birthing partners

[sexyamy2005]

hi ladies,

iv allways said i only want my hubby with me when i have the baby, partly cos i cant be coping with my mum there (she had a stroke a yr ago and that sounds really harsh but she is completly different and can snap and change into a REALLLY nasty person for no reason now, and the fact she has decided to develop ocd on cleaning and it drives me crazY!!)

and i dont want my oh's mum there, cos i get on with her really well (cheesy as that sounds) but i kinda cant describe it to why i dont really want her there, she hasnt offered so i dont feel like im hurting her feelings, but i just dont really want her to see my bits,lol

so...

can i have just my hubby there, or is it advisable to have 2 birthing partners, i guess i could ask my best friend who is a trainee nurse cos she would be fantastic, but yet again, i kinda dont want her there,

oh sugesested SIL (his little sis who had a baby last-yr) cos she is good for moral support and can say i think this helped etc, but i sound horrible here i kno, i just dont really want anyone besides my hubby there other than medical peoples,

does this sound crazy?

anyone else just had there bf or hubbys there and found it was best or regretted it at all?

thank u for any help!!

xxx

 

[Annie050408]

God yes, of course it's ok! I am only having dh there as I don't want anyone else seeing my bits and also because we feel this is our moment when we become a family for the first time and we want to keep that moment to ourselves. X

 

[flexilexi394]

Hey!
I'm having just my fiancé there and no one else from family or anything. I agree, it's kinda the start of my own family. I may not tell people I've gone into labour and just tell when baby is born as I don't want MIL or anyone camping out at hospital while I'm in labour! Sounds wierd but that's what they would do, and I'm a very private and protective person, I know I will be on this occasion particularly! Hope that helps you fee better about your decision! Xx

 

[NicciLove]

My mum was meant to be my other birthing partner but she booked a holiday (how selfish! hehe) so now i'm only having my OH and I feel fine about it.

I think its quite nice just to have you and your partner like Annie says its the start of your little family

 

[Lacey's Mummy]

I'm having my OH and my mum just because Tim was hopeless last time! He's not good with blood or anything like that and mum was with me when I had Lacey too and she really encouraged me through each contraction. Of course you can have just one partner though too!

 

[MrsR]

I'm only having my OH there because he knows what I'm like! Lol! It's completely up to you though and what you feel comfortable with! My sister was with me for DD's birth and was great but she randomly invited my mother to join us-until I told her to get the eff out of my room-harsh maybe but I did not want her there!

 

[isobel84]

im only having OH there cuz thats my and OHs moment :Love: together we are bringing our son in to the world

 

[serenitylove]

im having my best friend as im single and my mum if it during the day i want 2 because when i was having my dd mum went home at 4 in the morning after being told it would be hours for some sleep and i ended up having emerg c sec alone half hour later nobodys fault but im terrified of being alone again

 

[inky]

I was only intending to have OH there, but my mum asked if she could come and I'm no good at saying no! I was thankful for her being there in the end cos when it started going pear shaped she was a real rock, whereas OH just didn't know what to do or how to cope when he felt so useless, so not only was she strong for me, but she was strong for him too. I spent the last few weeks worrying about her seeing 'the business end' but to be honest once it got going I didn't give a damn who saw it lol!

 

[Princess81]

If and when time comes I would only really want o/h there with my mum as back up. His mum would be a disaster, we get on really well but she admits herself that she would be less than useless
My sister would be rubbish, SIL would probably be better but I wouldn't want her down at the business end really
Cos my O/h is very rarely here I would really need to have my mum round (she lives in england tho) so she would need to come over round due date to be here in case.

 

[sexyamy2005]

aww thanks ladies,

i feel much better bout it just being us now, specially like you all said, its the start of our little family,

oooh getting excited now

xxx

 

[K&A]

same here.. Im having OH and my mum but i believe its whoever you feel comfortable having with you.. There's enough to deal with at the time so you should be as happy as possible during this time x

 

[x_MrsE_x]

I had my ex and my mum with me when i went into labour first time round, glad i had my mum as she dont take no s*** from anyone and if they didnt listen to me (i was only 19) i knew my mum would step in as ex wouldnt say boo to a goose, if i was to have a natural birth this time round i would only have OH!

 

[beth1234]

Im single too - and having bumps dad there would be an actual nightmare for me! We dont get on enough for me to feel comfortable with him there,sooo my mums gunna be there.
She was last time and i wanna say she was a big help - but i cant remember haha but i do know that i wanna stay active this time and i know my mum really tried to get me to move around last time so i know she will this time.

Oh, iv also told her not to look at my bits!!! Haha

X

 

[FebMum2Be]

I had my OH and my sister chose from the start (me and her are very close).. Me and OH hadn't a clue, and she had went through labour with no pain relief so I felt like she could talk me through things as and when they were happening.. My OH has type 1 diabetes and was throwing up the day before my labour and on the big day! I had to send him home to get some kip because he was grey god love him.. I was so glad I had my sister there with me, when he came back he was in and out of the loo (when his blood sugar level isn't right it can also make him drowsy and unaware of some things that are happening, sugar wasn't getting into his system because of the vomiting).. So I was so lucky to have my sister there with me, when she was in labour she only had her OH, and my brother is the only one going to be present at his childs birth next month.. A lot of people prefer it this way.. But with my OH's diabetes and nerves of course I think I will always have someone on call or in along with us xx