how are our OHs coping?

[cherelle]

Just a nosey thread i guess to seee how everyone OHs are coping during the second trimester!

Me and OH had a horrible few weeks where i was taking all my frustrations out on him and he wasnt being very sympathetic at all

....but finally for the last few weeks i feel like we have been sooooo much closer than weve ever been and hes been amazing!! I get a gorgeous healthy meal cooked every night, he does all the cleaning and i get a back rub and cuddles on request! I hope we stay this close when the baby is born

How about you girls? x

 

[Sunnyb]

My OH is absolutely amazing! He takes most of the hormonal shit I throw at him with a pinch of salt & even though he works full time & I'm only part time, he still helps around the house! He'll cook, iron & vacuum for me & also bath's our son, reads his bedtime stories & puts him to bed ( that's their time together). As I've been fainting a lot & have very low blood pressure of 90/56 at the moment he has been super caring & putting Joseph to bed & clearing up after tea too for me. I am very lucky to have such a wonderful man in my life!!

Sunnyb xxx

 

[clairebear22]

We haven't really changed at all, we've always been really close and I think its because I never went through the sickness/bad temperness in Tri1. I'm a bit of a control freak and like to do the housework myself but if i'm too tired or I just can't be bothered he's happy to take over with anything which is good. Now we're just waiting for him to feel little man kicking because everytime he touches my belly the little monkey stops kicking!

He is however absolutley s**ting himself about labour while i'm still totally in denial that bubs is going to come out in a few months lol x

 

[erimela]

I have to admit my OH is amazing. We were always close, but during this pregnancy we have somehow become closer. He is a gem around the house - I live like a princess, he does all the washing, cooking, cleaning - and I get cuddles on demand.

He is very engaged in the pregnancy, and talks to the baby most nights. On monday night, he took his first two pics with the baby - well my bump!. One with him and the bump, one with him, the bump and a pint of guiness lol

I am glad we have very accommodating OH - hope this lasts into after the birth!!!

 

[cherelle]

wow we are lucky girls!!

 

[flopsybunny]

Lol I'm like that clarebear22! Mentally I am just going to go from being pregnant to having the baby in my arms (hopefully, all being ok inshallah!!) The birth part isn't going to happen! Lol! I think that is better in a way, that way I am not worrying about it.

As for DH, nothing much has changed. He works and I am at home so my job is looking after house an him which I am happy with, so I do most of the cleaning - he does any hard jobs, and I do all the cooking. He is very, very loving (most of the time) and loves to talk to my bump. We are both hot blooded though so of course the occasional argument happens and usually they involve a lot of shouting! Lol! Burt they are good because it gets everything out in the open and neither of us bottles things up. I feel so lucky to have a man that is so perfect for me and has the same values for bringing up children as I do.

Xx

 

[teampc]

my hubby has been lovely
he does all the cleaning and cooks most nights now (my blood pressure is low too and I find standing in the kitchen cooking some nights is too much for me)
I get lots of cuddles, he has been rubbing stretch mark cream into my belly and generally looking after me

also I have noticed the last few days as my bump has become more obvious he has started getting more excited about the baby, he keeps talking to it and talking about all the things we will do when baby is here

 

[riotfox]

My OH is great. He is always busy making sure I am okay and telling me off if I start doing too much around the house. It's so amazing when we can both sit watching my belly move. We both make sure we watch One Born Every Minute every week.

I love the fact how we are both very excited to meet our little boy!!

 

[jld123]

I must admit i cant praise my boyfriend enough for how he is coping. Hes only 20, but weve been together for 2 and a half years. At the beginning he was terrified, as soon as we decided its what we watned he was absolutely great. We dont see eachother during the week so he is there for me as much as he can be. Hes managed to make it to all of my appointments and scans, despite being at university 2 and a half hours away. Throughtout the first trimester i was horrible to him & sometimes he bit back at me which is fair enough but we havent had one argument since about 12 weeks & we're both just so excited. I woke up on valentines day to chocs, flowers and he'd bought our little girl her first dress which i thought was adorable. He watches one born every minute i his halls every monday and reports back to me, he bought himself a pregnancy book for dads & he is just all round excited about being a dad.

