Hello new to this because need some support...

[heyyJude82]

We have been trying to get pregnant now for 16 months. Every month I hope, wish, pray and every month it ends with the same disappointment and sadness.
I have been charting (loosely) and as I have also been for day 21 blood test, I am definitely ovulating. My husband will visit doctor in a few weeks to begin initial tests to see if it his body that is causing the delay.
After this months negative results I have purchased The Clear Blue Fertility Monitor to try that. Is funny how at the beginning we said that we'd just have sex more regularly and let nature run its course and now we are popping vitamins, not drinking caffeine, cutting back on alcohol, eating more healthy, taking body temps, charting CM, OV strips and now resorted to an expensive mini computer! But nothing else matters to us anymore we just want to get pregnant.
All you ladies you are regulars to TTC forum I would be really grateful for any of you're feedback on the fertility monitor and also if anyone has any support with regard to how to not let this situation ruin my relationship with my husband. All the stress, disappointment and negative results have meant we are arguing a lot more.
Really appreciate you're help.
Thanks in advance.

 

[cosmicgirl]

Do you monitor your cm and cervical position? That really helped me. x

 

[heyyJude82]

Yes to CM but not Cervical Position. Is that easy to do?

 

[precious_cargo]

Hi hun.
Havent got anything to add but wanted to offer my support as after 1 month of officially ttc and about 6 months of NTNP I know how stressful it can be. The ladies are all lovely, very supportive and have a wealth of knowledge. I have just bought taking charge of your fertility which the ladies on here rave about it may b worth a try? Xxx



Babydust to all

 

[Sarah85]

I've not got a monitor but didn't want to read and run hope u get that BFP real soon it's a horrible situation ist it that alot of girls on here are going through so support on here might help u to vent rather than at your OH x x

 

[hayes]

Hi,

I dont have any advice that the lovely ladies havent already said, but i will say this forum is brilliant for aving a good chat, rant and to just know that other people are in the same boat as you.

Its been nearly a year for me and i know how you feel when you want it so bad that every month you hope that its finally the month and when its not it crushing but you just have to have faith that someday it will be happen and it will be so worth it.

Michelle. x

 

[heyyJude82]

Hi thanks so much for taking the time to respond! I have already got the book, find it really helpful and inspiring! I am gals I've taken the step to join the forum because suffering in silence is not helping. No-one knows we are trying and after 10 years together and 3 of those married means the endless 'when will I get a grandchild' 'you're next' comments really start to get to you after awhile. X

 

[heyyJude82]

Michelle you are so right! I believe with all my heart it will happen one day. Thanks for helping to put a smile on my face today. X j

 

[hayes]

Glad to have helped, weneva im having a bad day i know the lovely ladies on here will cheer me up. Fx that you will get your bfp sometime soon. I went to hosp the other day(un related to ttc)and the nurse there and i got talking about ttc and she said it takes most normal couples over a yr to concieve and that it more likely to be two yrs realisticly and so that kinda put my mind at rest for a bit.

Michelle. x

 

[Kiki0210]

Welcome to the forum. Maybe being able to chat and vent on here will ease things a bit with ur hubby! It's just sometimes nice to know ur not alone and even though it doesn't change the situation it makes u feel that bit better!! Good luck x

 

[3Beloved]

I'm not too sure about monitors or that etc...
I didn't want to read and run

All the best TTC
Charlotte
x

 

[heyyJude82]

Thanks to all of you who responded today it really is nice to have somewhere to come and talk about how I really feel. Nite ladies. X J

 

[beckyboo1]

Hi after around 8 months of trying I bought a fertility monitor and was very lucky that we conceived after the first month of using it.

Of course this may just have been coincidence but I liked the fact it felt like I was going to be on control. Previous to that I'd been charting my periods and using OPKs (ovulation prediction kits)

That was 9 months ago now and our first baby is due on Friday!! Sending you lots of luck x

 

[flopsybunny]

I haven't got too much to add buit wanted to offer my support. It took us 10 month when TTC dd. All test with us both were ok. What I will suggest is to try to keep the biology and gory details away from your husband unless he asks. I told mine EVERYTHING and I was obssessed. It really did damage our relationship even as far as nearly breaking up. The arguements were awful. This time I am not telling him anything. We have both agreed another baby will be great and that birth control is out the window, so let's see what happens. But owing to my obssessive nature I am going down the same route as last time. I will just share and rant with you lovely ladies who really understand.

Hope you find the forum as supportive as I have the last couple of years xx and good luck!! Xx

 

[mishi]

Hi thanks so much for taking the time to respond! I have already got the book, find it really helpful and inspiring! I am gals I've taken the step to join the forum because suffering in silence is not helping. No-one knows we are trying and after 10 years together and 3 of those married means the endless 'when will I get a grandchild' 'you're next' comments really start to get to you after awhile. X

I can totally relate to that! We have been married for 10 years. My FIL is ALWAYS asking if we are going to 'provide' a grandchild and it gets tiring after 10 years. OH didn't want children but changed his mind last year and we fell pregnant in November. Sadly that didn't end well and we are trying again. I have a CBFM this time and this is my first cycle using it - so can't help with how good it is - yet! But it is very easy to use.

Let's hope we can both give the in laws some good news soon!

Good luck

 

[heyyJude82]

OMG flopsybunny it's like I wrote that post myself that's exactly the situation with us! I will definitely take you're advise on board and let this forum be my outlet rather than my husband! I swear the messages I've had haven given me a boost that I haven't felt for months. Thanks again to all you ladies for posting. My hope is alive again. X j

 

[heyyJude82]

Here's hoping Beckyboo!

And to you Mishi I really feel for you having gone through that. Let's help each other to keep the faith and also to vent our frustrations at the 'inconsiderate' comments people make!

 

[babyfever]

heyjude welcome to this forum!! it has been such a blessing to me and I know it will be to you too. Anytime you need a friend no doubt you will find hugs and open ears here no matter if you have been ttc for 2 cycles or 20 cycles all the ladies here are great...fx you get your bfp real soon!!

 

[Robyn_mcl]

Hey honey... Not sure if you've already tried but our first month using conceive plus worked for us.... Its worth a try xxx