Fed up of feeling so rubbish!

[SF2018]

I have a little girl who is 2 and my pregnancy with her, other than tiredness, was a complete breeze. I know all pregnancies are different and I was lucky to have such an easy pregnancy with her.

This pregnancy so far seems the opposite and I am getting so, so down about how rubbish I feel. For two weeks now every single day has been a struggle. I'm constantly tired, I feel completely drained, I am nauseous (although not being sick) from the moment I wake to the moment I go to sleep. I feel dizzy and light-headed because of feeling so sick and tired. I feel awful before I eat, awful whilst I eat, awful after I've eaten. I'm also finding things are causing sensory overload, mainly with too much noise.

It's such a drastic difference from my first pregnancy, it's actually left me worried if this is normal?!

 

[Princess81]

It’s shocking how bad some women feel in first trimester. Have you had your booking bloods taken yet? Your iron levels could be low

 

[liz85]

Not sure I feel exactly the same but I feel nauseated from am to bed time. It’s constant and same as you before I eat and after. Though I do seem to get some relief at times. I had a pizza last night (shared) and normally I couldn’t eat a big meal. Tonight was different I was back to sick again. I have to lie down some times or go to bed early in the evenings I feel so sick x

 

[Lopez90]

I feel the same!! Just that I have been vomiting a few times and this is my first pregnancy. I am also tired of feeling rubbish ☹️ at least now I know that I am not the the only one feeling this way and same for you. We will hang in there!

 

[netty]

Aw hun this has been me this week and I feel awful for complaining but I've been feeling like utter shit. My evening sickness has moved to the morning and is way worse. I've had a migraine / a nosebleed and constipation plus I can't sleep for needing to piss! Hats off to you with a little one already hun!
I said to my oh the other day I really had no idea how ill pregnancy could make you feel. I was honestly expecting some nausea and that's it haha

Roll on tri1 when we get our glow ffs

 

[MoominGirl]

I'm sorry you're having such a tough time. They really do underestimate tri 1 and since most people haven't disclosed the pregnancy at this point, it can feel very isolating.

I think it doesn't help that the symptoms come and go so every time I think I'm getting somewhere, nope!! I'm feeling rubbish again. Mostly I'm just exhausted but I mean to the point I can barely function sometimes. My current day to day is work, eat, shower, sleep. I'm normally a very good sleeper but I have such vivid dreams that they wake me up and often more than once that I don't even feel well rested when I wake up. I've exiled myself to the spare room as I don't see why I should drag OH down with me!! Nausea hasn't been too bad as long as I eat little and often. I can't manage big meals and I'm totally off sweet things. Anything that can wait will. As the laundry is done and this dishes are washed, everything else can wait lol!! OH has been so good though that I just don't have the energy to care about the little things. Constipation seems to be my new issue this week. Oh the joys!! I keep telling myself that it's short term pain long term gain!!

I hope you feel better soon.

 

[HeatherAH]

I have a little girl who is 2 and my pregnancy with her, other than tiredness, was a complete breeze. I know all pregnancies are different and I was lucky to have such an easy pregnancy with her.

This pregnancy so far seems the opposite and I am getting so, so down about how rubbish I feel. For two weeks now every single day has been a struggle. I'm constantly tired, I feel completely drained, I am nauseous (although not being sick) from the moment I wake to the moment I go to sleep. I feel dizzy and light-headed because of feeling so sick and tired. I feel awful before I eat, awful whilst I eat, awful after I've eaten. I'm also finding things are causing sensory overload, mainly with too much noise.

It's such a drastic difference from my first pregnancy, it's actually left me worried if this is normal?!

I feel exactly the same, this is my first pregnancy (7 weeks) I hate it. on top of the nasty symptoms I feel guilty for hating it, everyone says you should enjoy it and I just feel miserable.

