Dating!

[Urchin]

This isn't strictly a relationships question so I stuck it in here.

There was a thing on earlier about speed dating, and I have always thought this sounds like a fab idea, and something I would do if I was single (instead of happily married )

I just wondered what kind of thing you would do if you were single (or if you are single?

Who would do online dating, who would just go to the pub.. anyone like the sound of speed dating like me?

There are them funny ones where the men have a key each and ladies have a lock round their necks but I think that's a bit weird

 

[Krystal]

Me and my friends have discussed this, I definately would if I was single! I think it sounds like fun way of chatting to people and seeing if you have that spark. I'm not into the whole meeting someone out in a club when I'm plastered I like to just dance with my friends so most of my exes and my current partner were met through work (I work for a big company I'm not the office bike )

I think I would def use internet dating sites too, although I'd prob be a little more apprehensive about that then I would the speed dating idea.

 

[Urchin]

Yeah I like the idea of speed dating cos I figure while you're looking for someone in "normal life" you are bound to meet a bunch of numpties first, why not meet them all at once and get them out of the way

 

[Krystal]

You make a very good point, in fact I think meeting some of the numpties there would prob improve your night, give you a giggle at least. You'd at least hope for 1 or 2 wierdos.

 

[MissSara]

If i was single, i wouldn't use the internet dating sites, no offence to people who have ( because i know people who have ) it just wouldn't be for me as i like to be out and about and socialising and actually like to get to know someone face to face, plus they can't lie about the looks when their stood in front of you....lol

Speed dating sounds like a laugh when theres a few of you going, bet that would be fun. Although most people i have met ( past boyfriends etc etc ) i've always met out in the pubs with mates apart from my OH who i have known all my life.

 

[Rubys mummy]

When I split from my ex husband years ago, it was the first time I had ever been single.

I had 3 jobs to afford to keep on the home we had bought so I had no real time to "look" for love, and I knew if I met a guy on the pub he would probably only be looking for fling...

I did the lonely hearts in the local paper

I could write a book on my expierences, I met some right numptys and also some ok guys but I look back now and think I cant believe I ever did it!!! (My family and friends thought I was stark raving bonkers!!)

I finally made the decision that I was going to enjoy being single, and I met OH...In a pub!!!!

 

[HappyAlice]

If i was single, i wouldn't use the internet dating sites, no offence to people who have ( because i know people who have ) it just wouldn't be for me as i like to be out and about and socialising and actually like to get to know someone face to face, plus they can't lie about the looks when their stood in front of you....lol

Speed dating sounds like a laugh when theres a few of you going, bet that would be fun. Although most people i have met ( past boyfriends etc etc ) i've always met out in the pubs with mates apart from my OH who i have known all my life.

you don't have the actual dates online

 

[Redshoes]

I met my OH online in a chatroom, though it wasn't a dating/relationship site, we were friends for a while, then as time passed we grew closer and met up and then I jumped him and 5yrs after the jump, we're still together so I'd recommend online, though face to face is more fun lol Speed dating sounds cool, something I'd definitely do if I was single 8)

 

[MissSara]

Cmon i know im dizzy but i'm not that bad, i just wouldnt like the idea of meeting someone i had spoken to online and them turning out to be nothing like their pictures and stuff.......lol

You read about it all the time.

 

[leckershell]

I used to work 2pm-10pm shifts 5 out of 7 days which changed every week... there was no way I could have a real social life. I met quite a few people through internet dating as it was the only way I could maintain a normal life with people - it would be ok that I had weird hours because we wouldn't physically have to be going out, we could just get to know each other online, 2am, 11am it wouldn't matter. I was engaged to someone I met online and before Nat, it was where pretty much most of my exes came from. I travelled all over the place meeting people and so long as you are safe and don't take it toooo seriously then it doesn't have to be scary. I met a few people who we didn't click in real life and some of them I still speak to now as friends. A couple were odd, admittedly... but it leads to fun conversations in the office

I never did speed dating as at the time they only had 21+ nights and I was 19/20 when I was dating. I would've done it though had they let me.

