Get off my back woman

[Dragonfly Fi]

I agree!!

 

[Dollie]

Put ur status as
I have just ate shake and vac in toast yum yum lol

Haha love that idea mrsmc!
I would so block this raving lunatic, or ull be posting pics of your LO and she'll be telling you the colour of the clothes its wearing offends its delicate newborn eyes or some such crap x x

 

[Dollie]

Well said bigbump! Bet she wouldnt have said any of those things to u in person x x

 

[Dragonfly Fi]

she is such a twat, she came back and said that the only reason i felt like a bad mother was because i am unsure of myself and am bascially an insecure angry person and thats why i felt like a bad person

i said that i didnt feel like a bad person, i just note that she tried to make me feel that way and i didnt really want to be friends with someone who would do that.

shes horrible, i have said all i need to say to her now.

 

[Dollie]

Shes a sandwhich short of a picnic!

 

[Dragonfly Fi]

agreed! How 'orrid can you get!

 

[NinjaKitty]

Glad she's gone. You don't need that type of abuse and it was abuse. Who does she think she is. If you have any of her old posts on FB get her reported.

 

[redbear]

Im sorry but i couldn't have resisted saying 'gosh using shake and vac is abusing my unborn child, its a good job i didn't tell you i was shooting up Heroin in the corner what would you think then!' ...
one person who was constantly telling me i 'dont need to eat for two' (even tho i havent and have lost weight from sickness) He said there are druggies and Heroin addicts having babies all the time so having a go at someone for eating is a bit pathetic really. Lol xx

 

[Zoeox]

Think she did you the biggest favour!
How stupid was that x

 

[1986princess]

this woman needs to go down! wtf! rude!

 

[poppypd]

OMG!!! That is not a friend in my opinion. Firstly totally out of order and well.....there is a way of saying things, if she had some evidence to suggest it was bad for a baby then at least put it in personal message (however I have never heard of any!!!!)!
If it's a good friend you can;t delete, then you should definitely say something about how it's made you feel, if she gets arsey about it, then I'd just delete her! People who are supportive or sensentive aren't worth your time!

Good on you for cleaning, I'm such a lazy bum these days!!!!
xxx

 

[Dragonfly Fi]

i did have a word with her, many in fact. I told her that though she hadnt made me feel like a bad mother, that was clearly her intention and therefore I could not and would not consider her a friend.

She then told me because i am basically an 'angry person' (this woman has met me once) that i 'deserve and should be able to take it' I was absolutely amazed by that, i told her that regardless of what she thinks she knows about me via 'facebook' she actually DOESNT know me and suggesting that you should be less sensitive to a person because you perceive them as 'angry' is absolutely absurd.

I told her i think she is a bully and i think she has looked for the most emotive topic (parenting) with which to have a go at me because she thinks that is where i will be most vunerable, something i find quite frankly disgusting.

So this went on and on and she basically tried to defend herself because 'I should take it because I am angry' which, i must add is bollocks, i have vast amounts of lovely friends with whom i spend time with and i dont need someone who barely knows me, popping a label on me and using it to put me down. What a sad sad woman she must be!

So yeah, its gone and done and dusted now, i think she is HORRID and i have told her so. Hopefully she will change her tune a bit and realise that actually having a go at a pregnant person is NOT nice regardless of how you feel about them and that perhaps if you dislike someones methods of being, you should discuss it with them or f*ck off, not decide to just bully them whenever because you feel you have a right too.

it was a thoroughly horrid conversation and a thoroughly horrid day but i am glad i did it because actually, i think she deserved to hear how she had made me feel and how she looks from it all. Perhaps it will stop her being quite such a plonker to the other people in her life?

anyway... over now, shes not my 'friend' on facebook anymore and she certainly wont be someone i rush out to spend time with.

 

[poppypd]

Oh bl**dy good for you!! Those sort of things are horrible, and i'm a wimp when it comes to confrontation so I should take a leaf out of your book. A vaguely related topic - I had a message today left on a work related fb page that insinuated that i was not supporting my performing students enough because I had made a fb comment about their noise backstage. I felt like raghhhhhh as I have told them so many times this week that they are doing fab. She brought up the fact that there would no show without the students or tickets sold and I thought hang on!!! there'd be no show without me and i'm not doing it for myself!! I do not have the luxury of defending my corner as it could escalate and gotta be professional, but it does make you mad!!! Looking forward to not having to deal with teenagers and pushy parents in january!!! xxx How far along are you big bump?, your ticker is in code for some reason to me and can't see any figures to work it out!

