Bad mum

[Ella1979]

I feel like a really bad mum right now. Just to give a bit of context - my kids have been ill on and off for the last few months; my dad caught a cold off my son which developed into pneumonia (he'd already had cancer treatment last year); I've now been ill for 6 weeks or so with cold, cough, sinusitis and to top it all, an ulcerated tongue, apparently due to some viral thing.

Today, I decided to do a new recipe for lunch. I almost didn't because I'm so damn tired, but I thought about the fresh ingredients I'd bought and decided to go ahead. It took most of this morning and my daughter especially got fed up with me being out in the kitchen (we have a tiny kitchen, so it's difficult to get her to help much at the moment). Anyhow, after a few hours sorting this meal, I bring it out only to have my son (16 months) start to eat it then spit it out and my daughter (3) wouldn't even bother trying it...

Well, I completely lost my temper. I'm so fed up and I got so cross and upset that my daughter wouldn't even bother trying what I'd made. They both ended up in tears as well and my son looked really shocked that I was angry (I don't think he's seen me angry before). I apologised to them for being cross and gave them a couple of packet meals I had in the cupboard. I still feel horrible about the whole thing

 

[OMGbabyno3]

Sorry you feel rubbish.

It definitely takes its toll being ill. I know how frustrating it is when kids wont try food. If mine won't try anything they don't get an alternative. It's a different story if I've taken a gamble with something new and they try it and don't like it. If they refuse, then I don't give in.

It doesn't mean your a bad mum, just having one of those days xx

 

[MrsS143]

Dont feel bad
Its human to snap at times
Youve said sorry
But doesn't change the fact she wouldn't even bother trying lol
I'd be pretty mad too!
Its commendable you tried even though youre feeling so rubbish x

 

[littlemonkey]

Don't feel bad, it's happened to us all before now. I ended up having a blazing row with my husband in Asda the other day and I was devestated when I saw how our son reacted to seeing me angry. It upset me more than what I'd been arguing about!

Just have a big snuggly day with them all!

 

[CARNAT22]

Please don't beat yourself up about this.

We all have moments when we are pushed to the edge and as long as it's not an everyday occurrence the kiddies won't hold it against you.

James is a fussy monster and I am glutton for punishment as I still waste my time, effort and money trying new stuff out on him. It is incredibly frustrating but I'm used to it now.

X

 

[Ella1979]

Thanks everyone. It's been a hell of a day. We had lots of cuddles this afternoon. I still want them (particularly her, as he's a bit too young to understand) to know that it's not ok just to reject food without trying it. Quite looking forward to going to work tomorrow!!! xx

 

[Kay Kay]

I have cried a little bit myself on the occasions where I've worked hard on a meal for my lo and he wont even try it. Not full on crying but tears have sprung to my eyes through sheer frustration and disappointment. It's only natural and certainly doesn't make you a bad mum xxx

 

[littlemonkey]

Thanks everyone. It's been a hell of a day. We had lots of cuddles this afternoon. I still want them (particularly her, as he's a bit too young to understand) to know that it's not ok just to reject food without trying it. Quite looking forward to going to work tomorrow!!! xx

I think it drives every parent mad to face that!

I offered my son one of my posh finest hot cross bun the other day, just to be met with face pulling and 'nononono'. Only to be told by the childminder yesterday he'd flipping scoffed two at her house in one day

 

[Rooster30]

Try not to worry. I completely snapped at my son the other day simply for ignoring me and being a mischevious one. I'm 37 weeks pregnant and my tiredness was overwhelming me. I asked him about five time to come to me for a nappy change and he heard but chose to ignore... anyway I shouted in the end and felt so so horrible afterwards.

Anyway, I apologised afterwards said mummy shouldn't have shouted, but she was frustrated because you ignored her and gave him a big cuddle etc etc Two minutes after the grovelling apology he reached up to the table and pulled off a placemat complete with a full glass of drink and geez, well he had another telling off. I had to put him in another room so I could cry. The day had gotten too much for me.

I told my OH and mum about it and they reassured me that sometimes it's okay to shout as long as it isn't a regular occurrence. My son does ignore us often, and we usually just chase him and pick him up. They both said he probably needed a bit of a shock to realise he can't keep ignoring is when it suits him.

Anyway, going off track. Don't feel too bad, it happens to the best of us. Kiddies are very very testing!

 

[Emily0505]

AWW hun

You're only human.

I'll be every single parent on this forum has at some point lost their temper with their little one's and shouted at them. Cam can be a right little pain in the ease! I love the bones of him but my God sometimes he pushes my buttons! Discipline is important though and sometimes a telling off is the only way to get through to him. I just make sure that it's balanced with loads of praise for the right thing.

XX