Fallen over... Really f***ed off!

[HeppiBean]

Ok, as most of you probably know OH has an obsession with having his mate round every f***ing day. I don't mind most of the time, I just get on with my own thing... But just now, thanks to afore mentioned mate, I fell over in the kitchen straight onto bump.

Our kitchen is just like, a bit off the side of our living room, not a separate room so we have the sofa across the gap to partition it a bit which leaves a door sized gap for us to get through. Anyway, OHs mate is laid on the floor with his feet through the gap and the wire for his lap top trailing from the kitchen work surface down across the gap. He always lays there even after me asking him COUNTLESS times to lay somewhere else cause I don't want to risk falling over trying to get into the kitchen. And now look what's happened! I try and get into my own kitchen but because of him stack it and end up in even more f***ing pain that I have been already for the last few days!

Who does he think he is coming round here, ignoring what we say, raping our bandwidth watching video after video after video on iPlayer and playing stupid online games, leaving his rubbish and half eaten food all over the place then p***ing off home and coming back the next day to do the same thing!

AARRGGHHH!!!

Sorry just really needed to moan And bump really is hurting now (but she's still moving ok in there) xx

 

[beanster]

Grrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr Not on at all.
Hope you and bump are ok though - have you been checked over?

 

[KellyHook]

Oh dear hun, big hugs!

What a idiot he is! i hope he apologised and moved out the way (too late i know).

Hope your ok tho xx

 

[HeppiBean]

No but she's wriggling about and just sat listening to her heart for about 10 minutes and all seems ok xx

 

[HeppiBean]

Oh dear hun, big hugs!

What a idiot he is! i hope he apologised and moved out the way (too late i know).

Hope your ok tho xx

And nope he's still laying there... OH just said I should "watch where I'm going" x

 

[KellyHook]

Oh dear hun, big hugs!

What a idiot he is! i hope he apologised and moved out the way (too late i know).

Hope your ok tho xx

And nope he's still laying there... OH just said I should "watch where I'm going" x

OMG, i would of wanted to just punch him straight in the face, well actually both of them! Bloody Men!

 

[Mummy2Adam]

Big hunny, hope your ok.
I would of told him to get out if hes not listening to you, its your house and your rules sweetie x x

 

[HeppiBean]

I'd love to tell him to piss off but if I do OH will get the arse x

 

[almeria]

erm, so what if OH gets the arse?
chuck this guy out, and make OH grow up and support you a bit more, sounds like a ridiculous situation for you!
x

 

[Mummy2Adam]

I'd love to tell him to piss off but if I do OH will get the arse x

Can you not talk to your OH hunny and tell him how you feel? The reason i say this is because if they are there everyday once you have given birth to your little one you will prob want your own space and the last thing you want to be doing is running around cleaning after some inconciderate ar*ehole.
If hes still sat there randomly give him a sly kick everytime you walk past and if he says anything say 'well i warned you to move' x x

 

[HeppiBean]

It's OH's flat... He loves bringing that up when I moan about ANYTHING "my flat, my rules"... Want my own place tbh but the council won't help me unless OH actually kicks me out x

 

[HeppiBean]

I'd love to tell him to piss off but if I do OH will get the arse x

Can you not talk to your OH hunny and tell him how you feel? The reason i say this is because if they are there everyday once you have given birth to your little one you will prob want your own space and the last thing you want to be doing is running around cleaning after some inconciderate ar*ehole.
If hes still sat there randomly give him a sly kick everytime you walk past and if he says anything say 'well i warned you to move' x x

He's been round everyday pretty much since dec 10... Had the odd 3/4 day gap when I moan but that's it... TBH it's got to the stage where I'd rather just go and sit in the park and read til he leaves than stay here...

 

[Mummy2Adam]

It's OH's flat... He loves bringing that up when I moan about ANYTHING "my flat, my rules"... Want my own place tbh but the council won't help me unless OH actually kicks me out x

Sorry to say this but it sounds like your OH needs to grow up and start looking after what matters most, you and your LO.
Do you pay towards the bills? If you do and he ever says its 'my flat, my rules' say well if its your flat you can pay all the bills, hes not being very fair x x

 

[HeppiBean]

It's OH's flat... He loves bringing that up when I moan about ANYTHING "my flat, my rules"... Want my own place tbh but the council won't help me unless OH actually kicks me out x

Sorry to say this but it sounds like your OH needs to grow up and start looking after what matters most, you and your LO.
Do you pay towards the bills? If you do and he ever says its 'my flat, my rules' say well if its your flat you can pay all the bills, hes not being very fair x x

It's a council flat. We get housing and council tax benefit and we're on benefits, joint claim. But the claim is in my name so strictly speaking I pay for all the shopping and the electric and our phone and internet are in my name so I pay for them... x

 

[almeria]

oh right..
well, can you tell the council you are living in a dangerous environment?
the only other thing i can think of is to go to a shelter, then they have to find you somewhere, but at your stage of pregnancy, i am sure you don't want to do that!
doesn't OH care about you and baby?
hugs x

 

[HeppiBean]

He says he does... But it honestly doesn't feel like it x

 

[almeria]

just read your above post, if you get housing benefit, why is he saying it is HIS flat??

 

[HeppiBean]

cause the tenancy is in his name only x

 

[Mummy2Adam]

I'd love to tell him to piss off but if I do OH will get the arse x

Can you not talk to your OH hunny and tell him how you feel? The reason i say this is because if they are there everyday once you have given birth to your little one you will prob want your own space and the last thing you want to be doing is running around cleaning after some inconciderate ar*ehole.
If hes still sat there randomly give him a sly kick everytime you walk past and if he says anything say 'well i warned you to move' x x

He's been round everyday pretty much since dec 10... Had the odd 3/4 day gap when I moan but that's it... TBH it's got to the stage where I'd rather just go and sit in the park and read til he leaves than stay here...

You cant be sitting in the park with your little one all the time hunny, try and speak to him and let him know hes being very selfish. Massive x x

 

[knopk@]

Difficult situation, your OH clearly doesnt want to grow up, you and LO should always come first. I just dont know how you can tolerate this - I would have kicked up a fuss.

Will council not help you at all? Did you write to them? Surely with all your wrote ie smoking in the house etc they should provide you with accomodation or at least put you on the list?