do youu think people judge pregnant women for *going out*?

[PrincessPeanut]

Well I have to pretty much argee with everything you've all said so far. However I wish I could be that carefree.
At the moment, I go out on a Monday and Tuesday for a quiz and a music night. It's all sitting down chatting type stuff so that is fine. However I'm still going out on a weekend, only for a few hours and I'm normally home before midnight. I always go to the same bar, have done for years, and on a Friday/Saturday night my other half works on the door there. Since being pregnant, he always comes by and checks that I'm ok whilst he's having a walk about. However the last couple of weeks, when we've been sitting chatting and more recently at the weekend when out for a meal with another couple, he got on to talking about a women who was in the bar pregnant at the weekend and how he thought it was wrong. The other couple agreed and started saying how they shouldn't be out in case the get bumped into and all that stuff, which I could see there point but I also wanted to argue and say we still have a right to have a social life. I kept quiet though and just let them get on with it. I'm not sure if the women was drunk/drinking or not but they were having a good old rant about it.
Now I have a feeling in a month or so when bump is more obvious and poking out, we're gonna get into an arguement when I want to go out as he'll not be happy about it incase anything happens. I could understand if I was out clubbing and bouncing around and drinking alcohol, but I'm not, I'm in one bar, he's there all the time and keeps checking that I'm ok and it's only for a few hours. I normally go out about 9ish and I'm home for about 11.30/12 ish. I have a bit natter to friends and a little bit of a bum wiggle if a good song comes on. Is that so wrong? I can see it starting WW3 soon! xx

 

[cherelle]

I totally know what you mean. I havent been in a bar at all since i found out i was pregnant and ive had friends begging me to come just for an OJ and a chance to get glammed up!

It just doesnt feel right to be in that kind of environment but its a shame because i really miss it and i miss a lot of the people i used to see when i did go out! I have been out for lots of lunches and to nice cosy pubs in the evening with a friend or my OH though so its just clubs and bars really that ive avoided x

 

[daisymay]

I don't think people would judge (well unless you were drinking which obviously you won't be). I still go out even though I'm pregnant, just swap the alcohol for juice or a coke! I'm capable of going out so I don't see why I should miss out on friends b-days etc just because I'm preggers lol x

 

[jld123]

I went for a meal for my bf 21st then into a quiet bar with his family and cloSe friends. Upon leaving the bar. A car drove paSsed and a man shouted from his window 'shes pregnant she should be at hOme'. It wAs humiliating ! Why do people think that pregnant women should spend the whole 9 months in bed ? For god sake it's not like i was drinking, doing drugs then selling my body on the street !

 

[hopefulmummy]

I've actually had the totally opposite experience...I went out to a bar in central London a few weeks ago and was drinking non-alchoholic cocktails. I went to the loo and this girl proceeded to go "oohohhhh, when are you due?", pull out her phone, show me pictures of her baby and tell me all about when she went to work.

The group I was with were standing up outside and I nabbed a chair from somewhere else and sat down and I just got a couple of smiles...

But I have to be honest, If I saw a pregnant girl out at a bar drinking and being loud and lairy, I would judge.

 

[PrincessPeanut]

I had one of my work colleagues ask me questions last night when out for a business meal. When we went to the bar he asked if I wanted a double vodka and redbull. My reply was 'i wish'! Then he proceeded to tell me about how his wife just carried on drinking throught her pregnancies and was out partying all the time, knocking back the vodka's and loads of stuff like that, like it was normal! I was mortified! I swiftly changed the subject and walked away to speak to someone else. I couldn't believe it what he was saying. I kinda of half expect if it's a young mum behaving like that not knowing any better (no offence to young mum's on here but I'm on about the idiots you see hanging on street corners and smoking and causing trouble type young mums) but this was a married women who would of been in her late 20's/early 30's behaving like this! !!

xxx