Ok this is likely to turn into a rant so I apologise in advance I just wondered if anyone else was having similar problems.
I have never particularly liked my in laws but was always polite with them because at the end of the day they are my DH's parents. This all changed when I was pregnant with my son. My MIL turned into the most interfering thoughtless person I have ever met. She would come to my house several times a day criticising everything I did, right down to my washing powder wasn't good enough so she should wash the babies clothes ready for the birth (i use daz??and her house stinks). She told me I was stupid for wanting a homebirth , why would I breastfeed as it would stop her having precious time with her grandchild, and said hat I should listen to what I was told as I was too young to know what I was talking about ! (i'm 27 and already had 2 kids!)
Anyway I told DH I wanted nothing to do with them but would let them see baby as I felt it would be beneficial for him to know his grandparents. We arranged a few times to drop him off at theirs and pick him up later on. On the first occassion his mam asked if she could give him cooled boiled water. I said no as he had trouble with his weight at the time and he had EBM to be given. When we came back she said she had given it anyway. I noticed that the house smelled smokey and asked if FIL had been smoking and was told he had one at the back door so ignored it . (we had asked him nicely
not to smoke around baby and to open windows b4 he went there )
On the next occassion I was told his mother binned the EBM and gave my baby formula! she said it was because my milk was obviously not good enough, and when I went in the living room to get charlie his dad ws sittin next to him smoking!!!! needless to say I went ape with them. THey said they were not having me tell them what to do in their own house and I said my son was never going there again. It has been 7 months since that day and we so far have not had an apology or even a text asking how charlie is, yet I've heard from other ppl they talk about him as if they have him every day! They blank me if they see me in town, even with charlie and are just horrible people.
Anyway they obviously found out about the new baby and left a message on my answerphone saying how pleased and excited they are. WTF??? These are the same ppl who did not want me to have their family name when we got married as I had been disrespectful telling FIL what to do in his own house. I told them I was being a good parent to my son and told them they could f**k off as I was marrying their son not them.
Am I being unreasonable to not want them to see this baby ?? After all they had no regard for the health of my son and dropped him and their own son like a piece of crap the minute they weren't getting their own way. I just dont want my kids getting messed about. My DH says he never wants to see them again and I know he has been hurt by the way they acted.
Sorry for the huge rant but i do feel beter now
I have never particularly liked my in laws but was always polite with them because at the end of the day they are my DH's parents. This all changed when I was pregnant with my son. My MIL turned into the most interfering thoughtless person I have ever met. She would come to my house several times a day criticising everything I did, right down to my washing powder wasn't good enough so she should wash the babies clothes ready for the birth (i use daz??and her house stinks). She told me I was stupid for wanting a homebirth , why would I breastfeed as it would stop her having precious time with her grandchild, and said hat I should listen to what I was told as I was too young to know what I was talking about ! (i'm 27 and already had 2 kids!)
Anyway I told DH I wanted nothing to do with them but would let them see baby as I felt it would be beneficial for him to know his grandparents. We arranged a few times to drop him off at theirs and pick him up later on. On the first occassion his mam asked if she could give him cooled boiled water. I said no as he had trouble with his weight at the time and he had EBM to be given. When we came back she said she had given it anyway. I noticed that the house smelled smokey and asked if FIL had been smoking and was told he had one at the back door so ignored it . (we had asked him nicely
not to smoke around baby and to open windows b4 he went there )On the next occassion I was told his mother binned the EBM and gave my baby formula! she said it was because my milk was obviously not good enough, and when I went in the living room to get charlie his dad ws sittin next to him smoking!!!! needless to say I went ape with them. THey said they were not having me tell them what to do in their own house and I said my son was never going there again. It has been 7 months since that day and we so far have not had an apology or even a text asking how charlie is, yet I've heard from other ppl they talk about him as if they have him every day! They blank me if they see me in town, even with charlie and are just horrible people.
Anyway they obviously found out about the new baby and left a message on my answerphone saying how pleased and excited they are. WTF??? These are the same ppl who did not want me to have their family name when we got married as I had been disrespectful telling FIL what to do in his own house. I told them I was being a good parent to my son and told them they could f**k off as I was marrying their son not them.
Am I being unreasonable to not want them to see this baby ?? After all they had no regard for the health of my son and dropped him and their own son like a piece of crap the minute they weren't getting their own way. I just dont want my kids getting messed about. My DH says he never wants to see them again and I know he has been hurt by the way they acted.
Sorry for the huge rant but i do feel beter now
i can only say if that was me i wouldn't let them look after my baby or any subsequent babies to come along!!
I think most people have a few jibes from the in-laws but nothing on that scale. Im pretty lucky that mine are really good and we get along well, but I still get the odd comment of 'your milk cant be filling him/her up, you should be bottlefeeding by now' or 'i dont see why you should carry him/her in that thing (sling), they will be spoilt' and 'you should leave them to cry, they will soon learn' etc,etc. BUT they have never tried to change the way I do things and have always respected my wishes. Yes we get the snide comments but they never put anything into action and always ask before doing something with the kids. Everyone is entitled to their opinion, but to take things upon themselves to change the way things are done is totally out of order. I dont blame you for your reaction, I would have done exactly the same!! 
Well done luv!
