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Women 'unprepared for childbirth' article

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Posted today on the BBC.

I have to say, I'm under no illusion about things. I'm not planning my birth with the thought of getting one over on those that have pain relief or any such thing. I am planning a homebirth, gas and air and a birth pool. I hope to manage with as little medical pain relief as possible.Plus exercising now to encourage LO into a good position for delivery. Also hoping to keep as upright and mobile as I can for as long as I can during early labour. I also believe that being in an environment I am happy and comfortable in will make me more relaxed also.

My belief is that its a natural process over a medical one hopefully. But I have not ruled out pain relief should I require a hospital delivery. But each womans choice is personal and hopefully fully informed on all aspects. What puts me off about hospital deliveries (if pregnancy has been trouble free and birth expected to be normal) is that I feel it becomes a medical procedure once inside those doors. And use of equipment to help deliver baby, time frames and possible lack of total freedom to move and do as I want/need etc trouble me. I am taking a tour of the labour ward etc in a few weeks and also attending a birthing class where I plan to ask a lot of questions on both home and hospital deliveries. Plus I see a consultant at 34 weeks to be talked through all the labour procedures in hospitals - pain relief, intervention, C section etc.

Women 'unprepared for childbirth'
By Clare Murphy
Health reporter, BBC News website


Many women are going into labour vastly underestimating how painful it can be and overly optimistic that they will be able to manage without drugs, a study suggests. How has this happened? Researchers at the University of Newcastle who looked at evidence from the UK and beyond found significant discrepancies between women's expectations of labour and their actual experience.

In England around a quarter of women who give birth end up having an epidural, the spinal analgesia which eliminates the pain of contractions, although many did not plan on having one. Growing emphasis on birth as an entirely natural process - which may be better carried out in your front-room than in a labour ward - also means many women feel they have somehow failed if they end up rapidly making their way through every form of pain relief available.

Campaigners fought hard for many years to "demedicalise" childbirth and reduce the number of unpleasant, invasive, and potentially unnecessary procedures many women were subjected to in the course of delivering their child. But there are fears the pendulum may now have swung too far the other way, with the many advantages of modern medicine forgotten in the desire to take the process back to basics.

After all, you wouldn't have your teeth pulled without an anaesthetic, so why would you embark on something as major as childbirth simply preparing to grit them? Much evidence suggests, however, that women who are well supported by midwives and partners throughout their labour and made to feel at ease are the ones who manage their pain the most effectively and require the fewest drugs.

But even with all the helping hands she may wish for, a woman needs to be aware that this is sometimes simply not enough, the Newcastle team concluded.

"Of course it is important to have hopes for how you would like your labour to be.

"But those involved in providing ante-natal sessions, while listening to these, need to make sure that women are aware of how things may go and help them construct realistic expectations," says Joanne Lally, who led the research.

"You shouldn't have to feel a failure because you've ended up with a lot of pain relief. "The problem with some of the courses out there is that they concentrate so much on doing it naturally that inevitably women feel as though they've done something wrong when those techniques simply aren't enough for them."

The National Childbirth Trust is one the major private providers of ante-natal classes in the UK, seeing perhaps as many as a quarter of all women preparing to give birth and also carrying out instruction on behalf of the NHS. The NCT classifies "normal" birth as one which does not involve anaesthetic and would like to see a reduction in the use of epidurals, although it insists this does not mean it is against the use of pain-relief.

"We have campaigned for a long time for normal birth, and the bottom line is that we encourage women to have confidence in themselves and their bodies," says Gillian Fletcher, a former president of the NCT. "But that doesn't mean we don't talk about pain relief in our ante-natal sessions.

"We help women weigh up the pros and cons of every method. Of course epidurals are brought up - but we do make clear that if you have one you are two to three times more likely to end with a forceps delivery."

"What's crucial is that women are ready to negotiate with their midwife, and don't find themselves lying flat on the bed, which we now know is a sure way to a more difficult experience."

But regardless of the content of ante-natal sessions - be they provided privately or by the NHS - women themselves should perhaps be less competitive with each other about how they give birth, argues Anna Davidson of the Birth Trauma Association.

