For the lucky ladies, with no tears or cuts !!

[MagicMarkers]

So i read and made myself woozie with the, pain relief and did you tear thread, so now i want advice hints and tips from all you ladies who miraculously got through it all without a cut or tear, or with little teeny weeny not worth getting the needle out ones !!


I intend to try every SINGLE preventative under the sun,if i can find any, im a complete wimp and would always wonder why i didnt just, i dno eat seaweed every week for the last 2 weeks and save my foof !!

So ladies howd u get away with it ehh, ehhh !?!?

 

[*Star*]

i didn't do anything tbh!
i had a couple of grazes with both, but notihng bad. with my first i was pretty swollen for a few days, but with my 2nd by a few hours later i hardly felt like i'd given birth!

you really dont know if you'll tear or not, it's just one of those things.

 

[hennaly]

i didnt have any stitches with any of mine but didnt do anything at all to prevent it.
I have to be honest im not sure i think anything would really help.

 

[MagicMarkers]

i was hoping for some old wives tales, arent there massages or something, isnt that what rasberry leaf does ?? Have i got the wrong end of the stick, even if it didnt work itd be nice to do something to make me feel like it might not hapen lol

 

[hennaly]

well there is a little trick your OH could try once a day but couldnt possibly say what it is on here, and to be honest who cares if it works or not

 

[LisaJ1986]

Apparently massage helps, and slowing stretching your 'down below'. But i didn't do anything. Not tears or grazes. I just listened to the midwife (finally), stopped and started pushing, as she told me! I'm surprised i didn't as my labour was very quick, my 1st, and she was a big bugger! Lol

 

[beanie]

you can do a perinneal massage (google it and you will get loads of sites) but I didn't do nayhting. Got a 1st degree tear and 2 grazes with Seren as she came out with her hand by her face and Cally, I had a graze as she shot out. Just listen to your midwife as they should tell you when to stop pushing to allow your skin to stretch. Waterbirths are also a good way of avoiding tearing, and different positions are thought to be more beneficial then others.

 

[Laur_250]

My biggest fear is this too scatterpatch, so Ive actually put this in my birthplan and asked them to allow me to push in a way which makes it slower and less likely to tear. Thats what some people advised me on a previous post about this that they did so Im def gonna stress this to the MW at the time. I may also try the olive oil rubbing in the last few weeks as they say this helps it to stretch but the slow pushing seems the easiest option! I understand your concern, I too am more scared of tearing than the labour itself! xx

 

[monster_munch]

God knows how I didn't tear with DS - he was 2 lds heavier than DD and his head was 2cms bigger. PLus with DD I was on my back and with DS I was kneeling up so gravity meant he put more pressure on my lady region.
Oh and I did no perinium massage with DS and did loads with DD (bi-labial tears with DD. FUN!)

I'm afraid it's probably luck...

 

[Sherlock]

Perineal massage is a popular thing to help prevent tearing. I did this and although I tore, it could have been a lot worse. Bear in mind I had a large baby (almost 10lb) so tearing is not surprising.

But tbh, no one can say if you will or not. But massage and pushing should help.

Also its not as bad as it seems if you do tear. I know that other thread sounded scary but you can have pain relief before having stitching done etc. For me, while it was not pleasant it was in the grand scheme of things bearable compared to what I had just been through. Even though I felt some of the stitching being done toward the end, it wasn't painful in the sense of it.

I think you are worrying a little too much about it. Try not to.

 

[flowergirl]

Nothing to do with anything I did- it was my super strength waters that saved me- they stayed intact right to the moment baby's head was crowning- the MW had to ask me if she could burst them for me! The fact that they stayed intact meant that my whole 'area' stretched slowly and I only had 1 slight graze.

 

[-Kelly-]

I did have second degree tear and a little graze (Oliver was just over 9lbs), but nothing that needed stitching. I didn't do anything at all, and also ignored the midwife when she told me not to push - I couldn't help it, my body just did it itself! But I did have a water birth, which might have helped.

 

[muppetmummy]

I only had small 1st degree tears with both of mine that were too minor to need stitches. I never did anything! I think there's a lot of luck involved

 

[sarah113]

i never done anything with any of mine and i only tore slighly with my 2nd (oh and burst a blood vessal)

 

[KJ]

I think tearing or being cut is always your major fear when pregnant. But believe me, you don't care AT ALL when it's actually happening!

After over 2 hours of pushing, the doctor coming into the room with a large pair of scissors was the best thing I colud have seen. I needed to get him out and I knew she was my only way to do so, I could have jumped for joy!

I had no prior pain relief before they cut me, but they injected some local anaesthetic. Really wasn't that bad. Didn't feel the cut. Was being stitched for over 30 mins I think and again, compared to what I'd just gone through it was nothing.

I know it sounds silly to say it now, but pregnant ladies, please do not worry about being cut, there are worse things when giving birth!

K.xx

 

[Mrs_Jay]

i guess i was just lucky i didnt do anything. i just grazed a lil bit and jack was 8ib 12 so pretty big. hope im as lucky this time. and hope you are too

 

[LisaJ1986]

When i was expecting i completely avoided any subject on labour. For some reason the people that tried to tell me insisted on telling me the worst. The 1st time i even thought about tears was when it was too late and i was being told to push. The best thing i did to be honest. No matter what, it'll be totally worth it.

 

[kellie80]

I tore with my 1st baby but nothing at all, not even a graze with the 2nd and 3rd. Nathan had a huge head too and weighed 9lb 5oz. I didn't do anything special but what I did do was really control my pushing when they were being born. With the first she just came flying out as I'd had an epidural and I couldn't feel what I was doing but I didn't with the other 2 and when the head was being born just listened to the MW wife and gave short pushes. Worked for me

 

[leckershell]

I didnt tear, didn't use any massage or anything just a few rasberry leaf teas but not as many as it suggested would make a difference. And I had an 8lb 7oz baby

They said I was close but with pushing when they told me to and not when they told me not to, I was fine It was one of my biggest fears about the birth beforehand.

 

[1sttimemum]

I did nothing and came away with only a tiny graze