controlled crying

[lauramumof2]

I'm sorry but I actually don't see a difference. Your baby cries for a reason and you want to react to it for a reason! If other people feel leaving their baby to cry is right for them then that is fine. All I am saying is it is not something I will be doing with Jack.
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I do see a difference though, my baby is sleeping because he knows how to soothe himself so that when he does cry now I know something is wrong and not just because he wants another round of wheels on the bus.

Like you say, its not for everyone.

Its certainly not child abuse though.

 

[madmish]

we have been using this method for the past 3 nights, and so far it's worked great. jamie is still being bresatfed,so usually the only way to get him to sleep is with a "mummy cuddle" or rocking him in his pram.and then pnce i moved him he woke up,which was not good. i didn't really mind this at first,as having 3 other little darlings, it made it easier than listening to the baby cry.along with"mum, can i have a biscuit?" every 2 minutes!! but, we decided at the weekendi t was time to try and get little jimbo into a bedtime routine. he seems to have taken to it quite well, he does cry, but no screaming, and i go into his room and shhh him,and stroke his head,and it seems to have done the trick...fingers crossed it lasts!!

 

[Dee1985]

i would not consider it untill a child was about 10months

at such a young age they have no idea what is going on and i think they should feel when they want you you will be there

 

[Alfiesmummy]

controlled crying worked great for me, and still does if Alfie is in a rubbish mood!
When i have an over tired little dude who will not settle and wont play and just isnt himself i think its the best way, to let him cry it out. Of course i check him and of course i reassure him but what do you do with a child that gets aggitated when you try to hold them i find that when hes over tired or really tired he tends to get even more upset at being held or rocked or patted or shushed. Left to his own devises and sim pkly put in his cot with a nice wam bottle of milk he goes off himself within moments, and thats because i did do controlled crying, he understands that he can go off to sleep himself without being disturbed from me putting him from my arms into the cot!
i dont regret CC i would use it on any future children i had too because now (after cutting his teeth) he is so happy and bubbly the only time he cries is when hes tired and it makes my life so easy just warming some milk popping him down giving him the bottle and saying "ta ta Alfie mommy will see you when you wake up nice and happy"

I think maybe your LO is a wee bit young yet thought TP maybe wait a couple months longer as young as babba is they still need all the love/comfort they can get, plus the time goes by so quickly get as many hugs in as you can as they get fewer as they get older they dont have as much time for cuddles when theres time to play lol

 

[Miracle babe]

Rowan has always been a good night time sleeper but afternoon naps have been an issue. I did try controlled crying to begin with but he just got so upset it was distressing for everyone. I then bought the Baby Whisperer book and that gave clear guidelines about the pick up put down method which does not mean leaving them to cry. I would then stand with my hand on his tummy so he knew I was there and there was no feelings of abandonment or guilt for me. Its worked great for us and now all I have to do is rub his tummy when he's in his cot and he settles.

Just re read my post and I'm not saying that controlled crying is a bad thing or it involves abandonement it just didn't work for Rowan and made me feel awful. You have to do whats right for your family. At the end of the day 'One size does not fit all'.

 

[neeko_1]

this is what my hubby's is like... but she is way to yopung for all that.. all she needs now is too know that she is bening heard and her need are catered for.

 

[trixipaws]

oh hi there neeko! long time no see! hope u & ur princess are well

 

[Redshoes]

oh hi there neeko! long time no see! hope u & ur princess are well

ditto, sending best wishes neeko

 

[MakkaP]

I done it when Reece was 8 weeks old and it was awful but it was the best thing I have ever done! He is such a good sleeper and we have never had a problem with him going to bed since, only took 4 long days and he was going to bed without a peep!

 

[foxymum]

we have been doing to CC method for 2 nights now & its working a treat!
i have to cheat a bit though & stand by the cot & stroke Louies head & in 5 mins he is assleep!! the way i see it is at least now hes going to sleep in his cot rather than donw stairs with us

 

[Tasha20]

my boyf really thinks we should do this. but it upsets me hearing our baby screaming, i just want to scoop her up and cuddle her!
who does this how long do u leave them for is it a good technique should i try to be stronger?
sorry for all the questions!

i don't agree with controlled crying to the point of the child becoming really distressed. its like child abuse.

what i have done inthe past is sit by the cot and rub their backs going shhhhh and gradually make my way out the room during the course of a few nights.
i could never let them cry though for prolonged time

Exactly what I did, I found it worked best that way for us as I hate hearing her cry.