Hi, We have just attempted mediation which failed miserably. My ex wants to see our 18m old more than what he is seeing him now and my main concern is son's safety. Dad is negligent - no empathy, nappy rashes, fevers that he does not notice, etc. Hence I have concerns and was waiting for mediation to resolve this. His only aim was to increase the hours. Currently he sees him for 9h a week over two days. He also has a new woman 6 months after he moved out that he has already introduced to our son which I only found out at mediation. He lives with her and has taken our son there without my knowledge and refusing to give the address where he lives and takes him. I am not happy about any of this. When I requested in mediation that he sees him on his own in a warm place where they can play, he says he prefers to take him around on buses and to shops where he has friends. This is for 6h when he sees him! Is this normal? To me it seems he is not really interested in the child but in fulfilling his own needs... I was told that our next step is court. I could not get hold of my solicitor after the meeting and am worried about his imminent visit before I manage to get hold of her. Help! By the way the reason for the split was his verbal and psychological abuse in front of the child. I also caught him playing with him once when he was 2-3months old tonguing him. I have never mentioned this to anyone as I don't know what to do about it really. I am really disturbed about the whole situation and want to protect my son to the best of my ability and all I got from the mediator is well, there are more and more shared residences.