Fibbing Toerag

[Jade&Evie]

My boyfriend works with a girl who he has no qualms about telling me is a complete hussy and already slept with half the blokes she works with- regardless of girlfriends or families.... Just before Xmas she went and had her boobs done and since then has become even more of a hussy! She always offers to give my OH lifts to work events- even though she lives the opposite direction and I find it really weird.

Being paranoid I looked at his phone a few nights ago and there are calls to her mobile that he makes 10 minutes after he would have left work and he texts her then deletes what he sends (he has a thing on his phone where you can see a list of last recipients... he hasn't worked that out yet! ) I asked him about it but he said its all very innocent- he deletes the messages because he can't be bothered with my moaning about her and that he doesn't find her attractive- she's just a work mate but I am findind it really hard at the mo- because I am used to being the one that gets the attention and a big bump is a little off putting to most blokes! Now, I hate it when he goes out for work events because I know she is there and I don't trust her...

Did anyone else find themselves paranoid when they were pregnant???

 

[Strangeness]

There was a girl at my dh's work who was the same. She was minging though but the only girl who worked in the factory so she got around. One day when we were shopping my dh got a text on his phone and told me to read it like he usually does and it was from her saying "I'll be at football tonight, looking forward to seeing you in your shorts!" I was so upset and my dh looked even more upset. It was totally innocent on his part but it really threw me! He had a go at her at football and told her to delete his number and never contact him again. I believe that nothing ever happened between them but that was only because he wouldn't do that to me and didn't fancy her. Some girls are just out to get one thing whether it hurts families or not.

 

[kazlin]

Grrrrr don't you hate girls like that. Where IS their self respect!

Can't really offer any advice but want to give you a

 

[lfc_sarah]

To be honest...

If your OH doesnt like her ect...

Then he shouldnt text/ring her...
Especially out of work

I dont think hes being fair to you if he continues to do it after youve spoken to him

 

[Babylicious]

He shouldn't really be texting her and if it was innocent why delete them?

 

[jayla's mummy]

i was the same wen i was pregnant and still am. my suspiction was true.
and even though its been months since they kissed i still find her number on his phone. he says ' oh i didnt ring her' yeah fooking right !!!

 

[Jade&Evie]

i actually dont think I could cope with that- the paranoia is bad enough- if I found out anything had actually gone on I would be beside myself...

Funnily enough he is out at a work meal with her now and she has managed to wangle him to give her a lift home- apparantly I am unreasonable because the only difference between her and any other work mates is the fact she is female...

(.AND A HUSSY.)

Men.

 

[nickilubs]

He really needs a talking to! Ask him to respect you, of course your going to be more sensitive I haven't even really started growing a bump yet and I sit around getting arsey coz I'm gonna be all Mum-ified and theres all pretty skinny girls walking about every where who wouldn't think twice about breaking up a family to make themselfs feel good.

Truth is now you know he texts her then he has no reason to delete the messages he sends. But really he should just respect you and stop sending them altogether.

 

[sazzylou]

if it makes you uncomfortable then he should respect you and gt rid of the texts and stop contacting her. If he doesnt like her he's got nowt to lose! Id expect my OH to do it if i asked him

I hate preggers paranoia....I went to OH's work do at xmas and i had a crap time He'd been telling me that he had some girls in from their offices over in spain and he was saying theyre all really annoying and they do his head in cos he has to work with them everyday and theyre agrivating.........anyway, we get to his work do's and theyre all like SUPERMODELS and im all dumpy being 5 months preggers and feeling like poo. And they were VERY friendly to him, which just made me feel a bit humiliated cos i felt like all his workmates were looking at me to see what my reaction was Then theyd come over to talk to him and cuddle him, and say things like "we all love martin" which really annoyed me He did look a bit embarrassed himself, but i did say if it was the other way around, he wouldnt have bloody liked it

He was just lucky that being pregnant i could drink.......if i had been drunk, i may have made the situation worse....

It wasnt his fault. He's a nice bloke, and some spanish women were drunk and acting silly, and to be fair, they did it to a lot of people (male and female) but my hormones meant he got a right telling off

 

[Slinky Sarah]

there is a woman like that where my OH works...Sometimes my OH and his work mate have to go out driving with her to pick up other cars etc...Every time they go out she talks about how much she loves big black c*cks and all this sorta crap. Not so long ago she was telling my OH she had a sex dream about him and his work mate...He told me about it all and tbh it does annoy me a little but i know that he wont do owt cos he thinks she a slapper!!!
If he was texting her out of work and stuff then that would upset me too...espec if he says he doesnt like her and everything.
OH's work mate was very shocked that he told me baout what she said...if he had told his missus then she would most likely have kicked him out! Now she is very very paranoid for some reason...

