complicated relationship. .

[lottielou]

Hmm i dont know if im allowed to talk about things like this here. I guess so. Its not about been a single parent at all i jist needed a bit of advice /kick up the arse really. . . Apologies for the legnth but here goes. .
Basically im 25 weeks pregnant with my first baby a little girl. And i was with babys dad up until i was 3 months pregnant. We split for many reasons basically he wasnt the same person i loved or wanted to have a baby with. At the time there was a lot of rowing and i was pretty scared about his anger. His family also put a lot of pressure on him. Which even at the time i could see was a factor. And looking back i was a sicky hormonal nightmare. Anyway we split up
But comunication was still open and we spoke and he has been to everything baby related etc. About three weeks after we split his family were pretty vile o him and he ended up spending a lot more time at my flat. We became sortof friends. Which sounds odd but we were sort of united against other people trying to cause us grief iykwim.
Anyway he decided that because we had broken up he would go to see a councellor because he was very stresed and angry. Which i really respect him for. And he also started to do so much preparing for the baby. Another thing im really proud of him for. Basically he asked me to get back with him and said he aanted to get married. (Which we had planned to do before i got pregnant. Oh god im so confused. I do really love himand he has got back to been the man i wanted to be with all along. . Now im really scared. I dont want to mess this up for our baby either. Oh god i dont know what to do! !! I still remeber how shitty it was when we split. But i do wan
t to be with him and were defo not perfect. . So
please either tell me im been stupid or kick my hormonal.ass into gear! ! I think.im brave and can take it xxxxxx

 

[wifeywifey]

Sounds like he learnt his lesson to me and you want to be with him. If its what you both want and you think you have a chance why not?

 

[Linny1989]

I agree! defo sounds like he knows what he did wrong and has changed all that. he sounds like hes helping alot with baby etc. i dont see y not try again. xx

 

[CeeCee]

I agree with above. Maybe that kick up the bum made him realise what he had/has.

Just be careful not to let it go down the slippery slope of ending up the same in a few months?

If you both feel you can work through it, try it.

X

 

[lottielou]

Thankyou girls. Yeah he definatly has put the effort in and i am so pleased about that. Im just really scared about that happening ceecee. Phew i feel a bit less nuts about it all. I think when i get homw ill see if we can talk about it. Xx

 

[Titch85]

There's no harm in giving it another go, if it doesn't work out at least you both know you gave it your best shot.

 

[lisey]

I agree with the others, it sounds like he has made some positive changes and if you love him then go for it. No relationship is perfect hun, there are always times when things get strained, especially after a long time together. Like the others said, if you don't try, you might always wonder what could have been. Loads of luck with it all x

 

[lottielou]

thanyou girls so far so good. . it seems to be going okay . im a bit on edge i think . but i so sppreciate all the advice and i feel a lot more in control of my feelings . . x

 

[busymummy]

Sounds like he has put in positive steps to help deal with his anger. I'd say as long as he continues with this then you should get back with him if its what you want. All the best xxx

 

[BevG]

sounds like its worth a go, what have you got to lose after all

 

[JJ Mum]

Def worth a shot, you have nothing to loose and everything to gain - good luck

 

[tabbi]

Hope you and your OH? are ok, and he's staying the man he use to be, and i wish you all the best hunni x x x

 

[russellmuscle]

It's worth a shot if it's what you want, best of luck xxxx