 

[Dragonfly Fi]

I am 20 weeks and 4 days Pregnant with a little girl

 

[Dragonfly Fi]

p.s I know what you mean about folk not getting it. I hate trying to explain something and then someone turns around and makes it clear they Really dont get what you need

the theatre is a piece of magic, weaved before our eyes and if there are titters, giggles and what not happening behind the curtain, then the audience cannot melt into imagination and the preparation is lost!

Its right to wind you up, its your job to teach these kiddles that because actually, if you make a peep back stage at a professional show you get properly properly told off!!

After all, you are a player in someone elses magic trick and if you ruin the illusion, you have ruined the show!

 

[poppypd]

Congrats on being 20 weeks, and a little girl! I have no idea what i'm having obviously and don;t care, but no one seems to have boys in my or my other halves immediate family so it'd be a novelty. Girls are so much more placid I find from teaching though! well til they are 13 and then they can go either way he he! How are you feeling?, have your ill feelings completely gone? Mine were going but they keep popping up like today I feel quite queasy again. Thank you for you kind words re my situ so nice to hear, nice for someone to get it from the other perspective! That finished result these parents see, is indeed a lot of hard work, and patience on my part! The problem because of the performing personality hence emotional and therefore quite sensitive I take things to heart, even thought 98% is super positive! Why do I do this!!! Most of the parents are saying lovely things to me, dunno how you cope, you are so patient etc... Funnily enough two of my students mums are on my 10 strong midwife team - what are the odds huh?? They have been watching out for me in a quiet way, offering support which has been nice. one lady even offered me any extra checks if I want them!

Do you have any names picked out, funnily enough the name I really liked for a girl is the name of this fb ladies youngest child who is also a student of mine and I dunno if this has put me of it!!!

xxx

 

[Dragonfly Fi]

Maybe you should do an excercise with them where you show one of them a magic trick and then just when it gets interesting you shout something behind a door and ruin it for the audience (the rest of them) and then you go on to explain how that is like them shouting backstage, coz it ruins the illusion and thats a massive part of theatre, for the audience to feel immersed they need to be taken in by the spell and we all prepare for that so lets keep the illusion going?

thats what i would do anyway

We have decided on Ivy-Mae for a girl, she was called that long before she was conceived to be honest, i love the name Ivy and i think Mae just makes it a little bit younger and cooler lol

I didnt have ANY sickness from this pregnancy, when i was pregnant with my boy i was sick as a dog for 17 weeks! This time i have been absolutely on top form throughout the whole thing!! very strange!

I wont have anymore kids but if i do, i hope they are girls! Its been much easier

 

[poppypd]

Oh Ivy is so lovely, and i'm not just saying that - honest!! Never even thought of that one! Have never taught an Ivy either which is a big plus!!! but now you've told me would never want to steal it ha ha! Darn it!!!

If I was a magician or indeed had any skills in that area i would try that one, perhaps I can come up with my own version, thanks a great idea!!!

My name was Gracie May, I just love the song Gracie by Ben folds, have you ever heard it?, a song a dad wrote for his daughter and it made me cry before I was ever pregnant! The line 'you can't fool me I saw you when you came out, is just so honest! In fact I will listen again and probably cry! I'm bound to have a boy now!!

xx

 

[Dragonfly Fi]

Gracie is lovely I like it much more than Grace! Please feel free to shortlist Ivy, its not like you live round the corner! I think an Ivy in Devon would be fine I am more worried about a girl i know from round here nicking my name but i think she is settled on Jasmine, which is cute

 

[poppypd]

Having listened to the song again, I still love it! Not sure what the OH thinks of Gracie, but we decided we'd get a few names together in advance and wait til we saw baby for real as it might not fit the face so to speak. My sister chose a completely different name after her daughter was born, so who knows.

xx