I would tell him you dont like that he is hiding things from you...but i dont think he is doig anything with her...i mean he told you to look at his phone so if he was trying to hide something from you im sure he would guard his phone with his life

 

[keli]

Preggers or not i would not be happy!! Think you right to moan etc and giving her a lift home omg i would go mad!!! He should stop outside of work contact with her i think be'cos he knows you don't like it.. also i think i'd have a word with her next time i saw he..what she playing at?? .. but i am single so what do i know xx

 

[NooNoo]

Im sorry but I wouldnt put up with it...I had this with my ex and i told him straight...you either tell her and cut all contact or I will

I hate the way men think at times...

Just think...If it was the other way round..would you put up with a guy from work upsetting ur oh like this ***** is doing to you...no way

 

[Moomum]

Nope - wouldn't have it. Ask him to delete her number from his phone. Why does he need it anyway and why does he call her

 

[Minime]

Dont they spend enough time together in work???

My OH never speaks to anyone outside work except in a very rare circumstance and rarely attends works do's (Maybe once a year if he cant get out of it) Before we met a girl in his place used to flirt with him and when his marriage broke down everyone assumed they would get together but she kept saying she was busy and stuff suddenly playing hard to get so in the meantime we met and well she wasnt quick enough was she.
Apparantly she wasn't happy, she wasnt even seeing him she blew him out when he became available After we started seeing each other she'd still flirt and give him playful little digs, he'd tell me about it. I just said well ok perhaps me and my (male) colleague shall playfight in the office shall we? He got the point and told her straight to stop.

After then we went to one work do and he introduced me to everyone except her. I KNEW who she was and could see her nudging and whispering with her mate. Also at xmas everyone else in the office sends cards to my OH and me or they put OH and family, she signs it to him LOVE her

Some women just seem to go for the unobtainable, maybe their self esteem is that low it is the only thing that makes them feel good about themselves. As you've been advised hun with someone like that and he's obviously texting her and stuff then I'd also be saying cut contact, there is no need to speak outside work.

 

[trixipaws]

yes i was very paranoid when i was pregnant, i felt so fat coz i almost doubled my weight! (i was underweight b4 tho)

but, i really dont think he should be texting her, especially as lfc_sarah says, if he says he doesnt like her. ur not being unreasonable he should be more sensitive.

my boyf has a box of old letters and cards from ex's, which i dont mind (i hav some too from mine) but when i met him he had a piece of material on his notice board, when i asked him what it was, he told me a girl he shagged once ripped a bit off her dress and gave it as a memento, i found it amusing at first tbh but when i was pregnant and hormonal i got annoyed once and asked him why he had to keep the "stupid slag's bit of dress" (LOL a bit of insecurity coming out in me hehe) and u kno what? he unpinned it and threw it out the window onto the road! (we live on a main road) and hugged me. looking back i was being silly but he did it to make me happy and not jealous!

i think thats how ur OH should act, whether ur unreasonable or not (and i think ur not) he should do whatever it takes to appease u, as ur gonna be the mother of his child!

 

[dannii87]

Ahh that's a horrible situation to be in... I really feel for you.

Something sounds a little odd there though, sorry to say

I have no advice to follow this and don't even know why I'm saying it but I used to check my OHs phone ALL the time (not baby's dad, the one I was with for 3 years beforehand) not because he gave me any other suspicions other than he talked about one girl at work all the time.

Anyway, I confronted him a few times when I'd see texts off her saying "I'll buy you a Chelsea shirt when I go to the game this weekend babe" she sounded like his perfect girl, loved Chelsea FC, drank beer, was pretty etc, but why the hell was she buying MY BOYFRIEND presents?! After that, he just used to keep his phone on him constantly and I never got the chance to check the phone again! It killed me!

Hope everything works out xx

 

[HideiLu]

I would be paranoid too hun, even when not pregnant! Only as he doesn't seem to have a real reason for messaging her or deleting the messages...using you moaning is not exceptable...he's the one texting and he needs to take responsibility for it. x