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[nicky_25]

Gp appointment today. Hubby sperm count very low. Told we are unlikely to ever conceive naturally. We are both 25. Absolutely heartbroken xx

 

[Blueflower]

So sorry to hear that. Unlikely doesn't mean impossible though. I know its a cliche but it only takes 1! Medical staff can say some harsh things so as not to get your hopes up. I was told that I might be 'slowly entering the menopause' before I'd even had my AMH levels checked! I was horrified! They can worry you for no reason.

My hubby has a high count but low % morphology but since he's been taking 'Wellman' vitamins the % has increased! (And that's not an advert!) Worth a try.

Good luck and let us know how you get on.

 

[RAFMrs]

So sorry to hear about your appointment and your GP.

Was this the first sperm test, if so, your hubby needs another in 3 months time as it could be just a one off bad sample, sperm take 3 months to grow so if your hubby was drunk over Christmas or new year for example these sperm were starting to grow then!

In the meantime, your hubby could make some lifestyle changes, get on a decent multi vitamin, no baths, cut back on drinking but no getting drunk, quit smoking if he does, no cycling, up his water intake, fruit and veg.

Do you know what the count and motility was?

I have seen loads of men increase there sperm counts so please don't give up hope, it can happen.

Also, making sure he ejuculates every 2-4 days.

X

 

[nicky_25]

It was his second count. Never got any official results. Gp just kept going over how "greatly were reduced" compared to the average count. Asked him if he had mumps before or any sort of injury (which he hasn't) we asked if we could do anything diff with regards to lifestyle etc and advised that it wouldn't make a difference
he is getting referred to urology and iv to go through all kinds of test before we can even begin IVF. I just can't believe this has happened to us. Most young 20 odd year old surely don't go through Ivf
I feel very confused and scared if I'm completely honest xx

 

[LinziLoo12]

Hello nicky_25

Firstly I'm so sorry to hear about your partners SA results.. I promise the upset and sacredness does ease..

Me and my hubby had been trying to conceive baby number 1 for the last 5years without any luck.. Last June we decided to book a doctors appointment. Hubby had a sperm test and I had day 21 bloods..

When we went in for results I got the all ok but hubby was told he had very poor sperm, very low motility and a high abnormality, as you can imagine he was deviated and I was too, just to see him feeling like this torn me up inside but somehow we were relieved to know at least we had a cause for our infertility..

Anyway after the initial shock we had a referral letter which was a chat to see what we'd tried and they were so lovely, totally put our minds at ease that we weren't the only couple going through this!! Hubby had started Selenium, Vit E and Zinc and they were really happy about this. I had to have various tests to make sure I was all ok and luckily these all came back fine. (this took around 3/4months) My hubby repeated his SA test and his sperm had gone from 19million to 43million, the abnormality was still there but it just shows those tablets really made a difference..

We are now going through ICSI, infact I'm on day 8 of my injections and I really cant believe how straight forward it's all been (keeping fingers crossed it stays this way).. When I look back to that doctors appointment I cant believe how far we've come..

Please just try and stay as calm and focused and look forward to seeing your consultant because this really made a difference for us.. B

If you have any questions or would like a chat, please just PM me..

Take care
Lindsey xx

 

[Belfa]

H Nicky, I know it's easier said than done but you are fortunate in that you know from an early age what the issue is and therefore can do all you can to improve this. I have seen women here who have still got BFP's after being told the same thing as you.

I am only 26 and have been on fertility meds for 5 months now and I am ok with it as I know I have a long long time ahead of me to ttc.

There's a lot of changes he can make to improve things as others have said before you begin to look at treatments.

Good luck!!

 

[Lucyboo]

Hi, sorry to hear your news, finding out when you have a problem is the worst feeling but there are definitely things you can do to improve things, diet, stopping alcohol/ smoking, exercise more, vitamins, even acupuncture for male fertility problems I have read can help things. Does your hubby work shifts as that can knock you out of sync too. Did the nhs say anything about helping you out with ivf if it came to it?