 

[leckershell]

In fact if this thread is still going on monday when I have more time I'll tell you all my funny online dates

 

[Craig]

lol ive met past few serious GF's online... but never on a dating site - ex i met in a chatroom and acctually went to my school!, Bee i met through a car club/forum

I dont think i could do speed dating, mostly because im not good at talking to people i dont really know (though i have my moments!)

Anyone that ive been with has been friends first and ive gotten to like them that way (not set out to), i dont often act purely based on looks or anything

Right now I prefer to go out for a nice quiet meal, or catch a movie, or go somewhere nice for the day, as my lifestyle has changed a tad in the past year, dont want to act the way i used to

 

[trixipaws]

gosh iv no idea! lol iv thought about this what i'd do if i was single it would be so weird the last time i was single in 2000 id never heard of speed-dating! i was only 19 and clubbing every nite (i met my boyf in a club) idk where i'd find a new boyf now i couldnt go back 2 that lifestyle. maybe speed-dating or a dating website? meeting a partner on the internet USED to be a bit 'sad' but i think its quite fashionable now, isnt it?

someone asked me recently if iv ever been dumped by text, but iv only been dumped once in 1998 back then only business-men had mobile fones! so no, i havent!

 

[Slinky Sarah]

met my OH on a dating website!! would recommend it lol...you do get some freaks on it but you just gotta keep looking....took us about 2 months to find each other....

 

[andreaaa]

I always used to think that I would try speed dating if I was single, but then when I got divorced I never got round to it. I did join an online dating site but not really to meet someone as I was very happy to be single. It was more to pass the time when my children went to bed at 7p.m

When i got divorced I passed my bike test and bought a motorbike I also got a piercing and found out I preferred rock music to anything I had listened to before. When the kids spent weekends at their dads I used to go out on my bike most of the time.

And thats how I met my now hubby he also rides and we met through a bike forum

 

[Princess_Puddles]

I met my OH in 2004 online, not through a dating website though it was on MSN, he got my addy from a website like facebook and added me as we lived in the same town. We were chatting for a few days and he kept bugging me to meet but I declined, one day he came online and said he'd seen me in town that day and I got him to describe exactly what I was wearing and he did, he carried on bugging me lol and we met up the next day at the shops where I live. We didnt start going out officially untill the Jan 2005

 

[Red_Fairy]

I really dont know. Life for me in the section has been weird. I met my ex at college and we went out for 5 years. We broke eachothers hearts (horribly) and i was a complete mess for months when we split.

A music festival we should have been attending together i went to alone. My current partner camped oppersit my tent and we got talking through the weekend. No way was i ready for another relationship, and current partner also lived about 300 miles away in Glasgow.
We kept emailing/phoning eachother for months after the festival. Til one day i thought fook it, ill go up there for abit.

Never looked back. (about 3 years ago now)

I say all this cos, i never EVER imagined id ever find love again seriously. And i never expected to meet somone at a festival.... and somone who lived so bloody far away! lmao.
But all these things happen for a reason. Against the odds. I never thought id go to that festival alone. (almost very nearly didnt)

If we split, i have no idea where id try to meet people. As its been in the most unexpected places already. lol.

dont know if id try speed dating or not, im really stupidly shy in situations like that.

 

[mandspice]

I met my OH at work but before that I met loads of people online - a couple of serious relationships and lots of fun and dating - I'd recommend it to anyone. I also met one of my best female friends online!

It's a really good way to get to know someone a little before meeting (they had to have more than one pic though!) and it def worked better for me than exchanging numbers drunk in a club.

 

[Becs]

I never did dating online or anything like that and then one valentines my friend and I decided that rather than staying in we would go to a big valentines bash. 100 single women met in one pub and 100 single men in another. Then we were all givena restuarant to have dinner so we were on tables of 8 (4 women and 4 men) then there was a party in a bar afterwards where everyone met up again.....

I met my husband that night

 

[Tegala-7thMarch08]

i dont go out looking they seem 2 find me lool but i spose i wud go out clubbing or summit pik up a few hunks on my travels loool