 

[SF2018]

It’s shocking how bad some women feel in first trimester. Have you had your booking bloods taken yet? Your iron levels could be low

Yes, I had my booking appointment a couple of weeks back but won't get results from the blood tests until my 15w appointment. I've been taking an iron supplement in case, as I had low iron in my first pregnancy.

 

[SF2018]

Not sure I feel exactly the same but I feel nauseated from am to bed time. It’s constant and same as you before I eat and after. Though I do seem to get some relief at times. I had a pizza last night (shared) and normally I couldn’t eat a big meal. Tonight was different I was back to sick again. I have to lie down some times or go to bed early in the evenings I feel so sick x

My appetite keeps coming and going, but whatever I eat, I just feel crap! It's like a constant hangover!!

I feel the same!! Just that I have been vomiting a few times and this is my first pregnancy. I am also tired of feeling rubbish ☹️ at least now I know that I am not the the only one feeling this way and same for you. We will hang in there!

Definitely feels less lonely knowing others feel this rubbish!

 

[SF2018]

Aw hun this has been me this week and I feel awful for complaining but I've been feeling like utter shit. My evening sickness has moved to the morning and is way worse. I've had a migraine / a nosebleed and constipation plus I can't sleep for needing to piss! Hats off to you with a little one already hun!
I said to my oh the other day I really had no idea how ill pregnancy could make you feel. I was honestly expecting some nausea and that's it haha

Roll on tri1 when we get our glow ffs

Ha, I'm not expecting a healthy glow this time! I had it straight away with my daughter but this time I am a hormonal spotty greasy mess!

I expected to feel this rubbish with my daughter, but didn't, so feeling like it now is a bit of a shock!

I'm sorry you're having such a tough time. They really do underestimate tri 1 and since most people haven't disclosed the pregnancy at this point, it can feel very isolating.

I think it doesn't help that the symptoms come and go so every time I think I'm getting somewhere, nope!! I'm feeling rubbish again. Mostly I'm just exhausted but I mean to the point I can barely function sometimes. My current day to day is work, eat, shower, sleep. I'm normally a very good sleeper but I have such vivid dreams that they wake me up and often more than once that I don't even feel well rested when I wake up. I've exiled myself to the spare room as I don't see why I should drag OH down with me!! Nausea hasn't been too bad as long as I eat little and often. I can't manage big meals and I'm totally off sweet things. Anything that can wait will. As the laundry is done and this dishes are washed, everything else can wait lol!! OH has been so good though that I just don't have the energy to care about the little things. Constipation seems to be my new issue this week. Oh the joys!! I keep telling myself that it's short term pain long term gain!!

I hope you feel better soon.

I am with you on the barely functioning. It just feels like EVERYTHING is an impossible task, doesn't it? Trying to keep on top of the housework isn't going so well for me... currently working my way through 7 piles of cleaning washing to put away, ahhh!

Thank you, you too!

I feel exactly the same, this is my first pregnancy (7 weeks) I hate it. on top of the nasty symptoms I feel guilty for hating it, everyone says you should enjoy it and I just feel miserable.

I think people need to remember you can be grateful and appreciative of your chance to have a baby, whilst still feeling rubbish in yourself physically, mentally and emotionally!!

 

[HeatherAH]

I feel exactly the same, this is my first pregnancy (7 weeks) I hate it. on top of the nasty symptoms I feel guilty for hating it, everyone says you should enjoy it and I just feel miserable.

I think people need to remember you can be grateful and appreciative of your chance to have a baby, whilst still feeling rubbish in yourself physically, mentally and emotionally!![/QUOTE]

yes! Its so good to know i'm not alone! Hopefully not many more weeks of feeling rubbish, then I can have the 'glow' promised by all the movies?!? haha! I will just enjoy not feeling sick and tired all the time! Excited deep down! Husband is very excited which is wonderful to see

 

[Lolly321]

Nice to see I am in good company, although its not a nice place to be in some way. I too have the guilt feelings of I should be feeling lucky that I am feeling nauseous - buts its all day every day at the moment. I am lucky I have been allowed to work from home or I am not sure how I would cope.
Emotionally I feel all over the place - it can be really lonely at times.

