I asked her not to buy this and.........

[lauramumof2]

My mum was talking about what to get jess when the baby came and said she would get her a doll so jess couls have a baby too. I said no, im quite against the idea of it looking like I have a new baby and so does she. It might confuse her, I have always spoke about the new arrival as our baby (our being me, stuart and Jess).

So.. yesterday, my mum took her for the day which was great and what did she get her, a doll that makes noises, goos gaas and looks like a baby. Now by the time I get there jess has had time to play with the doll and likes it and is calling it baby, my mum telling her its not a baby its a doll. But ggrrrrrr, the one thing I specifically asked her not to buy. She thinks because she got it out of a charity shop that it doesnt really count and how could she say no when jess pointed to it and wanted it.

Jessica wants everthing she sees

 

[Dee1985]

i have problems like this with my MIL, i tell her to not give dior sweets as im trying to cut down but sje does then i look like nasty mummy that dont

i have done the doll thing with Dior but it did work for me but Dior is younger then jess and she didnt understand and wanted to change Harley but this ment throwing him on the floor scratchin his eyes ect so a doll gave her a bum to change while i done harl, but now shes bigger she understands more which is better and all she likes to do is stroke him and say "ahhhhhhh arley" but doll was good for her to experiment on she soon realised poking eyes aint fun

 

[cassi]

Babesi know she went against what you said and that isnt good..and i can see where you are coming from. But from what i have seen in nursery it is very good (and most of the parents agree) for the children to play with dolls when they have a baby on the way. It helps them learn that they have to be gentle with them and gets them used to the idea of another baby around because they get a better sight into what it is like in my opinion it wont confuse her and it will do more good than bad for her.

I am not in any way saying what your mom did was right though. Your decision is yours and that is your child and she needs to understand that.

Please dont think im saying your point of veiw is wrong and mine is right. This is just my opinion and is just as valid as yours

cas xx

 

[lauramumof2]

It helps them learn that they have to be gentle with them
cas xx

she was giving the doll a horsy last nigth
Ive calmed down a bit, she loves the doll and I know what you are saying, it will teach her a bit, i was just a bit worried that she might think I dont love her as much and that she has to love the doll instead. But thats paranoia.

 

[Dee1985]

pmsl giving the doll horsy

If Dior cant get the dummy into her dolls mouth she hits its head on the floor. or shouts at it if she cant get the hat on its head

 

[cassi]

lmao!!!

dont be silly hun that wont happen!!!
she knows how much you love her! your her mummy!!
cas xxx

 

[lauramumof2]

this doll has the hairdoo from hell, when she is asleep tomorrow night im having a go with the ghd's.

 

[Dee1985]

i was just a bit worried that she might think I dont love her as much and that she has to love the doll instead. But thats paranoia.

ild expect Jess to maybe get a bit jelous as it is hard to share your time with a newborn, but i had to try so hard not to shout at Dior when she was playing "knock knock" on Harleys head lol. and trying to pick him up.

No dout jess will think she is the mummy just like Dior does lol

 

[lauramumof2]

but i had to try so hard not to shout at Dior when she was playing "knock knock" on Harleys head lol. and trying to pick him up.

im sure harley appreciated you stepping in there Dionne

 

[JMC]

Naughty mum

Maybe you can get her a teddy bare and slowly take away the doll and see if she takes that

Reminds of of the Friends episode where Emma wants nothing but Joey's penguin haha

Good Luck ! 8)

 

[lauramumof2]

haha, I remember that episode. IM sure the doll thing will blow over but i need my mum to appreciate that just because she buys my sisters whatever they want when they want it, Jess will not be the same and will get things like this on birthdays, xmas etc or when she has done something to deserve a toy, not just for the sake of it.

I sound like a evil cow mum dont I.

 

[Kim]

I sound like a evil cow mum dont I.

No you sound very sensible. It's easy to spoil our children, it's harder to make them appreciate things rather than take it for granted that they will get whatever they ask for. I would hate Rubie to be spoilt and ungrateful, so I am going to have to be very careful

 

[Jo]

haha, I remember that episode. IM sure the doll thing will blow over but i need my mum to appreciate that just because she buys my sisters whatever they want when they want it, Jess will not be the same and will get things like this on birthdays, xmas etc or when she has done something to deserve a toy, not just for the sake of it.

I sound like a evil cow mum dont I.

No way hun, i totally agree with you as they come to expect stuff as and when they want it, it's easier at Ems age as she understands xmas and stuff is for bigger gifts.
Emily is gonna get a small gift as her school report was out of this world.
They learn to understand that they get gifts for a reason, same as we cannot have everything we want just cos we want it.

I have tried stamping my feet at Oh it doesny work