help me!!!!

[Dee1985]

Dior is getting naughty and does things for attention. she keeps doing things she knows she is not aloud to do eg, eat the coal of the fire or throw her food she looks at me with a nasty look whild doing it. so i tell her NO over and over again, so now i tell her No about 5times then il smack her hand, well i tap it but she dont like it, but it was a big mistake iv now taught her to hit. she keeps trying to smack Harley and me. where do i go now!!!!!!!!

 

[violet-glow]

That sounds almost the same as what im going through with zack. I think they go through these type of things at this age.

I do the same ..tell Zack off and he doesnt listen, just carrys on. So I smack his hand. Which sends him nuts and starts throwing his toys etc about and at me.

So I started watching super nanny lol ...and found the 'naughty chair' really does work. If Zack doesnt listen or hits me (his fav past times) I sit him on his little chair and he has to stay there until he learns to say sorry. Obviously he doesnt stay there for long and keeps getting off, but I just keep putting him back on, each time telling him why hes there etc. After his screaming fit that normaly last from anything from 10 mins to an hour ...he comes up to me and I ask him why I told him off. If he cant tell me why, I tell him the reason and get him to say sorry. It does work you just have to be strong and see it through.

 

[bubble_dreamer]

having a similar problem with beth
only thing is when i do tap her hand she stands there and laughs at me

 

[Jo]

I had this with Emily and i know it will be hard with you haveing Harley, but what i would do is just stand her in the corner and ignore her or something and have loads of fun with Harley tickling and stuff she'll watch and see what she is missing out on, and i bet you anything she will come with cuddles and try and join in

Good luck

 

[Flossy82]

I also have the same problem with lewis when he's naughty i will smack him on the hand and then he will go round hitting everyone o/h has blamed me for doing that not sure what i can do to deter him from doing it though

 

[sophie]

i dunno if dior is too young yet? but i do the naughty step sit kai on the bottom of the stairs for 4 mins thats 1 min for every yr hes been here! an then go to him an tell him what hes done wrong in a stern voice then we have a kiss an a cuddle an its all forgotten about (got this of supernanny).
works most the time!
xx

 

[loulou1980]

i want to try the naughty step with lily but the stair gates there and she likes sitting on the stairs

 

[Dee1985]

hey the naughty step is a good one we always do it with my 5yr old brother but Dior is to young, she wouldnt understand what im doing? some times shes a angel but i can see if im feeding Harley or she is getting bored she will go and get a stone and put it her her mouth. its some ting she wil always get atte ntion for because i seen her choke once when she was a baby, and my baby brother did on a 5p before. so if shes bored she will look at me do her evil eyes and put it in her mouth so i bit my tongue and egnored her she walked across the room right up to my face showed me the stone and put it back in her mouth. i think i just need to egnor it and try and keep her entertained.

bubble_dreamer. beth is the same age as Dior do you think she would understand the naughty corner? i no Dior would just walk off. and prob not no what im trying to gain?

lets just hope it passes once she understands more words it should get easier.

 

[Dee1985]

i want to try the naughty step with lily but the stair gates there and she likes sitting on the stairs

lol Dior loves the stairs if i sat her on them she would love it

i have got a wooden playpen in the garage think it would work if every time she plays up she goes in it for a few mins?? i just want it to get to the stage where she knows she is in it cause she was naughty, not just "hey mum keeps putting me in and out of this thing"

 

[Flossy82]

I hope it will get easier for you dionne lewis as he's learnt more words etc seems to be getting worse in my opinion sometimes i find it hard to know what to do with him as he can be really naughty when he wants to be and im sure its not meant intentionally but when you have a screaming baby and him to contend with its so frustrating. anyway good luck hope things work out ok with dior.

 

[violet-glow]

If you keep putting her in it when shes naughty and telling her off each time, kids soon get the message.

