Going into own room?

[x_larlybelle_x]

Think I may have to put Henry in his own room if I wanna get him to self soothe

I do the whole night shift as I'm exclusively bf and DH has to get up for work. Only problem is when Henry stirs, DH kinda wakes so I have to get up and take Henry out of the bedroom before DH wakes up. There is no chance I can leave him to self soothe with his whining and various noises he makes when he stirs.

I don't feel ready to put him in his own room yet I know this is incredibly selfish. His nursery is only about 10 steps away from our room but still don't feel ready.

I know I need to do it of I want him to self soothe and get into some sort of bedtime routine but I'm not sure if i can do it yet.

How old was ur lo when they started sleepin in their own room? How did u cope with them being in separate rooms?

 

[Hope81]

I have no real advice obviously as I am waiting my first LO but maybe your oh sleeps somewhere else until LO is a little older?
We will have the same problem. We both have a job that the phone can ring at any time and we have to get up and go. So I will be with the baby all night but I really have to let my oh sleep so probably the baby will go in its own room very very early, when my oh goes back to work after baby's birth... Thankfully the nursery entrance is through our bedroom and really close but still not having your baby near you so early it must be a little scary.
Also my oh refuses to go sleep somewhere else claiming that he Dosent mind waking up one million times because of the baby but he probably has no idea how loud a newborn can scream and for how long...

 

[x_larlybelle_x]

The only other place DH could sleep is on the sofa as we only have a 2 bedroom house.

It will be fine for Henry to self soothe when I put him down for the night, but it's during the night. Although last night I did just pick up his basket and carry that into his room. May just keep doin that so im not actually wakin him, he wakes himself when he is ready.

 

[JJ Mum]

We haven't got a nursery so Devons cot is in with us and this was a problem for us, but as I was trying to match my sleep with Devon (exclusivly bf too), then OH would still be awake and n ot want to go to bed till hours later than me, so he used to sleep on the sofa, (comfy one) and still does alot of the time as I'm always tired hours before him. It's not a great answer but it works, depends what your OH is happy with broken or good sleep, good bed or sofa?

 

[hesty14]

My D moved in to her cot and own room at 5 weeks and it was the best nights sleep I had! There were two reasons, the main one was that she was getting to big for her basket as she likes to sleep with her arms out to the side and also she was getting too long for it. The second was that she grunts in her sleep so I constantly was up checking her when she was fast asleep.

It just felt the right time for all of us.

x

 

[Maybe_mummy]

Alyssia went into her own room at 6 weeks I was very nervous about doing it but shes is a very noisy sleeper and we were waking her and she us. I always put her to nap in her room so I thought whats the difference. She went in and had a fantastic night sleep (must say I checked her quite a few times so she probably slept better than me) she sleeps so well in there now, we have a video moniutor so can see her and hear her as well. Its each to their own do what you think is right.

 

[Nic36]

I will probably move Emily into her own room and cot once she outgrows her basket. Personally I wouldn't be able to sleep a wink if she wasn't next to me... But that's just me being over anxious I guess! I am hoping she will be in our room until she is at least three months.
Emily is also a very noisy sleeper, but luckily DH has blocked ears and cant hear much at night, so she doesn't disturb him at all!
If you have a video monitor, then I guess there is no need to worry if LO is in the room next door as you can keep an ee on them.
Good luck with whatever you decide!

 

[hugsy]

were still in the same room but OH just goes back asleep , its me that lies there kept awake by her hour of grunts, maybe just get him some earplugs might be enough to stop him being disturbed