first time round the rush of love I felt for Lydia was unbelievable. I cried every time I looked at her for at least 2 weeks after the birth - happy tears, tears of love.
I totally expected to be the same way when Alex was born...but I wasn't. I was just very matter of fact when he came. "Right he's born now, lets get on with it" type of thing.
I didn't dislike him or anything, I just didn't feel an instant bond. I felt so guilty that I didn't get the same rush with him.
I had a touch of baby blues after my second birth though so that didn't help matters really. It about 2-3 weeks before I stopped feeling sorry for myself.
Every day that went by though, I bonded more and more with Alex, and the love grew and grew. By the time a few months had passed, the love I felt for both of them was just the same. Now I look at both of them and I'm overwhelmed by how much I love them. I couldn't choose between them at all, I love them both like crazy.
So my advice is that you shouldn't necessarily EXPECT to feel the same rush of love with the second, because if it doesn't happen you'll be disappointed, but that doesn't mean that you won't love them both, even if it takes a little longer second time round, it WILL happen.
Then again you might get that same rush second time round. Just because it didn't happen to me, doesn't mean it won't to you! Some other women obviously do get it the same way the second time round.
I have no expectations this time round. Either I'll feel that rush of love straight away, or I wont, and it will take a little longer. It doesn't really matter.