 

[loulou1980]

problem is though,with a play pen,if you want to put them in it for a different reason,ie trying to do housework,then they think theyve been naughty for a different reason.when harry was younger i used to stick him in an ld buggy with reins which was totally different from his other buggies so he wouldnt get confused and i would put him in the hallway to scream it out .lol such a cruel mum am i

 

[Dee1985]

problem is though,with a play pen,if you want to put them in it for a different reason,ie trying to do housework,then they think theyve been naughty for a different reason.when harry was younger i used to stick him in an ld buggy with reins which was totally different from his other buggies so he wouldnt get confused and i would put him in the hallway to scream it out .lol such a cruel mum am i

the playpen is only ment to be used up to 18months old i used to try and make it a happy place when Harley was new born it had special toys and she loved it so i could feed Harley i aint used it for 2 months now and Dior is a bit big for it so maybe i could just use it for when shes naughty.

then when Harley starts crawling il make it his happy place? or do you think what i ever i choose to use now eg play pen naughty courner naughty chair or naughty step i should stick with for the rest of the yrs till hes good?

 

[sophie]

Or find a naughty corner, she will soon learn that u are puttin her there cos shes been naughty i spose?? i find if i shout at kai it makes him worse best thing is to ignore, they soon get bored lol!
xx

 

[loulou1980]

problem is though,with a play pen,if you want to put them in it for a different reason,ie trying to do housework,then they think theyve been naughty for a different reason.when harry was younger i used to stick him in an ld buggy with reins which was totally different from his other buggies so he wouldnt get confused and i would put him in the hallway to scream it out .lol such a cruel mum am i

the playpen is only ment to be used up to 18months old i used to try and make it a happy place when Harley was new born it had special toys and she loved it so i could feed Harley i aint used it for 2 months now and Dior is a bit big for it so maybe i could just use it for when shes naughty.

then when Harley starts crawling il make it his happy place? or do you think what i ever i choose to use now eg play pen naughty courner naughty chair or naughty step i should stick with for the rest of the yrs till hes good?

i think a chair or a stool would be a better idea,just get one of those low ones that you can use to get to the toilet and put it in the hallway or in the living room and call it a naughty chair so they get to know,you may have to get another as the lil lad gets older but that way its ideal as theyve grown up with it and know,whats what

 

[Dee1985]

yh thats a good idea i no the lil steps you mean might pick one up frm toys r us...!!!!!

mummy means business now

 

[bubble_dreamer]

bubble_dreamer. beth is the same age as Dior do you think she would understand the naughty corner? i no Dior would just walk off. and prob not no what im trying to gain?

i dont think she would they are a bit to young to understand that aint they? reading your post about the wooden playpen that you have just reminded me how much beth hates being in the travel cot i may try putting her in there for a minute or so everytime she doesnt take notice when i say no

 

[emilia]

Kids will continue to test us! This is how they learn about their boundries.
In most cases, children will behave like this in order to get attention. They realise very quickly, that if they do something naughty, they WILL get attention - no matter whether they'll get a smack or telling off. My best advice would be to positively distract your child. Give them loads of praise and show them that you're interested in what they're doing.

Try and stop to say "NO"... instead - be aware of what your child is up to and distract them to something more positive in order to avoid a sticky moment. I don't believe that young toddlers deliberately do naughty things - it's just a cry for attention 9 times out of 10.

Emilia xx

 

[Jayceesmumma]

I agree, if u dont praise them for the good things they do, they will go and do bad things for attention! Whether good attention or bad, they need it!
I dont agree with what someone said before about having fun with harley whilst she is in naughty corner coz then she will just get more jealous of her lil bro and it will ruin their relationship! Get her involved in his daily routine..feeding..changing etc and give her the role of 'big sister' rather than, 'ive replaced u with a good well behaved baby'!
I think the naughty step/corner/chair works well if its done right! Just make sure u praise her for being good more than bad and she will get the hint!! Jaycees always trying to help me!! When i get her chair out she's all, 'ill help mummy!!' lol bless!

 

[Tara & Liam]

we have used the naughty step with joshua since he was 2 and believe me he does understand. liam will be there as well when he gets older. if you dont have a stair then supernanny uses a rug as well.

one other punishment that we may use inthe future is a naughty toy box where you take a toy away each time they are naughty and they have to earn the toys back.