Breastfeeding in front of family?

[cherelle]

I just wondered how we are all feeling about this and what everyone plans to do?

My mum is coming to stay for a few days when i have the baby as i live a 3 hour drive from home and i have no problem with just getting a boob out and feeding in front of her, but my OHs mum will be here a lot of the time and i dont know if im comfortable with just doing it in front of everyone.

When OHs family are here im going to feel so awkward when baby needs a feed i ill have to either ask if anyone in the room minds or go and sit in another room?

Its probably a silly thing to worry about ... am i the only one? x

 

[Constantstar]

I feel the same I'm prob excuse myself and sit in bedroom and feed baby if people r there x

 

[AugustMum]

I just flopped it out anywhere. I was nervous at first, but if you just go for it you'll see that noone will mind. Sometimes if I did feel a little sefl concious Id put a muslin over my shoulder so that it covered my boob and babies head, but I hated covering her as it just seemed a bit mean...you would this it were odd if you covered a baby that was bottle feeding. I did it in front of FOBs parents and grandparents and noone took much notice

Youll become more confident with it as you get used to it.

 

[snr1982]

I've been thinking about this as well. first time round i didnt mind and got it out everytime she wanted it. For some reason this time I'm like nope i cant do it think i will probably just excuse myself and go sit in another room to feed her.

 

[wookie]

I'm not worried about them feeling embarrassed but I know I will be...I don't mind so much doing it in front of friends or even strangers but family is a big no no for me..I'm not very close to my parents and there is no way I'm flashing my boobs at my MIL ..so I think I will just go to my bedroom or find a quiet spot when baby needs feeding and family is around.

 

[Kay1987]

If i can bf this time i'll b going into another room to do it. wouldnt mind in front of my family but OH's family definately not. Also OH's family can be a bit full on so will b using it as an escape for MY time with the baby alone. x

 

[Miss]

Tbh I will be using this time for time on my own or time with OH!

I have already told him that in the first few weeks if people are here I will going to feed upstairs in our bedroom and that he is welcome to come with me and lie there with us and wind her after feeding.

In the first few weeks the less stressed and eat up you get the better as far as I am concerned. Feeding times should always be relaxed and calm plus OH has decided his time is winding time going out of the way means no one is going to take his time away from him.

Selfish? Probably lol but it does not matter what others think girls, do what is right for you xx

 

[clairebear22]

I couldn't care less about the women on either side of the family, we all have boobs after all! I will however cover up in front of the men probably with a muslin. More to save their embrassament than mine lol. x

 

[Nanc]

I haven't thought about this till now Cherelle. I think I will excuse myself and go up to nursery or bedroom when my in laws are here or even my family... I don't mind in front of my mum and even my friends but would feel awkward in front of my brother or other family.

 

[xshauna_bazx]

I am not Breast feeding but if i was i would have the same worries...i am sure you will get used to it. Its natural after all xxx

 

[cherelle]

Thanks ladies youve made some good points. I think unless its just me and a friend or me and my mum i will go to another room to feed baby.

Its actually quite a nice thought that ill have time alone with the baby or just with him and my OH.

Although i guess i wont really know how i feel about it until the time comes x

 

[Lulu_Laroo]

If i can bf this time i'll b going into another room to do it. wouldnt mind in front of my family but OH's family definately not. Also OH's family can be a bit full on so will b using it as an escape for MY time with the baby alone. x

Sorry - I'm not quite in Tri 3 yet but was having a nose, and this is exactly how I feel. It's a perfect excuse to pop out of the room just for that quiet time with you and your little one. I plan on breastfeeding and will definitely not be doing it in front of anyone. x

 

[songbird]

When i had my daughter i lived with my exes family for the first 2 weeks.
Even though his mum was in the room when i gave birth i still didnt feel comfortable breast feeding in front of his mum, step dad and 16 year old brother so i used to go to our bedroom and it was so nice just sitting spending time with the baby alone. A lot of the time her dad would come and sit with me and it gave us time to be just the 3 of us and we could talk in private.
This time its just me and my daughter so i will be getting them out where i want in my house

 

[spice]

I hadn't even though about this! eeekkk now I don't know how I feel about it, as my OH's dad lives with us, due to the fact that he had a very serious heart attack and stroke at the beginning of last year. I'm hoping his general behaviour wont change, he spends most of his time in his room, in which case it wont be a problem getting my breast out as the only other person around will be my OH. my MIL and SIL are coming to visit around my due date though so i think while they are around I'll be going upstairs to our room! think I will make sure i have a muslin in the living room though just in-case I'm feeding and FIL comes downstairs!

 

[hopefulmummy]

Remember though, once baby is latched on there is no nipple visible and it's just flesh... I think I'll try get baby drinking under muslin cloth then will remove and be ok xx

 

[nmf1987]

my sil used to got into another room and think i will do the same. unless i manage to do it without flashing at everyone. i think you end up picking up some skills when it comes to being discreet with it. after all i dont want to have to worry to much if im out and about. xxx

 

[bethx]

Ive got one of the nursing covers to use around everyone but I will probably just go in another room infront of certain people. I just used a muslin with my son and it was fine so İ think once I get used to it again ill be fine with the nursing cover.. its really good as doesnt cover babys head but completely covers you

 

[Elfs Mummy]

In the end you just wont care i was really worried before i started feeding but after having countless medical proffesionals and others touch my boobs trying to get her to latch on i'll get my boob out in front of everyone. If baby needs feedieng then you will want to feed as quickly and as comfortably as possible. For the first few days i d in my room as i could only get comfy on the bed but now i'll feed anywhere xx

 

[purplehippy]

It didn't help my struggle with breastfeeding, having the world and their wife turning up every 5 minutes. Specially as I had to hand express and then suck it into a pipette type thing to feed her as well. Despite having expressed my wishes a few weeks ago regarding the 2 inset days my stepson will have, my OH has decided he will be staying with us. Well I've told him he can take him out during the day. And I can tell you now, during the evening and night, he can play in his room or on the computer upstairs as I'm not having my bedroom jumped about in, and I'm not having him sat there in the lounge watching the gogglebox til 9pm every night (he's 9, that's so wrong) - I need some time to establish the feeding and get rest and peace and quiet and sleep and SPACE.

When I have got the hang of it, then I shall be more comfortable doing it round people.

 

[flopsybunny]

I think I will be excusing myself and going elsewhere. To be honest, the thought oven even family seeing me breastfeeding makes me uncomfortable. I hope I can breastfeed as it is best for the baby - but the thought of it makes me feel awkward - especially as I am not small in that department!

Xx