breastfeeding :(

[rosey]

does anyone else not like the idea of breastfeeding? it really makes me cringe and i don't want to do it, but i would be open to the idea of expressing. Has anyone else similar worries?

 

[lanny]

This is my 4 th and I have never tried with my other 3 as like you say it really makes me cringe no idea why I have just never liked the idea of it, I keep thinking with this being my last baby I should give it a go but I don't know if it's just not for me xxxx

 

[JJ Mum]

go on ladies give it a whirl this time, it's sooooo fantastic when you get past that bit, and you save about £10 a week on formula I reackon. I bottle fed my other 3 and am BF my last baby - its brilliant. I cant believe that BF night feeds laying down are soo easy. My change bag only needs checking once every few weeks for nappies, bibs etc refilling, and when I go out no prep required I carry my milk with me

 

[lanny]

Another thing that puts me off it my boobs are tiny just to say an A cup, and think I will have to hold the baby in the air when I'm out and about lol, I've always had very hungry babies herbie was on 6oz from a wk old I worry they will be screaming for more milk?

 

[hugsy]

Oh so glad to see this post, The whole idea of it completly discusts me, Like you I have no idea why but it just does and I really dont want to, obviously the midwife was very push on the subject and made me feel horrible but friend who is in health/diets ect said nowdays formula contains so much nurtients that while its obviously not as good as BM it is not too far away and defo not gonna do any harm so im gonna try stick to my guns and go with formula, Dont think id like to express either and id like to start jogging again as soon as i can and you cant exercise when BF

So glad im not the only one with this phobia xxx

 

[netty]

yeh makes me feel all squeamish too, proper grosses me out but i will give it a go.

 

[Annie050408]

I didn't BF Ella for a range of reasons and now I can't imagine wanting to go through the whole 'will it work, won't it work' nonsense - like Lanny said, it's just not for me. I have nothing against it and it doesn't make me squeamish but I just don't want to do it and don't feel it is necessary - Ella is just perfect and has been on formula all her life.

As for the 'bond' nonsense that breastfeeding terrorists will force down your throat - I have an absolutely amazing relationship with Ella as does her dad and I was bottle fed and have a great relationship with both my parents as were my brothers and sister.

 

[deedee84]

i agree with u Annie, i'm not for or against it. my daughter was also bottle fed and shes a little superstar and i wouldnt want her any other way. to be fair on a selfish note i do like the odd glass of wine or two and first on my list of what to do once the LO is here is enjoy a nice big glass while the OH takes over for the night xx

 

[hellywelly]

I'm going to try but the main reasons behind it are a) cost (!) and b) hassle of preparing bottles!
I suppose I'm just lazy and tight!
If it works it works if it doesn't I'm not going to beat myself up about it.
You might want to check the breastfeeding/exercise thing - my friend is currently breastfeeding her 4 month old and is (gently) jogging each week?

 

[lanny]

I didn't BF Ella for a range of reasons and now I can't imagine wanting to go through the whole 'will it work, won't it work' nonsense - like Lanny said, it's just not for me. I have nothing against it and it doesn't make me squeamish but I just don't want to do it and don't feel it is necessary - Ella is just perfect and has been on formula all her life.

As for the 'bond' nonsense that breastfeeding terrorists will force down your throat - I have an absolutely amazing relationship with Ella as does her dad and I was bottle fed and have a great relationship with both my parents as were my brothers and sister.

Don't ask me why but I really thought you would be into breast feeding Annie lol

 

[Annie050408]

Oh god no! Lol!

I'm big into each to their own and all power to those who like it but I won't be told what I 'should' do by the 'breastfeeding preachers' who don't know anything about me or my baby. As for the baby doing better academically and emotionally as a result? Absolute tosh!

 

[Lacey's Mummy]

Totally agree with you Annie. I didn't bf both of mine and their perfectly healthy.

 

[Squeakz]

omg annie i agree with lanny i thought you would be a booby babe!!! however i agree with what you said. i have no interest in bfeeding joshua is perfectly happy and healthy and you dont get a greater bond from bfeeding. If you genuinely dont wanna do it then dont. I didnt want to for the exact same reasons you said - gives me unexplained heeby jeebies and i tried it and hated and resented every minute. id try it again but if it didnt work or i hated it again im just gonna stop.....the only reason i would try it (and prob only for a couple months max) is cos its free.......

saying that whenever my next one arrives if i think i dont wanna do it i wont. mw's/hv's make you feel shitty for ff (well mine did) but it was better for me and baby in the end and i would NEVER let them pressurise me in to doing what THEY want xx

 

[TORino]

I'm keeping an open mind on this one. I'd like to try it and see how I get on but if it doesn't work out I'm not gonna beat myself up about it.

 

[l_maclean]

I agree with TOR. Think I will give it a go - but if it doesnt happen, it doesnt - not the end of the world.

Although - one of my friends who's a nurse did mention that it can take a bit of effort at the beginning, but its worth it in the end.

xxx

 

[JJ Mum]

It was the SCBU nurses that put me off BF when i had my son, they were soooo over the top pushy about it, and then I expressed for a week for him, but after that had lasys grabbing my boob and shoving baby on it and it was all too much. I told them I wanted to change to bottle and they switched off and washed their hands of me, but it did mean we could leave scbu quicker! Didn't attempt it with my second for that reason and third went to scbu again and had no suck reflex , nose fed again, so bottle. Alot of my reasons to Bf this last time were cost and to do something that was natural and allowed me to feel like I did it the normal way ( I had 4 straight elective sections and no labour - so had hangups feeling a bit fraud like - unnatural mum) - I have now redressed the balance by BF in my head

I agree with your comments, whats right for one mum and baby is not right for the next and I think the midwifes would be better to support mums whichever way they choose and ease up on the pressure - mums have enougth pressure to be amazing super mums without that too

 

[BevG]

im gonna go for it cos my mum did it, and its free. mostly cos its free lol.

 

[rosey]

thanks for all your responses and i am glad thats its not only me who feels this way! i am now in two minds whether to feed formula or to express. hmmmmmmm

 

[littlemuffin]

I am going to give it a go, and see what happens. I would like the bond with the baby. But if someone says to me they are not going to do it, its there body and I can understand. You never know, I might not be able to, or the baby might not latch on correctly.

 

[JensBump]

I am going to give it a go but I have friends who said from the start no way - and it is a choice only you can make yourself - I would say that apart from it being free, the nappies are supposed to be better than bottlefed babies - but I do not know that from experience myself