Breezee, it is probably going to be almost impossible for you to take Jo's advice and give yourself more time to recover but having miscarried in April and been on the emotional roller coaster you are now on I can promise you things get better! But you do need positive thinking to maintain a healthy life physically and mentally. There is even medical research that proves that smiling and being positive releases chemicals in your body that make you healthier and feel better. You have to help yourself, as you are the only person in the world who can really make a difference to your life, you hold that power - no one else. You are going through one of the hardest things you will have to deal with in life and from the inside out you probably can't see the wood for the trees so please take advice from the ladies in here who are further along through the pain and confusion. You don't have to start using protection and completely stop ttc, but my advice is to look for ways to maintain a healthy positive outlook. You don't need drugs, try yoga, meditation, pampering baths, spoil your partner to make him smile and laugh with your family and friends. Eat well and think positively, loose the I'm a victim mentality and you will no longer be one. Mostly just take the stop watch on conceiving again away and focus on other elements in your life. I am only one month further along that you but I'm feeling really positive and confident in having a healthy pregnancy at some point. You say that not thinking positively means you don't set yourself up for more pain, but from where I am sitting your negative attitude is simply prolonging your misery. One thing I can promise you is life will throw more crap at you in one way or another, so why not enjoy the good things in between. Try to see all the things you have rather than focus on all the things you don't have.
Hope some of this makes sense.
Becs
