Coping with other people being pregnant

[CB23]

I was back at work for first time today since before our holiday which was bad enough in itself. Except that in the small firm in which I work there are now two people 3 months pregnant. I feel like a right bitch but I just couldn't help but be upset. I had to leave early.

 

[kiki]

I know how you feel. I had my 2nd MC about two months ago and a girl at work is due about the time I would have been. She was complaining to me about her belly getting so big and I had to leave the conversation before I started screaming. She doesn't know about my situation so it wasn't on purpose. But still makes me feel very sad looking at her getting more and more pregnant. But also I have to say that it has gotten easier now compared to the first few weeks.

So take it easy and look after yourself

 

[Steelgoddess]

Oh hon im so sorry

It does make you feel pissed and like why not me still kind of thing...

The same in my company, I have just joined one lady is pregnant and showing and another has left to have her baby and the girls in the desks right near me have droned on and on and on about how she might have to be induced, and if shes due today yada yada i felt like telling them to stfu!

The fact of the matter is because of whats happened we are going to be more receptive of other ppl being pregnant, more baby adverts and programs and pregnancy popping up everywhere. hell i was watching making the band on Sunday and even one of the guys girlfriends was having problems with her pregnancy or something felt like i couldnt get away.

Our time will come (hopefully sooner rather then later) and then we'll be able to drone on and show off our bumps...

Hugs and kisses

x

 

[miffy]

I feel exactly the same - my son's 2 years old and I've got lots of friends with children a similar age - but they've all had or are expecting their next one now - it's really hard to cope with. Every time I go out I see someone new who's expecting.I've got a friend expecting in Dec (I was originally due in Nov, and I've lost another one since that, due in March). I know another who is expecting her 5th! Unplanned this time... which makes it even harder to accept!

I know how you feel...for a few weeks I've avoided going to places where I might bump into pg women!

I know our time will come, but the waiting and uncertainty is really hard.

Although thinking about it, there are probably a lot of people out there in our circles who have had losses, but they just don't talk about it, so maybe we shouldn't be too envious!

to you all x

 

[Kimberly]

I felt the same way when a close family member announced a pregnancy a month after my miscarriage. DH couldn't understand why I was upset. I felt really bad for being upset. I really am happy for her, its just hearing about her pregnancy and seeing her scan pics reminds me of the baby I lost.
I'm sure it must be hard to see someone pregnant at work. You lost something very precious to you and I don't think anyone would think you were a bitch for being upset.

 

[CB23]

Something nice happened today, I was leaving work on Wednesday after hearing about the two pregnant staff members and bumped into our tax department manager who has always been lovely to me since our firms merged two years ago. We went for a coffee and we moaned about work and I told him about m/c - I don't know why it just came out. Then today he went looking for me and I wasn't in so he rang me to make sure I was OK. So nice and thoughtful it really touched me.

There are some nice people in the world.

 

[Steelgoddess]