At the moment, I am ruled by eating - sometimes it helps and sometimes it doesn't. I am so exhausted, even getting out of bed and having a shower is too much sometimes.

Sorry for the negative post - I'm sure if will get easier in time.
xx

 

[Lauripop]

I had a little cry this morning getting ready for work. I think the worst part is that it’s still too early to tell most people so I just sit in work feeling like crap trying to act like I’m fine. The constant nausea is exhausting on top of already feeling so tired.

 

[RWW84]

Nice to see I am in good company, although its not a nice place to be in some way. I too have the guilt feelings of I should be feeling lucky that I am feeling nauseous - buts its all day every day at the moment. I am lucky I have been allowed to work from home or I am not sure how I would cope.
Emotionally I feel all over the place - it can be really lonely at times.

At the moment, I am ruled by eating - sometimes it helps and sometimes it doesn't. I am so exhausted, even getting out of bed and having a shower is too much sometimes.

Sorry for the negative post - I'm sure if will get easier in time.
xx

Hi Lolly, sorry you are feeling so rough. Your experience sounds very similar to mine, I was at my wit's end: sick, tired, and depressed, at my worst between 6-8 weeks where most days I struggled to get out of bed or wash. I couldn't work out what I wanted to eat, if anything, but an empty stomach made me worse. Anything I did eat, made me puke or fall asleep. Smells were disgusting and I couldn't step foot in the kitchen without retching. Fortunately (?!) I was on strike at work during this period - it essentially acted as unpaid sick leave as I laid in bed. It was also terrible weather so was a pain getting around and my partner had not yet moved in with me so I was living alone. I felt so isolated, and even though a few friends and family members knew, the days felt very long indeed.

Sorry for the rant - I just wanted you to know that you're not alone. I don't know how far gone you are, but I started to feel better around 9/10 weeks -considerably so - and now just have the odd day here and there where I feel cack. I'm 13 weeks now. So it will get better, I promise, and when it does, you will feel like you have got a whole new lease of life chin up as best you can xx

 

[Lolly321]

Hi Lolly, sorry you are feeling so rough. Your experience sounds very similar to mine, I was at my wit's end: sick, tired, and depressed, at my worst between 6-8 weeks where most days I struggled to get out of bed or wash. I couldn't work out what I wanted to eat, if anything, but an empty stomach made me worse. Anything I did eat, made me puke or fall asleep. Smells were disgusting and I couldn't step foot in the kitchen without retching. Fortunately (?!) I was on strike at work during this period - it essentially acted as unpaid sick leave as I laid in bed. It was also terrible weather so was a pain getting around and my partner had not yet moved in with me so I was living alone. I felt so isolated, and even though a few friends and family members knew, the days felt very long indeed.

Sorry for the rant - I just wanted you to know that you're not alone. I don't know how far gone you are, but I started to feel better around 9/10 weeks -considerably so - and now just have the odd day here and there where I feel cack. I'm 13 weeks now. So it will get better, I promise, and when it does, you will feel like you have got a whole new lease of life chin up as best you can xx

Thanks so much RWW84 - this have given me some hope!
So nice to hear that I'm not alone.

It's hard for people to understand that nausea really affects you too. I maybe get an hour or so where I don't feel sick throughout the day and like you, anything can set it off. The smells are just the worst. Thankfully my husband has been the best, but he's been learning too from me describing how I am feeling.