"Ante-natal sessions do need to be more realistic - perhaps including women who have given birth and had very different experiences. But mothers themselves need to stop being so gladiatorial about what they managed to endure. "We sometimes seem to forget that while childbirth is natural, women in the past regularly died as a result of it, and we should be a bit more positive about the advances medicine has brought us."

One obstetrician believes the tide is perhaps turning yet again.

"I have seen many women in the last decade with completely unrealistic expectations, who end up incredibly disappointed when they have not been able to give birth without significant pain relief," says Patrick O'Brien, a consultant and spokesman for the Royal College of Obstetricians and Gynaecologists.

"But I get the feeling that things have started to change, and more women realise there is only so much you can plan for. "Find out about aromatherapy - but find out about epidurals too - and prepare to be flexible. I do think that message is getting through."
 
I actually think I was expecting it to hurt more than it did. I had a wonderful birth with no pain relief and although it was really really painful it was somehow quite bearable.

If you're relaxed & have a positive mental attitude about giving birth I really think it makes a huge difference to how you cope with the pain.

Having said that, my labout only lasted 2 1/2 hours and I'm sure if it had gone on a lot longer I would have wanted some pain relief.

Interesting article though.
 
hmmmm....no sure if I'm in total agreement with that article to be honest.

I know I'm only 8 weeks pg with my first baby so I have no experience whatsoever with labour so I'm not really in a place to comment but I don't feel I'm under any illusions whatsoever about how painful it's going to be.

My plan at the moment is to have as natural as birth as possible, I'm hoping for litle pain relief, hopefully just gas and air if needed and to have the use of a birthing pool at the hospital. I know that 10 minutes into labour I'll probably be screaming for more and more pain relief but I still want to aim for not using much. And that's bot because I'm underestimating the pain it's because I want to be able to get the most out of giving birth. I don't want to be too drugged up to not know what's going on etc

I don't think there's anything wrong with wanting to have a natural birth, we all know what pain releif is available and surely we would ask for it if we wanted it!!!
 
2 of us in 3rd tri found the article too!

The title bugged me a little as i don't think anyone can be fully prepared for something they have yet to experience!

But i'm the same as Sherlock. I'd like a natural birth but i realise that it doesn't always happen how you'd like.
I'm prepared to go to hospital should i need to and i'm prepared to accept any form of pain relief should I really feel i need it.

Am i prepared? As far as anyone can be, yes!
 
I dont have a clue how painful its going to be

I plan to use gas and air.. and avoid an epidural, if i can

But i dont know
 
i must admit i underestimated the pain! i planned a home-birth with just a birth pool for pain relief nothing else- i saw it as a challenge and wanted my boyf to be proud his girlf did it without drugs! and yes, i did it without drugs (apart from a little G&A in the middle) and yes he is proud of me and we both lap it up when people said how brave i was, but if im honest with u, when i got to 9 or 10cms, i tried to say "argh, take me to hospital, put me under general anaesthetic and gimme a c-section!" but all that came out of my mouth was "help me, make it stop!" :rotfl:
 
This article annoyed me a bit tbh. As I have nothing to compare it to I don't know if I am under- or over-estimating. I expect it to hurt like a mo-fo and I expect to beg for it to stop. That said I would like a home birth with as limited pain relief as I can stand. However if I am advised to go to hospital I wil or if I feel like I need to be in hospital I will go. I'm not a blooming masochist - I don't relish the thought of the pain. I would just prefer a home birth because I HATE hospitals & don't think I would feel nearly as relaxed as I would ar home. Particularly after reading articles that say you are more likely to have intevention if you are already in hospital. I think this article kinda portrayed us as silly females who don't know what we are talking about. :roll: Which I may not at the moment, but I don't imagine it is going to be anything other than extreme pain. Tsk.
 
how the **** can you be prepared for birth when you have no idea what it entails. When each and every labour is totally different so even if you listen to what others tell you it doesn't prepare you for your own :roll:
 
I think the only reason women want to give birth naturally is not to score points on the women's league table of womanliness but to hopefully feel as much as they can physically and mentally and emotionally when they give birth. Do they think some of us yearn to be numb from the waist down, bed bound with a plastic tube shoved up our wee hole surrounded by strangers coming at us with suction cups, forceps, fingers, monitors and god knows what else :roll: We all do what we have to do man!!!!
 

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