We got written off completely by the nhs as my fsh was sky high( basically saying I'm in early menopause at32,) I managed to half it just through acupuncture,vitamins, lifestyle changes, working less where I was able to, better diet. We had to pursue private treatment after finding a second hospital who would treat us as this is their specialist area.

 

[nicky_25]

hey ladies sorry.I haven't came back been at work and getting my head around things. Thank you so soo much for all Ur kind words and support. I know it will takes months before iv completed my run of fertility tests to make sure there is nothing wrong with me before I proceed. I'm afraid of the uncertainty and this will probably sound silly but the injections are also scary me quite a bit. Thank you so much for sharing your stories with me xx

 

[Potternutter]

Hi Hun, it's horrible when they are so harsh like that. We were told it was unlikely we would conceive naturally- hubby had low sperm count and I had a blocked tube due to endometriosis. On the date we were given to go back to discuss IVF etc options I ended up having a midwife appointment instead, and now I'm sat holding my baby girl. Never give up hope!! When I look back on how devastated I was I can't believe what has happened in the last year.

Like Lindsey said there's a lot to say for the vitamins- I was recommended Solgar VM-75 by someone on here and after first month hubby took it we fell pg. It's got a high potency dose of everything men need for sperm making.

Fingers crossed- I have every faith you'll get there in the end. You're so young and don't forget - it doesn't matter how you conceive it's holding that little baby makes all this worth while. If anything all the crap us LTTCers put up with makes it more special when it does happen xxx

 

[gemmainthesun]

Hi hon just wanted you to know we was told exactly the same 2 years back and I was absolutely devastated and it takes time to fully get your head round it, also ur hubby is prob feeling very guilty as mine really did even tho it asnt his fault and we had a hard year, but we cracked on we did ivf and im now 8 weeks pregnant...the good thing is ur both young ur likely to have great egg quality and icsi (a form of ivf) can pick out individual sperm and ur chances of fertility treatment working should you do that route is very high. I know personally I hated people saying 'it coulkd still happen naturally etc' as you just feel u wont be that lucky, I think you need to demand the results so you can see count etc, get him on wellman and maca tablets and just take some time to digest it all, if you ever need to chat pm me xxx

 

[nicky_25]

Thank you x iv got him taking zinc at the mo. I'm going to the docs next week to get the ball rolling for me. The thing I'm most dreading is the injections. Does it get easier? Xx

 

[Potternutter]

I used to be terrified of injections but LTTC really helped me as after having all those tests I wasn't as frightened when having bloods done when pg. Honestly looking back now it's like it all makes sense and I appreciate her even more as I know it's not to be taken for granted, bit at the time it's really hard. Try to relax and do things to take your mind off it a bit (easier said than done I know!)

 

[ScarlettMG]

Hi there Nicky, Im sorry to hear about this and can totally understand why you're feeling upset. HOWEVER! I can tell you something that should make you feel a bit better. My fiancee was diagnosed with variocele (Think thats how you spell it) and consequently low quantity and quality sperm at the age of 24 when going to donate sperm at a hospital. Was told he would need an operation and that it would only "improve" the situation potentially, not fix it, and was subsequently called "medically infertile". At which point I didnt know him, but when we met a few years later he told me straight away and I started to be a bit loose with using my birth pill to be honest in a kind of "theres no point me taking it anyways" kind of way.
A while later, after having been apart for a month because of work, and me again not being too strict about my pill, we had ONE "I missed you" afternoon between the sheets and to both of our delight and surprise... I'm now 6 months pregnant So dont let doctors scare you with their silly stats and negative figures!
Dont want to be graphic... but for us it was a case of no contact (with one another or self pleasuring [TMI I know, but desperate times...]) for a month and then having a fun afternoon together on exactly day 15 of my cycle (not planned this way!) and who knows, as other people have pointed out, it only takes one!
All our luck and dont get down about it, this will only make things worse
Lots of love xxxxx