c sections

[mum&2girls]

do all of those that had csections feel really bad that you had one, i had a emergency cs and i really feel bad that i couldnt go through and have anormal birth that i wanted the main reason was i dint get to hold jayde till we were in the recovery room did anyone else hold the baby straight away??????

 

[mary70]

yes hun i felt really upset and feel that this was something to do with my pnd, i had a home birth in my head and everything , and it was as far away from what i wanted.
i had waited 14 years for this pg and was induced 4 weeks early due to pre eclampcia i had 12 hours of labour before emergency c section and felt cheated of 4 weeks of a much wanted pregnacy and then the birth i wanted.
sorry if that sounds really ungrateful but thats how i felt

 

[mummykay]

i had a cuddle and kiss before Jam was taken to get cleaned up and I was sewed up, Iv never been so dazed and almost drunk with love lol

i dont feel cheated or annoyed at myself for havin a section, my babys fine and we r both well at the end of the day so nothin to worry about!

 

[kirlykird]

I was gutted this time.

First time I was having twins and they were never in the correct position from the beginning so that was inevitable and I never expected anything different.I was dissapointed that I never hold the twins until I was back on the ward,4 hours later!!

However, this time things were going well and the plan was a VBAC all the way through until the last few weeks of me being in hospital and having no choice but to be sectioned...

However, the section this time was a very positive experience and I held Sam straight away, the staff were fabulous and I can't rave about the JR hosp highly enough!!

One thing I do feel cheated about though is that in both sections I didn't have a choice and I really wanted to know how it felt to get the excitement of going into labour, natural birth.

I feel cheated that I haven't experienced these normal end of pregnancy events and quite sad that if I was to have another baby I wouldn't even be able to try naturally next time due to 2 previous sections.

 

[shelby]

it broke my heart to. i had an emegency c-section and when i woke up in recovery my back was facing him and i couldnt turn around to see him. i was gutted missing those first hours. more than made up for it now but lcukily i had those extra days in hospital for lots of one on one bonding time to make up for it.

 

I went 11 days over and I felt bad that I had to have an emergency section which was totally unexpected and am sure my PND was worse than it could have been due to this. I feel like a bad mum and a failure although I know I couldn't have done anymore than I tried to do. I did try pushing for an hour and he just wasn't there and tried with forceps which failed and it had to be a section. I wasn't thinking straight at the time and didn't get to hold him until about 7PM that evening and I had him at 4.22PM. In the recovery room I wasn't allowed to sit up and had to make do with him lying next to me

 

[shelby]

it is gutting i know exactly where your coming from. please dont beat yourself up. there is nothing you could have done different. some babies are just harder work than others during birth. you couldnt have done anything. it isnt nice knowing that you missed the first hours of his life but he saw you so in a way he didnt really miss out on much, sleeping all the time the same as you. when your in hospital recoving i found it was a great time to bond. indulge yourself now, dont let missing of few hours of his life without you ruin the most precious time of yours. there not tiny for long.

 

[Fiona]

I had planned a home water birth and ended up with an emergancy c. section after an attempt to induce me and 24 hours on gas and air failed but have felt absolutely fine about it.

Grace was passed to me as soon as she was born and stayed with me for the whole time apart from when they weighed her and cleaned her up. They even left her on the bed with me when I got wheeled to recovery.

I also had a long wait for this baby (15 years) but I was just so relieved that she is healthy (we decided not to have any tests done as we would have kept the pregnancy whatever the circumstances but as I am in a high risk catagory (41 years old) it was quite a worry).

I know I sound like the odd one out as I don't feel like I have missed out, but sometimes a virginal birth is not always best. and surely it is better to have a safe delivery for both yourselves and your baby ....... I know that all I wanted was my baby to be safe and I didn't care at all in the end how she ws delivered...

and now I have a lovely unused pool that Grace and I can use in the summer to sit in and cool off.........

 

[shelby]

yeah the safety is obviously the most important thing & im glad that you had as safe birth. but i think what you experienced was different because unlike us you were able to hold your baby straight away & you never missed the first golden hours, so yo will never understand. it's not just about having a c-section although that is gutting. it's not the end of the world but it's important.

 

[Rubys mummy]

I was so relieved to have a section in the end as I had a failed induction and after 36 hours I was desperate to get the baby out!!! My sis had a bad experience 10 weeks earlier with an emergency c section so I was terrified when I got to theatre, but the staff were so lovely, and they made it such a wonderful experience for us. I will never forget it! It was very surreal though, I have never been in hozzie before, and I did feel for a few weeks afterwards that she wasnt my baby, as I hadnt "given birth" to her, she just appeared from behind a screen..I kept thinking someone would come and take her away from me!!

I got to kiss her face, then they handed her to OH for a cuddle. I was a bit gutted as I couldnt hold her, then they took OH and Ruby into recovery roomwhile they stitched me up. Once I joined them, I was numb from epidural that I couldnt sit up so I couldnt hold her properly, I was really upset about this so they slid her inside my gown onto my chest so I could have skin to skin with her. I was determined to cuddle her properly and insisted they sit me up, I was trying to push my legs up but couldnt feel anything, it was weird!!! Once I got hold of her though, it was the best feeling EVER.

I did have a wonderful birth experience, it was amazing xxx

 

[claire81]

Ours was that scarey we wasnt even told what Eleanor was for a couple of minutes as she was whicked away, once they checked her over they passed her to my husband. I wasnt allowed to hold her as i had a bad bleed and Paul was sent away. It was half an hour until i got to hold her but i didnt even think of anything ekse apart from thank god she was alive!

 

[sam96031]

i was and still am absolutely gutted that i had a c section i didnt get to see emma for 12 hours afterwards which mad things even worse

 

[Marymary]

I don't feel at all bad about having to have a section, it was an emergency and was so needed. She was in the wrong postion and her head was against my pelvis, they tried forceps , ventouse and everything.

I got a quick cuddle on my chest with her then she was cleaned while I was sewn up. Then we were put together on a bed in the ward while I was helped.

I really dont think u ladies should be beating urselves up over this, u should be grateful that u had the option of intervention or who knows what could hav happened to our little ones if we weren't getting them out vaginally.

Be proud, a section is extremely tough to get over and is just as worthy of being celebrated than natural birth!