Going to my mums this week for a few days

[Squeakz]

And dreading it. Dunno why I do ot to myself tbh. We kinda had to. Mum had a massive fecking strop about how hurt she was that we had gone to the in laws and not hers. Its the whole competition thing they have withthe in laws.

So theres gonna be 5 of us in a 2 bedroom house (just adults) plus 2 kids and a dog. One of us will have to use the sofa with greg (in a travel cot) otherwise he may well wake j up during the night and its not fair specially if his reflux kixks off and my mum has a really yappy doggy thta undoubtedly will scare the living bejesus out of greg.

Oh and I both agreed we need to do it at some point and with oh having a qeek off its easier now then trying to cram it in to a weekend as its 4 hours almost.dreading it.

They have a rental.property that is free atm do you think its rude to ask to use that...! Saying that thought its unfurnished which would be fine as we have blow ups and the kids are ok but that also means no kitchen stuff....sonactually not feasible. Mums has already told us that on thurs we can go and see the couple of friends I have left their and on friday she will take josh out I dont mind her doing that its just the way she tells us. Buhh this could tuen in to a right one. Just gonna stick by what we want as parents anf go f4om there.

I dont mind her treating him and stuff but she does it to the excess so if were strict he still gets treated but every meal 8snt fried crap with extra lard followed by cake and chocolate. ( kind of not exaggerating)

Anyway just had to get it out. The whole thing makes me feel really anxious. I mean seriously panicked about the whole thing like I have this weight on my chest permanently.......

 

[BabysMomma]

How did it go hun? x

 

[Squeakz]

We ended up not going. She offered us her room for the four of us and she would use my brothers double bed etc but bevause g is really unreliable we thought save j getting up during the jight one of us will sleep in the lounge with g and then she said we couldnt have her room then but my brothers room doesnt have enough space at all for a blow up bed or a cot or anything so we said well where is joshua sposed to sleep blah blah blah. So she said we couldnt use her room after all (its only a 2 bed bungalow) and that if were being so fussy then we should not go until greg is more settled so I said fine then. Then my stepdad called and we compromised on their room and the lounge so god knows what she told him we werw after so we were meant to go. Then a couple of hours later she sent abusive text messages. Saying oh was an analyzing bullshitting prick, hows she isnt proud of us as a couple or as a family, she thinks were obnoxious, that im a puppet and be forced to do atuff by oh, that im a money grabbing bitch, selfish, she said rhat because I called her a couple weeks ago and was crying because greg was in hispital that I obviously cant copw with the children, that one day when my marriage fails (implied cos she said when it all goes wrong) then id be sorry (cos they wont be there, she never wants to see or speak to me again.

So that was a week ago now. Xx

 

[BabysMomma]

Oh gosh! Yes I think I read your post in GR about it! I didn't realise this was the same trip!

Your mum is definitely hard work hun. I really don't know how you put up with it. It would seem that she enjoys making life awkward for your family, but she's missing out on family things due to her behaviour.

Families can be fantastic or they can be more hassle than what they're worth. I don't have contact with a lot of my family because they're all drama, drama, drama which I've no time for and they can be pretty sneaky and nasty. At times I wonder how on earth we came from the same family, but I guess just because we're related, it doesn't mean we'll see things the same or have the same personalities.

Out of all my 5 sisters I have 1 who I see regularly as we have the same personality and she has a good heart. The rest are either just plain nasty, full of drama or just don't make the effort, and I'm fed up trying.

Families eh x

 

[Squeakz]

im not particulaely bothered about her not talking to me if im being hinest.i just feel angry that i feel i havent said everything i wanted to iyswim and im really angry that she was such a cow. im not even sure if there is a way to come back from what she said. all i can think is that she has lost out on the boys whichbis making me worry that she will try to tale me to court. wouldnt put it past her but nor sure if shwd actually do it.

sorry tobhear about your family well or not as it appears its for the best. families eh...x

 

[mona]

complex situation