Im a very lucky girl

 

[teampc]

my hubby doesnt want to watch one born every minute or any other birth related show lol I think he is in denial about the labour part

 

[cherelle]

my hubby doesnt want to watch one born every minute or any other birth related show lol I think he is in denial about the labour part

my OH wont watch it either and he hates me watching it cos i end up a blubbering nervous wreck after every episode lol! Im hoping we have to watch something during our antenatal day so he's forced to face up to it!! lol x

 

[teampc]

lol i keep telling him it woudl be better to be prepared for it, but he says he doesnt want to think about it lol

 

[flopsybunny]

I won't watch it myself! No way! It will make me nervous. I am reading all I can about labour what can happen etc and will be going to child birth classes but every womans labour is different. I may see a really terrible labour, terrify myself for the next few months and have a good labour and have been stressed for nothing.

Xx

 

[clairebear22]

Lol I'm like that clarebear22! Mentally I am just going to go from being pregnant to having the baby in my arms (hopefully, all being ok inshallah!!) The birth part isn't going to happen! Lol! I think that is better in a way, that way I am not worrying about it.

As for DH, nothing much has changed. He works and I am at home so my job is looking after house an him which I am happy with, so I do most of the cleaning - he does any hard jobs, and I do all the cooking. He is very, very loving (most of the time) and loves to talk to my bump. We are both hot blooded though so of course the occasional argument happens and usually they involve a lot of shouting! Lol! Burt they are good because it gets everything out in the open and neither of us bottles things up. I feel so lucky to have a man that is so perfect for me and has the same values for bringing up children as I do.

Xx

My OH still thinks the only way bubs can hear him is by talking through my belly button! Silly sod! lol He has taken to kissing my bump which is lovely. I just wish the little wotsit would let his Daddy feel him kicking! x

 

[amandapanda]

My OH still thinks the only way bubs can hear him is by talking through my belly button! Silly sod! lol He has taken to kissing my bump which is lovely. I just wish the little wotsit would let his Daddy feel him kicking! x

My hubby does this too! Speaks through my belly button, it's sooooo cute!! He could start feeling kicks from about 28 weeks and now he just has to be laying facing me and he feels my belly jumping around all over the place! xxx

 

[purplehippy]

erimela - I wish I had what you have

Mine's having issues around guilt re his mum passing away and neither of his parents being able to properly know they will have a grand daughter - his dad died long before he had his son, and his mum died last summer, just before we conceived.

I spend a lot of my time trying to avoid situations at home and I tend to cook - but then I make more of what I like.

Actually it's time I did the lactofree cheese for our pizza and shoved it in the oven! Having a chilling few days without the kids.

 

[spice]

it nice to see theres so many loving men out there!!!
my OH is the same with OBEM but only becuase he says he doent want to watch a baby being born till its his own (he said this all the way through me watching the 1st serise too)

so far nothings changed in the house, i cook, and between OH and FIL they get the house clean and do the washing up!!! though OH was saying last night he'd like to start cooking more, and he'll go food shopping if i give him a list, though i think im going to start getting food delivered!!!

purplehippy, my dad was like that when both me and my bro were born as his dad died when he was only 8, and hes getting a bit like it now as his mums no longer here and will not meet her greatgrand child! i personly think if you always let the child being born know that the have a grandparent/s that are looking after them, and love them very much , it helps both the parent and the child, thats what my parents did and i know that if my granddad and grandmonther were here they would be very proud of me, and that i can love them even though i never met/didnt spend a lot of time with them!!! hope hes feeling better about it soon. x

 

[cherelle]

purple hippy we are both in cardiff! we should have a baby day when weve both popped

 

[spice]

so just to add to mine really, let OH in (as he never takes his keys to work with him) and he was stood at the door with a bunch of red tulips, a box of chocolates and a dvd to watch later . . . bless him!!! he said it was to make up for being in a mood last night and taking it out on me!!! just to point out, we've been together nearly 4years and this is the 3rd time hes brought me flowers (of 2 times were valentines days!!!)

 

[KellyHook]

Aww they are all so sweet!