Considering a home birth

[mandii]

Hey ladies im considering having a home birth as we dont have babysitters for our son as family dont see him on a regular basis, im thinking homebirth so that my friend can keep an eye on our son so my husband can be there when his child is born, has anyone had a homebirth and would you reccomend it? x

 

[katey123]

I totally recommend it ,I've had 3 hospital births and 2 home births and if all goes well this my last will also be a homebirth. My first home birth was meant to be in hosptial but he was so fast just 1 1/2 hours from the start of labour to his birth , it was abit of a shock had no time to get a minder for my daughter who was almost two years old ,so she sat beside me on the living room floor while I gave birth , she doesn't remember a thing about it now though and is a little horrified (now she's 14 )when I talk to people and say that she was there during her brothers birth . She says she thinks she remembers eating peanut butter sandwiches which is true but nothing else , thankgoodness.
Definitely do try for a home birth if you can it's a lovely experience ,your never have the same two mw's all to yourself in a hosptial. All the best xx

 

[mrz85]

when i had my booking in appot with my midwife she asked me if i would be wanting a home birth or a hospital i said hospital she saqid good i wouldnt reccomend home births wish I asked why???

 

[katey123]

Mrz85, it's not too late ask next time, it's your birth no-one has the right to tell you what to do especially without explaining to you why , if there's a medical reason I'd want to know what it is and all the facts about it up front, I won't let everyone just say no to me maybe that's just the way I am tho. xx

 

[mrz85]

I was just taken a back I have a appot with my midwife may 2 nd will ask her again x

 

[mandii]

i can never get minders for my son which is why im considering a homebirth that way i know where he is and who is watching him xx

 

[leesey]

This is obviously something you'll have to discuss with your midwife, but as long as your pregnancy is straightforward then it's entirely up to you. Obviously if you require consultant care or you have complications (which every woman should be prepared for, just in case they don't get the birth they planned for) then a home birth might not be recommended.
Since this is your second, you'd be hoping it was nice and straightforward if your first was, but if for whatever reason they strongly suggest giving birth in a hospital, please take this into consideration. I'd say not being able to get a babysitter is not a good enough reason not to give birth in a hospital if this is what's best for you and bubs under the circumstances xx

 

[katey123]

lol or maybe he'll be watching you giving birth lol , it wasn't my deal situation but it turned out ok, when I was having no. 5 two years ago my older two were 12 and 10 years old they got up and dressed and left for school while I was labouring in the living room .They shouted bye but didn't want to come in. I don't blame them at all , they were both very excited to get home tho and meet their new sister. xx

 

[katey123]

Joking apart ,I agree with leesey , not having a child minder is not a reason to have a homebirth, it's a big decision and needs to be considered by you and your partner ,the mw's will not look after your son as they will be busy and if he's frightened your partner would have to be with him in a another room possibly so would not be there at the birth after all. Do think it though he'll need someone too. xx

 

[mandii]

my OH is preparing himself for not being able to see baby be born due to having no minders, if i have to go into hospital then thats something i have to do xx

 

[katey123]

May I make a suggestion, could you may be join some mums clubs in your area and maybe you could strike up some friendships ,may be then things won't be quite so black or white . I do hope that'll help you it does sound like you need some one to one help at the moment, What area are you? xx

 

[mandii]

we have lots of family but they dont make the effort to see our son, they saw him every week from the age of 3 weeks to 1yr then once/twice a month from the age of 1yr to 1.5yr now its just whenever they feel like it usually every 2/3 months. i have friends but they all have kids and my son wont allow people he doesnt see regularly to watch him xx

 

[katey123]

Yes I read your other posting , I don't think you need family like that ,I think it's friends you need, have tea party together ,don't leave your son , stay and play with him , take trips with yours friends and their children to the park , soon in time he'll want to be more social 2 year olds aren't at first that's normal but as he grows and sees them more offen he'll settle I'm sure of it . I hope you can get yourself out of this rut things will get better I promise xx

 

[mandii]

Hope they do my OH didnt get to see our son be born due to personal circumstances, so hes preparing himself for not seeing this one be born. xx

 

[tinselcat]

Mrz85 - my midwife was the opposite, she says they want to encourage all low-risk people to give birth at home (this is in london)

 

[katey123]

That would be great shame ,I do hope it doesn't come to that again, All the best xx

 

[mandii]

they advised my mum 8 years ago to have a homebirth with her 3rd child, im hoping to have a homebirth with LO which will be my 2nd child, my first pregnancy was great, labour was good only pushed for half an hour to an hour max xx

 

[mrz85]

Mrz85 - my midwife was the opposite, she says they want to encourage all low-risk people to give birth at home (this is in london)

wow amazing r u having a home birth x

 

[tinselcat]

Mrz85 - my midwife was the opposite, she says they want to encourage all low-risk people to give birth at home (this is in london)

wow amazing r u having a home birth x

She looked disappointed when i said i wanted to be in a hospital! Perhaps i should start watching OBEM to see what it's really like?

 

[jojo3972]

i would speak to ur mw firstly how far is the hospital from ur home just in case thats a big factor for me and secondly if sayt u had ur home birth u did have to go to hossy would u have to then go alone ? im a big fan of hossy births only cos with my 6th it went terribly wrong, my mum had 3 home births all went fine and all born early well bk then there wasnt much in the way of equipment for earlies not like these days, u have plenty time to think about it xxx