Do you tell people?

[snowbee]

Just wondered those of us who are long termers do you tell friends and family about ttc?

We haven't told anyone although somedays I think it would be easier if they knew then I change my mind again.

 

[FBTTN8079]

We didn't tell anyone for about a year and then it all got too much so told one or two very close friends

A few months ago when they told us it will be ivf route for us, we were open with family and close friends as the support will be needed x

 

[FBTTN8079]

Plus I needed to speak and ask questions it was driving me potty not being able to, which is also why this forum has been fantastic able to share and ask questions and not feel alone. x

 

[Blueflower]

We didn't tell people for the 1st year but a few guessed because we'd got married and got a house and they knew I'd always wanted a family. Then when people started wondering why we hadn't mentioned anything we told a couple of close friends & relatives.

I think now its been 2 ½ years people must realize that something is wrong but we still don't want people saying "any news?" and making it even more stressful. We've managed to keep the treatment quiet so far because its only clomid and IUI but if we have IVF we might have to say something. My mum is the only one completely in the dark because she worries so much she makes herself ill, but it will be hard keeping IVF secret from her if we've got lots more appointments and drugs in the fridge!

 

[Lucyboo]

We have told close family and a handful of friends. We have told a couple of others but not the full extent. Just we got a problem with my ovaries. The problem is we were supposed to be getting married in November but have brought it forward to April with a small intimate ceremony so already people are questioning that, least if we tell them something they won't keep on at us. I have already mentioned to a couple of people about bringing the wedding forward and the first thing they say is ''are you pregnant?'' I wish!!!

 

[Clairabella]

We decided to tell close friends and family once we were told we needed IVF. I needed the support and to be able to discuss it with others apart from oh. Up until this point we didn't tell anybody about TTC but now people know it's so much easier as we don't get the questions about us being next.
X

 

[Poispinner]

We've told my mum and a few close friends. I am glad really as its taking so long (3years) and I dont think I could cope with people keep asking. We haven't told the oh's family as they are so desperate for us to have a baby I dont think I could handle it, plus I want it to be a surprise when we finally do!!

 

[Blueflower]

Yes I'd rather people be surprised than say "at last!" which would diminish it.

 

[Sianey90]

Our family know and so do our close friends. I don't find it hard to talk about or embarrassing and often come across people in the same situation so will open up when I feel it is right. I like to share things with certain people, else all my emotions would boil over. I know for some people it's a very personal journey that they don't like to share, but for me sharing makes the unbearable load a little easier to bear. I don't know how I'd cope if I couldn't talk about it with those who are close to me. Fortunately everyone that knows is incredibly supportive and never say anything insensitive! .x.x.