:\ Feel so hurt

[xSebbiesMumx]

How come when you overcome one hurdle, anothers not far behind to bring you right back down again!

We have conquered so many things and managed to come out the other end without killing each other but i really dont know how long i can resist the urge not to kill my fiance lol!..

So recently he fell out with his friend (one of two lesbians), she soon realised she was in the wrong and apologised to my fiance..So he forgave her and their right back to being budsome buddies again much to my dismay! (got nothing against her but meh!)..They talk all the time on whatsapp and yesterday he left it on..Ever the nosey bugger I am and i know i shouldn't be but sometimes you just cant help yourself!, so anyway he was telling her how miserable he felt and that he couldn't talk to me and when she asked him why he said he didn't want to bother me and id probably just laugh at him!..In the 3 years we've been together ive never been as shocked as i was reading that, ive only seen him cry on a few occasions and even on those few times i didn't once laugh or mock him in any way!..It just annoys me how he can tell his stupid friends his problems but he cant actually tell his fiance he's been with all this time!

He also talks to the other girl who is now the lesbian's ex, and they always talk about how when he eventually sees her he wants 'a cuddle'..And the cheeky mare has even asked my fiance to bring fags (cigarettes) with him when he goes up next..Oh we're fine we're just struggling for money ourselves let alone funding her stupid tobacco habit!, I have a right job persuading him to buy some for me but when she asks him its..Yes, of course hun!

Ive been cheated on before and i just cant help but have that paranoid feeling in the back of my mind!..It might be nothing at the end of the day but i just feel so hurt that he prefers their company over mine!, he's going out with them on Saturday but i just dont want him to!..But i have no right to stop him seeing his friends

I guess its just me being stupid, but thanks for listening

 

[babyslog]

Aww hun

its hard cos confronting him hell.know uve read his fone.
but if done it loads in the past where my OHs friend was talking about me saying im controlling and he was 'pussy whipped' for not letting him.go to town clubbing... ( i didnt even know he was asked out id never stop him ) so i took it apon myself to txt bk his friend and say how i felt and so on.. OH wasnt happy but i said if u cant stand up for me and tell him it was ur choice to.not go to his or town and i had no idea then i will!

its a doffrent story for u cos he said he cant talk to u so it might b best to sot dwn and see whats on his mind.


and for his so called ' friends ' they both need to stop using him!!!! xx

 

[xSebbiesMumx]

Thanks Hun!

It just really annoys me he goes out all the time and I'm left holding the baby, I never really see my friends that much these days because of it! It's really annoying me!! :/

But he's finally spoken to me about what's on his mind so at least we're getting somewhere I suppose!

 

[babyslog]

Atleast he's spoken to you, Onwards and Upwards from here hopefully! xx

 

[Mum2betash]

Sorry to read that.. I read one of your poats before about him helping his lesbian friends having a baby. I think you're an amazing person and so brave to keep going. Xx

 

[leesey]

I think these two friends just sound like nothing but trouble. I quietly watched the other thread about wanting his baby for the second time and not taking no for an answer.

So she has conveniently apologised and now they're conveniently all going out together? Are the two girls back in a relationship or just friends? If this has all magically been re-invigorated I'd be more concerned about their motives. They sound like unbelievably stubborn people but they're happy to apologise then kiss and make up? Sounds suspicious to me.

But I suppose, like you I have been betrayed in the past and I am naturally suspicious.

You are absolutely not being stupid. Your OH knows fine well what these women have put you through, he should be considering your feelings, not theirs.

 

[leesey]

On another note, I know you have been desperately WTT, and there's the big 1 month count down on now, but if I were you I'd really reconsider TTC while you still have these insecurities. Like you said in the other thread, shouldn't make a baby in a broken relationship (and while yours isn't broken, it's not secure as it perhaps has been before) xx