p1nk11
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I really thought that I was starting to feel a bit better the last few days, been able to think of things & not get upset but now I'm right back where I started & am writing this through tears
Last night OH & myself went out to a comedy club with 4 friends to see Lee Evans as our Valentine/anniversary treat & were staying over friends for the night to carry on the party, I was really looking forward to this as it was my first night out since everything happened. Everything was great, Lee Evans was amazing as he always is, enjoyed a bottle of wine & lots of laughs & then it all went downhill
The last comedian that came on stage started telling jokes about women & labour, & was talking with the audience about their experience & how its the most amazing thing when you hold your baby for the first time, at this point I burst into tears & ran to the toilets screaming & shaking. I must of been looking upset before this as my friend had been sat holding my hand tightly from the time the jokes began I couldnt hold back the tears as all I could think about was the first time I held our baby. We left once I had calmed down & went back to the house & had a few drinks but I just felt so sad & guilty as I felt I ruined everyone else's night because I couldn't hold in my tears. I apologised to everyone who told me not to be silly but I still feel really bad. I was awake all night crying & thinking of our little girl.
And then tonight my mum phoned to see if I'd had a good night so told her details (leaving out about crying) for her to then say she has some good news - my 'sister' (very close friend who my parents think of another daughter) is 9wks pregnant! I know I should be happy for her & I really am, but I feel so jealous & sad at the same time ( & hugely guilty for this too) I managed to sound cheerful on the phone but as soon as I hung up I burst into tears. My mum was so cheerful when she told me - I know this is silly (& probably sounds selfish) but it really hurt! I know she never meant it to. When I told OH he just told me to be happy & not get upset
I really think life is against me at the mo, I want my baby back but everyone else seems to be having theirs. Theres so much going on in my head, I feel so low right now I dont know how to pick myself back up, I just wish I could make everything disappear.
Last night OH & myself went out to a comedy club with 4 friends to see Lee Evans as our Valentine/anniversary treat & were staying over friends for the night to carry on the party, I was really looking forward to this as it was my first night out since everything happened. Everything was great, Lee Evans was amazing as he always is, enjoyed a bottle of wine & lots of laughs & then it all went downhill
The last comedian that came on stage started telling jokes about women & labour, & was talking with the audience about their experience & how its the most amazing thing when you hold your baby for the first time, at this point I burst into tears & ran to the toilets screaming & shaking. I must of been looking upset before this as my friend had been sat holding my hand tightly from the time the jokes began I couldnt hold back the tears as all I could think about was the first time I held our baby. We left once I had calmed down & went back to the house & had a few drinks but I just felt so sad & guilty as I felt I ruined everyone else's night because I couldn't hold in my tears. I apologised to everyone who told me not to be silly but I still feel really bad. I was awake all night crying & thinking of our little girl.
And then tonight my mum phoned to see if I'd had a good night so told her details (leaving out about crying) for her to then say she has some good news - my 'sister' (very close friend who my parents think of another daughter) is 9wks pregnant! I know I should be happy for her & I really am, but I feel so jealous & sad at the same time ( & hugely guilty for this too) I managed to sound cheerful on the phone but as soon as I hung up I burst into tears. My mum was so cheerful when she told me - I know this is silly (& probably sounds selfish) but it really hurt! I know she never meant it to. When I told OH he just told me to be happy & not get upset
I really think life is against me at the mo, I want my baby back but everyone else seems to be having theirs. Theres so much going on in my head, I feel so low right now I dont know how to pick myself back up, I just wish I could make everything disappear.