Confidence crisis

[rachcraig]

Hiya girlies,

Sorry if this is just a big moan but I feel so unattractive just now. Nothing at all fits me anymore, I buy clothes and the next week they no longer fit me. It's not even just around my bump, my boobs are so ridicoulsy big the only bras that fit me are hideous old lady things.

Doesn't help my and oh haven't had sex for weeks, I keep asking him if he's gone off me, which he says he hasn't but I can't stop asking! I must be driving him mad but I've never felt so insecure in my life.

Sorry for the moan xx

 

[BabysMomma]

Aww hun You will get feelings like this. Its perfectly normal and I'm sure there's not one lady on this forum who hasn't felt that way during pregnancy.

My OH and I have had sex during my pregnancy but it isn't regular or that much tbh (well not as much as before pregnancy). I'm sure it doesn't help with my constant moans about aches and pains and now sleeping with two pillows between my legs!

Us ladies have a lot to adjust to throughout being pregnant and those damn hormones have a LOT to answer for!

I'm sure your fella hasn't went off you at all hunni. I think sometimes, they're thinking that maybe they shouldn't be initiating sex cos their lady is pregnant, as some men can feel funny about it. They might think that they'll hurt you or baby.

Try and initiate sex with him and if that fails, have a wee chat with him to see what his concerns are. As I mentioned, he might think he'll hurt you both. Men don't understand a woman's body at the best of times, so he may need some reassurance during this time.

As for the clothes hun, if you can, try and invest in a few maternity essentials that will see you through your pregnancy. I got a wonderful pair of maternity jeans from Mothercare that are seeing me right to the end of mine. And the stretch maternity vests are great as they stretch and expand massively. It must be costing you a fortune having to buy clothes so often.

I hope you feel better soon. x

 

[Piglet10]

give urself a kick up the arse for feeling insecure and a pat on the back for growing ur little bean inside you for so long!! u havent long to go chick!! but know u shudnt feel insecure about how u look, u honestly shud make the effort some evening to have a bath and pamper urself, full works hair tan nails we bit of make up , u will feel so much better and will most definitely get ur oh's attention!! xxx

 

[Xcitedmum]

I agree with what all the girls have said. With all the changes going on in your body its hard to accept them and still feel good about yourself sometimes. If you are not confident about your appearance it will be obvious to everyone around you.

I have been kinda smart when shopping for maternity wear. I have bought the basics in maternity and glammed it up by buying in style pieces in bigger sizes from the high street stores. It is much easier when you just accept that you must buy bigger - doing anything else will mean you are having to shop almost on a week to week basis.

You should def have a wee pampering session no matter how much you are not in the mood for it. I try to put extra effort in every Sunday as this is the day that my hubby and I head out to eat somewhere. It def does make me feel better about myself!

I hope you don't feel like this for too long as it will make the remainder of your pregnancy drag. I have every faith that you OH hasn't gone off you, he is prob just being sensitive to the fact that you are feeling so down on yourself so doesn't want to put any pressure on you. He is also maybe just feeling a bit strange about getting it on like so many men do when women get to a certain stage in their pregnancy. Big hugs xx