I'm 8 weeks tomorrow so I am hoping that I start to feel better around week 9/10

Thanks again for the message xx

 

[Melanie3103]

I have days when I feel poop, then I'm ok for a couple of days... so mine symptoms come n go... sorry you are feeling rough xxx

 

[RWW84]

Hi Lolly, sorry you are feeling so rough. Your experience sounds very similar to mine, I was at my wit's end: sick, tired, and depressed, at my worst between 6-8 weeks where most days I struggled to get out of bed or wash. I couldn't work out what I wanted to eat, if anything, but an empty stomach made me worse. Anything I did eat, made me puke or fall asleep. Smells were disgusting and I couldn't step foot in the kitchen without retching. Fortunately (?!) I was on strike at work during this period - it essentially acted as unpaid sick leave as I laid in bed. It was also terrible weather so was a pain getting around and my partner had not yet moved in with me so I was living alone. I felt so isolated, and even though a few friends and family members knew, the days felt very long indeed.

Sorry for the rant - I just wanted you to know that you're not alone. I don't know how far gone you are, but I started to feel better around 9/10 weeks -considerably so - and now just have the odd day here and there where I feel cack. I'm 13 weeks now. So it will get better, I promise, and when it does, you will feel like you have got a whole new lease of life chin up as best you can xx

Thanks so much RWW84 - this have given me some hope!
So nice to hear that I'm not alone.

It's hard for people to understand that nausea really affects you too. I maybe get an hour or so where I don't feel sick throughout the day and like you, anything can set it off. The smells are just the worst. Thankfully my husband has been the best, but he's been learning too from me describing how I am feeling.

I'm 8 weeks tomorrow so I am hoping that I start to feel better around week 9/10

Thanks again for the message xx

Yes, it can be hard for our partners - they try to be supportive but don't really 'get it'. In saying that, you can't really 'get it' until you've experienced it yourself - I now think I didn't really understand what nausea and exhaustion were until I got pregnant! I found the two fed off each other. To the outside observer, it just looks and sounds like melodrama, but it absolutely isn't. It's truly debilitating.

I found weeks 7 and 8 to be the worst, by the beginning of week 9 I started having more good days than bad, and that's still the case for me now, thankfully. I found once the smell aversions started to ease off, the sickness did too, and I could think about eating without wanting to heave everywhere. Once the nausea eases, you can go about your business semi-normally and concentrate! I do as much as I can on the good days, and the 'off' days are not on the same level as they once were.

I honestly think things will start improving for you in the next week or two - hang on in there and know that you've not gone mad, and you're not exaggerating - the first trimester is truly shit for some women xxx

 

[MoominGirl]

For me weeks 6-8 were definitely the worst. I'm starting to feel a little more human as I'm approaching week 10. Still similar symptoms but just not quite as bad. I will be asleep before 10 but I've just accepted this as the new norm!! We've had a few really busy shifts at work and I haven't felt totally wrecked like I would have done a few weeks ago.

With food I've been very lucky really. I've been managing 3 meals a day although I've had to reduce portion size a bit as my appetite just isn't as good but really I've been able to eat most of the things I do normally. The only thing I'm finding is I'm not really enjoying food that much. I'm also really not eating sweet things. Crisps and savoury treats are find but sweet things just feel wasted on me. I'm very thankful as I've always been sickly so I always looked like the perfect candidate for hyperemesis. Every time I feel sorry for myself I keep reminding myself of how much worse I expected it to be.

Lauripop - is there anyone at work you can maybe have a quiet word with? I know you won't want to but it might help more to have a bit of support. My job has a lot of risks in pregnancy so I always just accepted the fact that I'd need to break the rules and tell people early that I normally wouldn't. It's the little things like making sure you get your breaks and just knowing you can go to someone if you need to step out for a bit.

Lolly - during my roughest weeks, I could barely get out of bed some days and I felt truly pathetic. We were on a city break when it truly hit me and I felt like such a burden as we had so much planned and I just couldn't do it. My husband was so lovely and we just had to reduce the pace right down. It just felt like all I was worried about was how quickly I could get back to bed!! Of course the timing was just unfortunate as it was all prebooked but boy did I feel rotten at the time!! If you're around 8 weeks, hopefully you will start to feel better soon!!