thing I can say but nothing will make it easier. xxx

 

[Rosie's Mummy]

Just stay strong and remember that a time will come when you won't have the ups and downs of emotion - you will get there x

 

[Yodabo]

August mum is right, One day at a time. It's what got me through! I also had the help off my folks so if i needed a night out or whatever i was so gratefull for them to babysit (fob never had him). I needed it, i needed to get back out there and become me again and not just a mother. It honestly does get better and like Chaz said you'll be so so proud that you done it and you done it on your own too.

Besides...we're here for you too

 

[beckibooxx]

I Suppose the only thing that really helped me deal with it was my daughter, i think if i didnt have her my life would.. well be very hard for me, just gotta think of your Lil ones it really helps