Do you think women should have kids before they are qualifie

[Ebony_Mommy]

..qualified as being midwives..?

Just a thought. I think I would be pissed if I'm in pain and a midwife who aint gone child birth.. telling me what to do when she dont have the slightest idea of what Im feeling...lol

so what are your thoughts?

 

[glitzyglamgirl]

Ive gone for not sure, as its a very good but very tricky question!

From the midwifes point of view, it makes no difference as long as theyve got the biological and medical skills, but from a mothers point of view would it be more comforting to know the midwife has been through this herself? Im really not sure, speaking for myself I dont give a hoot aslong as she doesnt patronise me, gives me the drugs I ask for, and is easy going on the stitches lol

 

[Urchin]

My MW when I delivered Mason had never had kids...at the time I was like "WHAT?" but as long as they know what they are doing I don't care.

 

[hev&madi]

when i was in hospital as few of the training midwifes didnt have children but they were as good as the others hehe

 

[mum2A&L]

when i was in hospital as few of the training midwifes didnt have children but they were as good as the others hehe

same. I find i get better 'treatment' from them as well. They have the time to sit with me, and actually seem interested in what is going on.

 

[Minime]

Thats like saying I shouldnt assess older people because I'm 33 or that I cant advise a drug user because Ive never used drugs....

 

[cassi]

i agree with minime its another job, does a doctor have to have all the problems before he can treat them?

My midwife hadnt had a baby but she was great. they DO know what you are going through, they are trained to know, they have been with countless women giving birth and really i dont think they could do their job any better if they had their own children. every birth and pregnancy is different anyway so how would their birth/pregnancy experience make any difference to how they help you with yours?

 

[gingerpig]

Was just writing the same as Cassi.

 

[budge]

..qualified as being midwives..?

Just a thought. I think I would be p*ssed if I'm in pain and a midwife who aint gone child birth.. telling me what to do when she dont have the slightest idea of what Im feeling...lol

so what are your thoughts?

i don't think its important. I was a mental nurse working with people who have had nercous breakdowns and oher mental illnesses and i was a good nurse despite never experienceing mental illness,.
Its the same with going to the dentist. The dentist doing a filling might never had had a filling in his life but it doesn't make him any less competant as a dentist

So long as the midwife who looks after me makes sure there is gas and air on tap and she doesn't let the baby shoot out and rip me to shreads then im happy. Couldn't care less if shes a nun!

 

[cassi]

 

[Rachel]

Depends on the midwife. The midwife who was looking after me while I was in labour was horrible, wouldnt give me no pain relief and said "It's not that bad" so I then said have you ever had kids and she said no I was like how the f*ck would you know then!! lol

Some of the others who hadnt had kids were nice though and just as good as ones that had no kids so it depends.

 

[Ebony_Mommy]

actually i agree with you all now...

im just getting nervous..lol.. a midwife (w/o kids) telling me to do something.. then another midwife who has kids telling me something else

 

[Ebony_Mommy]

Depends on the midwife. The midwife who was looking after me while I was in labour was horrible, wouldnt give me no pain relief and said "It's not that bad" so I then said have you ever had kids and she said no I was like how the f*ck would you know then!! lol

Some of the others who hadnt had kids were nice though and just as good as ones that had no kids so it depends.

lol! thats wat i meant.. i think i wud probably slap her.. then blame it on the pain

 

[budge]

you'll not care or even think about whether the midwife has had kids or not when you're in labour ebony.

you'll be fine.

 

[Strangeness]

My midwife hadn't had kids and she was the best midwife I had ever met! She was so lovely! She was a right laugh but when things went a bit wrong she was so professional and knew exactly what to do! She even waited past the end of her shift because she said "I ain't leaving until I hear that baby of yours cry!" And she stayed through my c section and told me how gorgeous he was She was amazing!

When I was on the baby ward I had a midwife who had kids who was a complete cow. She was awful to me, probably because I was an unmarried young mum. Stupid cow made my hospital experience so bad I cried.

 

[rusks]

i agree with budge in the respect that i am a paediatric nurse and even though i haven't got kids ( nearly!!) i can empathise with people that have and hopefully pass on my knowledge and experience to them and help them through some tough times, but i never pretend to know everything as everyone deals with things differently for a start.

 

[Sarah&Braydon]

ii had 2 midwifes one had 2 kids the other had none the one that didnt have ne was actually better