bit of a lull

[MayBMore]

Hey up ladykins

I'm not sure if anyone else is in the same boat as me...I've been back at work full-time for 2 weeks following my mat leave and my o/h is looking after our 11 month old every day whilst I'm at work. He is self employed so working on my days off and it's like we are passing ships in the night at the moment.

We keep laughing at each other for competing with who's the most tiredest.. also bickering over who is getting up in the night/whose on the morning shift with our little lady, etc god it's hard work isn't it!! We are too shattered to have any time together!

How do you lot cope? I'm aiming to go part-time soon so we can share the load equally, can't wait for that

 

[KatR]

Oh Stacey, I know how you feel, I am in a slightly different situation but I know what it's like when you find it hard to connect. You will get into the swing of things soon you'll see. I started work (full time) when LO was 9 months old and I found it hard to give away the childcare responsibility. She is looked after by a childminder and she actually loves it which makes it easier for me. I can't believe it's been 6 months already since I hgave been back. It gets better, you'll see. I feel for you.

 

[Mrs M]

I've been back at work around 10 months, I can't quite believe it's actually been that long!

I don't know how you ladies cope having to work full time! I feel like there is no time for me/us and I only do 3 days! There's always something else that needs to be done, rather than sitting with dh to watch a film or something! Tonight I have a pile of ironing almost as tall as me!

We're getting some work done on the house in 2 weeks, so every room needs to be tidy as they will need access and it's a family friend who is doing it, so I would be embarrassed if it was a mess! So I've got all that to do too!!

 

[MayBMore]

Thank you lovely Kat and Mrs M xx

The world of work and family life are such different entities - I think it takes some getting used to after having a year off! I've gone back to an especially difficult time at work and immediately hit with a wall of stress (my team mates are going through big changes (NHS) so I have gone into fix-it mode with that- and it's temporarily taken over my energy levels).

What I'm starting to realise now is that I also have other massive priorities in my own personal life, it's not just about work anymore like it used to be, before I was a mum. I'll be reducing my hours as soon as I can so things will balance out then and my o/h and I wont be so cream crackered.

Thank you for the re-assurance Kat I was just thinking today about childcare options and I'd like her to be socialising with other children more too (I was taking her to playgroups every week when off but my o/h isn't into all that).

Hey do I get to wear a wonder woman outfit yet?.....hehee xx

 

[KatR]

No doubt you have earned your WW outfit, I have been wearing mine since November 2013 and it fits perfectly. what a goof...

It sounds like it will be best for your future plans to be part time as planning further family will not be easy if your are stressed. I know it's easier said than done but try not to be everybody's crutch as you can only do so much.