Fed up and a rant!

[kellylou]

I am bridesmaid for a wedding and due to being pregnant cannot go to the hen night as it is a fair distance away to travel by car on my own, day activities and then evening out boozing and sharing a room with bunk beds at a hotel.
Athough nothing has been said the bride to be has not spoken to me for a good few weeks she knows I am not going but has not asked the reason why just chosen to ignore me I feel really hurt as I have not really done anything wrong I just cannot afford to spend money on something I will not fully be able to participate in and spend the whole night on edge worrying about the bump which will be quite pronounced and of course I have to put my health first.
We have tried to come up with a compromise which the bride actually wanted to do but the person in charge would not budge and accused me of taking over even though all I did was offer to help and maybe help to invite people that was it.

I feel really hurt that I am being ignored and not even asked and I really am not looking forward to the wedding and having to spend time with the rest of the bridal party when half of them have not been welcoming at all and hubby is going to be sat on the other side of the church

Is it me or is this all a little bit childish, I want to say something but hubby says I have done nothing wrong and if they want to sulk let them but I had any tension especially now and all this kicked off in the early stages of my pregnancy and had me in tears argh

Sorry for the rant just haven't really got anyone to talk to about this as hubby doesn't understand womens thoughts

 

[JJ Mum]

It sounds lie the wedding and hen do , is quite a while away , and so by then you will have told the bride your good news about the baby and then you can have a heart to heart and clear the air, so wouldn't worry about it for now X

 

[kellylou]

hiya its next month and the bride does know and just seems to be avoiding the issue x

 

[Lacey's Mummy]

Is she happy that your pregnant? If I was the bride and my friend couldn't come because she was pregnant, I'd be fine with that. Sounds really petty the way she's treating you!

 

[kellylou]

She was when i told her ut she really wants a baby too but she currently isnt un the position too with money and living arrangement s etc

 

[xxClaire_24xx]

How far do you need to travel? Last time I was pregnant I went to spain for a hen weekend and I was 5 month pregnant and loved it,I think that if you really cant go then they coukd have changed the arrangements xx

 

[kellylou]

It's just cos I will have to drive 3 hours after a long day at work then all day there are activities and a night out and I am just tired all the time, its more a case that the other bridesmaid has being making out I am saying things I am not and its just pathetic really its a case of when they are in your situation they would be exactly the same but because they are not they are just being a bit awkward

 

[xxClaire_24xx]

Do they all know that you are pregnant? I think that its a bit nasty that even if they dont know you are pregnatn to be so horrible too xx

 

[kellylou]

Yes they know but just went ahead an booked it, I know its her big day and would never want them to change to accommodate me its just the bride told me what she would prefer to do something but the chief didn't want to listen and now I just get ignored

 

[xxClaire_24xx]

well use you pregancy hormones and go mad ha ha!!! Im sure they could change some of the arrangements xx

 

[Lacey's Mummy]

Arrange to go for a meal with the bride hun, just the 2 of you!! At least then you get to do something with her but won't have to stay out late with the others! x x

 

[vixforever]

Arrange to go for a meal with the bride hun, just the 2 of you!! At least then you get to do something with her but won't have to stay out late with the others! x x

I agree with LM, that's a lovely idea!

 

[sexyamy2005]

both my bridesmaids were 6 1/2 months at my wedding last year, 1 is my now sister in law and best mate, both chose not to come on my hen doo which i was fine with, to be honest, it was a faff trying to get there dresses altered because when i picked and ordered them neither were pregnant,lol but you must be a close friend or relative to her if she has asked you to be a bridesmaid so allthough its a stressfull time she needs to take your feelings into consideration and tell the rest of the bridal party your not risking anything for the health of your child and they can stuff!

good luck, and its not you with the problem, tis them

xxx

 

[kellylou]

Thanks makes me feel better, she was my bridesmaid at my wedding and was supposed to stay the night before but chose to see her hubby as she had been working away and let me down the day before did I go mad and sulk no I just got on with it but other people have noticed how she is being really arsey recently, stressed or not there is no excuse x

 

[sexyamy2005]

aww bless ya hun, she needs to get it sorted out and try not to worry about it, as long as your happy and healthy im sure in the long run thats what she will want

xxx