do youu think people judge pregnant women for *going out*?

[Constantstar]

What do u think?

I mean like to a bar or something? I went out for drinks for a mates bday at like 12 weeks which was ok but I'm clearly showing now at 28 weeks tomorrow and a friend is having drinks in town. I haven't been out for sooo long and just wanna do my make up and hair and feel lovely and part of society again and go for a coke and a chat! BUT do you think people see s pregnant woman in a bar and judge you? I'm going early, they are there from 7 and won't stay late and won't move onto a nightclub or anything but feel like I'm going to get judged as a chavvy unfit mother - when all I wanna do is feel part of it all again and see my mates!! What do u think xx

 

[MrsR]

I think honestly, and please don't take this the wrong way, but honestly I'd go (if I was pg) and not care if anyone judged me. Chances are I won't see them again and I know I'm not drinking alcohol, there's no smoking allowed in bars now and I want to have a great time with my mates! I genuinely don't care how random people judge me. I say go. Enjoy yourself.

 

[midnight]

if i had the money and a babysitter id so be out, its not like your out to get drunk

 

[pinkymum]

People might judge hun but I don't see anything wrong with it, its not like you're going out to get drunk and rolling about the place

So if people judge, then thats their problem, I haven't been out in a pub but I've had a few meals where others have been drinking and I haven't felt judged. Go out and enjoy it

x

 

[Mummy2Adam]

I say go for it, you know you are not drinking and theres no smoking in there like Helen said so I wouldnt care what random strangers thought x x

 

[Constantstar]

Lol thanks guys! Oh I'd def tell em where to go if they had a prob! I will be drinking soft drinks and of course its smoke free. Just feel like I'm gunna get stared at and not in a good way!! Lol xx

 

[Sarah13]

Yeah go for it, I'm out tonight with friends, why should we miss out on catching up with mates, we're not drinking. I intend to live my life much the same as I normally would just paying attention to what I put in my body and staying healthy. I'll ignore anyone who judges me, pregnancy is not an illness and we don't live in the dark ages now, I've always admired pregnant women getting on with life as normal and joining in (feminist in me!) So I will still be going out, going to festivals (maybe stand at back tho!), going to the gym, lots of camping etc etc! Won't be long before having to find a baby sitter will make things much harder to get out! Have a good night x

 

[Hemera]

I wouldn't even think about not going tbh - you're pregnant but you're still allowed to have fun. As long as you're feeling up to it. I would be careful about going into somewhere too crowded as just because you're not drunk doesn't mean you're not vunerable to some random drunk falling over onto you or getting a random elbow.
Honestly us preggo's don't have to be hermits, have fun!

 

[tinselcat]

They have no right to judge you... do these people think that pregnant women should be put in a dark cupboard and locked away for 9 months? You are on soft drinks and taking care of the baby... socialising may be harder in a few months' time so I think you should get out there and enjoy yourself Hope you have a great time!

x

 

[AngelCookie23]

You should go out while you can and still feel up to it! Everyone here is right, people have no right to judge you! I've been to the pub every now and then throughout my pregnancy and tbh haven't had any negativity from anyone. If anything people are more considerate and I've even had strangers touch and ask about bump in the toliets! As long as you take it easy and don't stand for too long and like you said you don't smoke and drink so where's the harm? x

 

[xshauna_bazx]

Go for it! xxx

 

[JellybeanIWant]

I don't think people judge pregnant women JUST for being in a bar, if a pregnant women is sitting there drinking coke and just coke then no one would think anything of it, clearly if a pregnant women who is 28 weeks is completly and utterly bladdered, stumbling her words, making an utter fool out of herself and has a massive bump- her child in her stomach that personaly would be the only time I'd judge a pregnant women in a bar as just because your pregnant doesnt mean you can't have a social life.

x

 

[BabysMomma]

I go out with my OH to a club which runs a drum and base night once a month when its on and it isn't over until 2am! I sit over 1 apple juice all night as I've went off the taste of coke and too much AJ or OJ tastes too sweet and sickens me.

I don't give a fiddlers what other people think. I know that I'm not drinking alcohol and besides, my babi likes a wee bit of d'n'b

You go girl x

 

[Constantstar]

Well I just got in, had a lovely night. Looked massive in my maxi dress tho and a bit self concious but nothing fits lol! I had a couple of cokes and a water. Sat down most of the evening and chatted to people! Got a few looks and a couple of dirty looks when I went to the loo but as u said I wasn't doing anything wrong!it wasn't packed in there at all and my friends looked after me so all in all a good nite x

 

[JellybeanIWant]

Glad you enjoyed your night hun xx

 

[Piglet's Mama]

I've found that with being PG someone's got something to say about EVERYTHING.

Re the drink thing; we've got OH's Granddad for dinner today and OH poured me a glass of Schloer into a wine glass (I like to pretend ) and when I came down from the loo, out of the blue he says, "Well they say pregnant women shouldn't drink at all" and I said, "Yeah I know - I don't" and could see him staring at my glass lol! I was like "It's non alcoholic!" Grrrr - I know what's best for my baby and body without looks and comments! x

 

[BabysMomma]

Glad you ended up going out. What is it with the stares and dirty looks though. Just cos we're pregnant, it doesn't mean that we have to give up on life and become hermits. People never cease to amaze me...for the wrong reasons haha x

 

[tinytoes]

grrrr people annoy me telling me what to eat , drink , wear where I can and cant go and what i can and cant do . Irish people are awful for old wives tales too I was told of for going to a funeral last week !? that being around death could cause me to loose my baby .. insane ! At the end of the day I follow my MW's guidelines and instinct and if I'm happy then thats all that should count xxx

 

[paiges_mum]

good on u mrs,i get paranoid 2, a few of my friends are in bands and i go support them at different venues,pubs/clubs and i do worry what people think but at the end of the day i know im not doing anything wrong,even drinkin from cans so they cant assume its alcohol lol

 

[TiffanyJaynexo]

I think if you were drinking shots like there was no tomorrow, stumbling over, heavily pregnant, throwing up everywhere and being an absolute state.. they have every right to judge you.

But if you're going out for a coke and a chit chat with friends it's perfectly fine! They shouldn't judge you whatsoever.
In fact that sounds rather nice right now but I don't do bars and pubs any more so it would just have to be a cafe or a starbucks for me and my girls! xxx