FIL hates the names ive picked

[mandii]

well hello ladies my FIL says the name ive for a girl sounds like the name for a cruise ship and he doesnt like it. The name ive picked for a girl is Alliyah Rose. He also doesnt like my boys name (Joseph Scott) that i have picked as a friend(Scott) is getting a mention in the name rather than him, i wouldnt mind naming a child after my FIL but he doesnt make the effort to see the child i already have so why should i? xx

 

[netty]

you call your baby whatever you please sweety he is being an arse by the sounds of it!!!!!

 

[mandii]

yeah he is and i know that when baby is eventually here he will start about getting the baby christened he pressurised us into getting our son christened, im not being dictated to this time i was dictated to all the way through my first pregnancy xx

 

[netty]

urgh i HATE that, why do family suddenyl forget it is YOU thats having the baby xx fair enough get involved but they should respect your decision and give you the 1st say on it all!

Just ignore him! i love the names you have picked they are great hun specially the girls name i really like it! it doesnt sound like a cruise ship

 

[mandii]

i also had melody picked out and he slated me for it x

 

[mandii]

and like i said he doesnt make the effort to see the son i already have hes not seen him since january xx

 

[netty]

Oh screw him!!!!! melody is pretty too, whatever you want to call your kiddie you can, its not up to anyone else!

my nana hates Scarlett but thats what i am caling my first girl! she told me she wouldnt use the name, so i said well you wont see her then will you? if you insist on calling her something else?

xxx

 

[netty]

he sounds like an arsehole hun, just say to him thats what your names are and thats it. If he doesnt like em he can go swivel xxx

 

[mandii]

im going to at the end of the day he had the chance to name kids when he had his weans x

 

[CARNAT22]

This is why I kept my pregnancy quiet for a while!!!

Once you tell people you get all sort of opinions on every aspect of your life.

Luckily we've had a good reaction to our preliminary choice of names

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[mandii]

when i was pregnant with my son my own mother decided everything, names, godparents etc with this pregnancy i want to decide everything and my FIL is starting at the end of the day he never makes an effort to see my son, only phones when he wants something, never asks how my son is when he calls xx

 

[SarahCarps2be]

Oh dear, men just don't have a clue.

I chose Nevaeh Jai for a girl.. And when I first said about it, my Dad thought I said "labia" LOL.

When I found out it was a boy, he said I'm glad you didnt have a girl as I wouldn;t be able to get "pissflaps" out of my head....

Thanks dad!

At the end of the day hun, it's your baby, if you love the name you chose, call her that!! It's your choice, not your FIL's choice!
There'll always be someone out there that doesn't agree with something, and it just happens to be your FIL.

Ignore it and call your child whatever you want

 

[mandii]

i will be but its the pure audacity he has, when he calls its always to either ask my oh to do something for him or to drop subtle hints, also anytime he speaks to my son on the phone he gets him to swear im at my wits end x

 

[netty]

i wouldnt let someone like that have anything to do with my kids until they grew up themselves!! what an idiot goodness i bet he makes you mad, doesnt your oh say anything

 

[mandii]

yeah lynette but it doesnt make a difference we went apeshit last week at him and he promised he would stop but done it again last night, i tried explaining that if he keeps it up then my son wont get into nursery and hes like "the wean could be trying to say anything nursery wont know hes swearing" ive told my OH if it doesnt stop then my FIL wont have access to his grandkids xx

 

[netty]

well you do right! you shouldnt teach a child to swear!? how stupid is he!!

you stick to your guns sweety xx

 

[MrsDraven]

Eugh! Sorry but he sounds like an idiot! It's your child, therefore your choice. My mother was the same tbh. We've chosen Bethany should we have a girl and she was trying to convince me to change my mind because it was her ex husbands nieces name. Why should we care? They're not the ones having them! Bleh!

 

[mandii]

totally agree mrsdraven, its just i feel i cant do anything right he has a go about anything/everything, my husbands job, my sons health (my son has chest problems and the last time my son was ill my FIL blame me by saying hes fed up worrying about his grandson being ill because i dont take him out in the cold apparently my son doesnt have an immune system, if my son didnt have an immune system then he would catch everything going and be in hospital all the time) xx

 

[Leah04x]

Urgh god! I've had exactly the same with my nan sticking her oar in, trying to change my mind about my LOs name! They've had chance to have their own children & name their own children, now it's your turn! haha Choose the name you like, stuff everyone else!! xx

 

[TaffyRose]

Like the others have said it's your baby so your choice hun (plus I think they are lovely names). We were very cagey about names as everyone has an opinion and to be honest I really didn't want to hear their opinions. As long as you and OH like the name that's all that matters xxx